New to erotic writing, looking for a womans input.

[Ataglance30]

Hello all, call me Glance 30 straight m usa. I'm new to this but have a few ideas I'd like to toy with. Now I just need a womans perspective to go along with mine. Any ladies willing to help?

 

[KeithD]

Such uncontexted posts (no indication of topics to be written or evidence that you write at all) usually get treated as come-on personal ads. Think your best approach is to write and post some stories to Literotica to show this is what you really are interested in and then ask if any women writers want to coauthor with you.

 

[Ataglance30]

Ok will do thanks, like I said I'm new to lit

 

[Hypoxia]

Ok will do thanks, like I said I'm new to lit

Read the threads here at Author's Hangout (except the games) and over at Story Ideas for a feel of the dynamics of LIT authorship. Read the top stories (except endless serials) in your favored categories for a feel for what readers want. And keep asking questions. Welcome to the funny farm! Careful where you step -- it gets messy here.

 

[ChloeTzang]

Ok will do thanks, like I said I'm new to lit

Good luck and have fun. You’re best bet is just to write without worrying about a co author or help. Writings largely an individual pursuit and we all have different interests. Just write what you want and you’ll get better with practice and s bit of study if you’re that interested.

And welcome to the Authors Hangout. You’ll find threads here on most things and if you don’t, just ask.

 

[yukonnights]

Good luck and have fun. You’re best bet is just to write without worrying about a co author or help. Writings largely an individual pursuit and we all have different interests. Just write what you want and you’ll get better with practice and s bit of study if you’re that interested.

And welcome to the Authors Hangout. You’ll find threads here on most things and if you don’t, just ask.

I just want to second Clhoe's advice. I have written with other people and it is much, much more difficult to get the two 'muses' into alignment than you might imagine. Not only in the flow of the work, but in the phrasing and the emotions you want to show and in which direction you want to lead the reader.

Perhaps a better approach would be to write what you feel. Then seek out a female editor or beta reader to give you some feedback before publishing it. In fact, I'm doing just such a thing for a female writer here who is writing a gay male piece. She's a great writer, just wanted some insight on how guys really feel and think. As it turns out, we all have similar basic traits that drive our sexuality...just minor details in how we express them. (and here, I should clarify that I'm speaking in terms of a broad spectrum of sexual expression, not just the heterosexual; he Tarzan she Jane model.)

 

[ElectricBlue]

I just want to second Clhoe's advice. I have written with other people and it is much, much more difficult to get the two 'muses' into alignment than you might imagine. Not only in the flow of the work, but in the phrasing and the emotions you want to show and in which direction you want to lead the reader.

Third that advice. I've written several collaborative stories, but both writers need some mileage under their belts before they embark on it, I reckon. As others have said, get your own writing and your own style established first, before you try something harder.

 

[NotWise]

Hello all, call me Glance 30 straight m usa. I'm new to this but have a few ideas I'd like to toy with. Now I just need a womans perspective to go along with mine. Any ladies willing to help?

Assuming that you aren't just trying to set up online sex, you might be overthinking the lady's point of view.

I had that need when I first came here a few years ago. I don't recall posting to ask for a woman's input, but I was totally looking for it.

The main thing I learned (I should have known) was that a complete turn-on for one is a turn-off for another. You might get meaningful feedback, or you might get an answer that resonates with one woman, and that's all.

The second thing I learned is that the opinion of women on this forum is often very different from the opinions expressed on more broad-based (convenient pun, but not intended) forums. The women here are into erotica, and that might put them in the minority.

If you're around for a while and get to know some of the women in the forum, then you can get some nice insights. That takes a little time.

Build your characters; make them real as you understand them. You'll get readers -- but only if you write the story.

 

[Ataglance30]

Thank you all for the great advice! You're indeed correct that I just need to write. Thanks for making me feel welcome!!

 

[TxRad]

Thank you all for the great advice! You're indeed correct that I just need to write. Thanks for making me feel welcome!!

Stop in at the AH coffee shop. I make a mean cup of virtual coffee and the discussions are wide ranging and various. We even discuss writing occasionally.

 

[MelissaBaby]

Want to write good female characters? Read female writers.

 

[Ataglance30]

Haha good point Melissa! I guess ill start with yours!

 

[ChloeTzang]

Want to write good female characters? Read female writers.

I was just going to add that. There are thousands of women out there writing and my guesstimate is about 70-80% of the are writing women’s romances. If you want an insight into women, read those. They’re popular for a reason.

 

[Jada59]

I have attempted to write with people I don't know. Always a fail.

 

[TarnishedPenny]

I agree with the above.

There is however something to be said for a writer of one sex asking specific questions of the other sex. Things like, oh, do women/men really enjoy giving head? Is it just about giving the other person pleasure or is there more to it than that? Or, do any women actually get an orgasm from being spanked? Why do so many men like anal so much? (No, I'm not in this case looking for answers to these, thanks - just 'for instances'.)

It's a chance to challenge/verify long-standing myths and broaden your viewpoint. Such insights, by helping you understand the other sex, can help make your stories more realistic, more enjoyable.

But, in general, writing has to be learned learned the same way that a cat learns to swim.

 

[MelissaBaby]

Haha good point Melissa! I guess ill start with yours!

I'd be honored.

 

[MelissaBaby]

But, in general, writing has to be learned learned the same way that a cat learns to swim.

Howling and scratching?

 

[gunhilltrain]

Want to write good female characters? Read female writers.

As Faulkner would have it, read all writers. A lot of fiction references in some way, however obliquely, sex and love. Madame Bovary was a pretty hot novel for 1857.

However, and I mean no disrespect to the other writers here, don't try to imitate the other stories on the site. Try to figure out your own approach. (I know that sounds paradoxical perhaps.)

 

[jehoram]

I put my two cents in on this subject a few years ago when I wrote "The Right Editor:"

https://www.literotica.com/s/the-right-editor

But I agree that it's tough to find such a person. I really lucked out when Athalia and I decided to edit each other's stories. What you might do, instead of looking for an editor per se, is to look for a female beta reader. It could be any woman who posts stories here that might want a beta reader herself. It doesn't hurt to ask, and you might get lucky, too.