New Sub Help!

[Slaveboy909]

Hey Litsters,
I've recently started exploring the on-line BDSM community and have been lucky enough to find a Mistress. My Mistress has requested daily emails but I'm not sure what to write in them. So can anyone give some advice/tips I'd like to get all view points so Subs what you would write and Dom(me)s what you would expect. Thank you in advance!

 

[desertslave]

I used to write Master sort of an open journal. Some bits were just highlights of my normal day, some parts thoughts about us and our journey together.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

The very first thing that I would expect would be an email asking for clarification of what I expected in the daily emails I required.

A bunch of random strangers on the internet can't tell you what SHE is looking for.

 

[Slaveboy909]

I used to write Master sort of an open journal. Some bits were just highlights of my normal day, some parts thoughts about us and our journey together.

But I feel like my everyday life is too boring.

 

[Slaveboy909]

The very first thing that I would expect would be an email asking for clarification of what I expected in the daily emails I required.

A bunch of random strangers on the internet can't tell you what SHE is looking for.

Good point, but it can give me a great idea of where to start.

 

[Evil_Geoff]

Good point, but it can give me a great idea of where to start.

It might give you a "great place to start." YOUR great place and HER great place may not even be in the same country, let alone same zip code.

As someone else here said, asking the posters at BDSM Talk is a great way to help you figure out what in the world YOU are looking for. We're a suck ass way to figure out what some other specific individual wants or needs. Ask us about general questions. Ask you partner(s) about his/her specific wants, needs, desires.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Ask your mistress what she wants you to write about.
Thing about BDSM? YOU have to take responsibility for what you want. You have to communicate.

Yes, even subs.

 

[lildee]

First

you should write a detailed account of every masturbation fantasy you've had as far back as you can remember. Don't hold anything back, on the contrary, explore them, explain them, interpret them. If the boyfriends I had along the way are anything to go by, that should provide you with a long-ish email every day from now until about 2025.

Then check back with us.

 

[Ruth12]

Look good

 

[Netzach]

Bear in mind, when the going gets tough the weird go pro....like me...so that's part of my perspective, and I'm often trading these kinds of communications with new people, but trading them I am. This is my perspective, but Geoff is right - just asking is probably the way to go - I'd probably tell my guys "dive in and I'll let you know if I want something else," though, because I expect initiative and problem solving from my guys.

I tend to make people write to me, because it's very wth unless they do. I show a lot of myself in my sites, and basically everywhere other than here because Lit is my blow off steam land - and what happens is that a boy has worked himself into an obsession by the time we're in contact, and I know very little about what he's about.

Mainly I want to know who people are. What their formative sexual and non sexual experiences are. What their talents are. What they're afraid of, as it gets more intimate - what they're into when they're forced to scrape the bottom of their conscious minds with the usual "I'm into" - surely there's some level of interestingness to be mined.

I'm also a bit narcissistic, and I like to hear why I'm the best most fantastic Goddess ever to walk the planet, in addition to the mere fact of my awesome. Spend time on that in any genuine way, not just making the appropriate noises, and you've got my attention.

 

[Cipher]

Hey Litsters,
I've recently started exploring the on-line BDSM community and have been lucky enough to find a Mistress. My Mistress has requested daily emails but I'm not sure what to write in them. So can anyone give some advice/tips I'd like to get all view points so Subs what you would write and Dom(me)s what you would expect. Thank you in advance!

I had an online sub for awhile until he got deployed, i expected him to email me daily updates on what he was doing at bootcamp, what he was ready to do for and to me, and why i should even allow him the privledge.

Even when the emails were "boring" or he was bothered by something in RL, we talked things out normally. I find that making sure subs know i'm not only their Mistress, i'm also a friend, seems to make them more comfortable with the tasks i expect.

 

[Slaveboy909]

Thanks to everyone the advice really helped! Next time I have a question I know who I'm asking!

 

[Beck31]

Hmm. I know my Mistress expects me to email/call her every other day which I do. Even when I don't really feel like it. As a sub it is YOUR duty to keep the lines of communication with your misstress open. Failing to do so can spell disaster. From personal experience it is best to keep your mistress up to date.
Even if it is just what you have done that day or evening. One thing you defintly don't want to do is piss her off. Hope that and the others helps. Also
patience is an important element. Especially if you plan to interact with your new mistress on a daily business.

 

[HottieMama]

My Domme has been away on a family emergency since last Wednesday afternoon. I have been sending her a daily email just basically giving her the details of my day that were too long or too "silly" to take up our precious little texting/talking time... Kind of like a running journal...

In your situation, I would ask what she wanted in the daily emails and then cater your writing towards that.

 

[Beck31]

Not sure which one you are replying too. Sorry if I rwp. This MB does not have a nest view. For me my mistress wants a daily status report. Like who I have talked to. If I have been keeping up with my daily regiment.