New relationship/ small cock

[Lyrica2]

I am in a really new relationship with a man I truly enjoy. He is funny, and smart and treats me like a princess and I can see a possible future here. We are both in our 50s and have both been in good and bad relationships, we are not youngsters. Here is my problem, we have recently been engaging in play and I have discovered he is smallish. This has been my one and only concern and is not even close to a deal breaker. I want to be very very careful with this man's ego, but I also have tried and true toys that can give me other kinds of enjoyment. At what point, and how, do I bring this into our play?

 

[Rozalin_0123]

I firmly believe that honesty works best. Explain your situation, making it about you require very deep penetration, not that his size is inadequet. Does he get off during sex? If so, tell him you'd like to experiment with some toys after he has gotten off, make it out like you're just still super horny, not unsatisfied. Once you've eased into the subject, its possible you may want to try penis extentions, they are sold at most adult stores. They are basically a sythethic dong that slides onto the penis, making it wider as well as having a longer tip.

Bottom line; be honest. If a man cares about you, he will put asside his ego for your happiness. Hope this helps

 

[FGB]

What are you calling "very small"?

I went to High school with a Hottie who clearly and in a loud voice stated to a good size crowd that if a guy didn't have twelve inches or more not to waste her time asking for a date.

Well!

That left me and at least three quarters of the males there out!

 

[Asshungry]

I am in a really new relationship with a man I truly enjoy. He is funny, and smart and treats me like a princess and I can see a possible further here. We are both in our 50s and have both been in good and bad relationships, we are not youngsters. Here is my problem, we have recently been engaging in play and I have discovered he is very small. This has been my one and only disappointment and is not even close to a deal breaker. I am however, a women that needs very hard deep penetration in order to have a really satisfying O, and it just isn't capable, through fucking. I want to be very very careful with this man's ego, but I also have tried and true toys that can give me that satisfaction. At what point, and how, do I bring this into our play?

If he cares as much for you as you do for him, he will be willing to do whatever is needed to pleasure you. At 50+ he is aware of his limitations and probably has developed other means to pleasure a woman. Be a little patient and see what he has to offer in other ways but you must share with him what you need also. Being in the same age group we dont have the luxury of youths time to figure new lovers out. You both know what works for each of you, share that knowledge and have some fun.

 

[Aphro]

Does he have fingers?

If so...then you should be okay to go.

My best O's come from fingers, not cock. I'm sure if you do some experimentation, you will find he can manage the task just fine.

Congratulations and enjoy!

 

[smoothpetrous69]

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[silverwhisper]

lyrica, i think that you owe it to both of you to have a conversation in a non-sexual context about sexual pleasure. as the others said: at 50ish, he knows (presumably) how to give pleasure.

the real question is: is that enough? and if not, can this be made to work?

ed

 

[Lyrica2]

lyrica, i think that you owe it to both of you to have a conversation in a non-sexual context about sexual pleasure. as the others said: at 50ish, he knows (presumably) how to give pleasure.

the real question is: is that enough? and if not, can this be made to work?

ed

Thank you all...I appreciate all the kind and sensitive responses. He is a keeper and treats me with such amazing admiration, very new to me.

Yes, we can work it out, I just wanted to tread lightly. We are going away together and I asked if it was to early to bring toys. His face lite up and he was happy with that. We will, I am sure, have a conversation this weekend.

A, he has amazing fingers and mouth and yes it is very good. No complaints, only praise!

 

[NippleMuncher]

We will, I am sure, have a conversation this weekend.

A, he has amazing fingers and mouth and yes it is very good. No complaints, only praise!

And you've just found your lead-in to your conversation with him.

As was said, he is well aware of his endowment, and has likely spent the better part of his 50 years making sure that it doesn't get in the way of great, fulfilling sex. You might want to give the sex portion of your relationship just a little bit of time before you talk to him being unable to fulfill your needs. It just might be possible that his expertise can give you many an O without the pounding of a big cock.

The way you say he lit up when you mentioned bringing toys on your trip is also an indicator that he may be willing to do anything for your needs.

At any rate, whenever you do have this conversation with him, just make sure that you highlight all his good points before bringing up his endowment.

 

[Lyrica2]

And you've just found your lead-in to your conversation with him.

As was said, he is well aware of his endowment, and has likely spent the better part of his 50 years making sure that it doesn't get in the way of great, fulfilling sex. You might want to give the sex portion of your relationship just a little bit of time before you talk to him being unable to fulfill your needs. It just might be possible that his expertise can give you many an O without the pounding of a big cock.

The way you say he lit up when you mentioned bringing toys on your trip is also an indicator that he may be willing to do anything for your needs.

At any rate, whenever you do have this conversation with him, just make sure that you highlight all his good points before bringing up his endowment.

That is why I asked here. I want to make sure his ego is nice a secure...and honestly, he might bRing it up.

 

[suckonsimon]

Just a possibility to keep in mind, Lyrica, as your relationship develops: there are one or two of the herbal tonics out there which really do a man's equipment good. Ok, the overstated claims which were made by some a few years ago, about growth in length, were lies. But toning up and firming up and yes thickening up, especially for guys in 40s 50s who are wanted shall I say frequently, good stuff.

My personal recommendation? Vigrx plus. Not cheap, but for me worth it. The thing is, suggesting it doesn't need to be about 'size'; it can honestly be about enhancement for a new lease of sexual experience.

Anecdodal: I never gave my woman of many years three separate full-on orgasms off one continuous fuck until I was on this stuff.

... for what it's worth. Si.

 

[Que]

Thank you all...I appreciate all the kind and sensitive responses. He is a keeper and treats me with such amazing admiration, very new to me.

Yes, we can work it out, I just wanted to tread lightly. We are going away together and I asked if it was to early to bring toys. His face lite up and he was happy with that. We will, I am sure, have a conversation this weekend.

A, he has amazing fingers and mouth and yes it is very good. No complaints, only praise!

Done and done.

If he is ok with toys, simply introduce them and he has to notice that they
are larger than he is.

Although I took it as high praise when my ex went alone into an adult shop to buy our first toy and she came out with one the same size, shape and color as me....there was a (probably unrealistic) idea in my head that she was going to grab some porn-star huge monstrosity.

Even at 50 he is probably aware of the interwebs and the porn that i have heard can be found there...he has seen, and likely enjoyed some insertion type stuff.

Any commentary I would limit to discussing the toy in its inanimate sense unless HE animates it by referring it to it as a cock or encourages your naming of it or other signs.

"Oh, I LIKE the way this toy reaches into me so deep" as if you, personally are unaware that there ARE penii extant in the world that might perform such a function.

Over time you will find how he feels about his size...and whether he might enjoy thinking about you with a larger fellow whilst delighted with him as a human being.

A friend from so called real life had had a baby with her feller, and he seemed to withdraw...I advised since he was open to toy play and was aware of and enjoyed the idea that she watched porn and masturbated independently that she take to leaving a toy out as a signal that she had been horny, took the pressure off him, but be clear she is always up for it if he is.

I created a monster PLUS it ended up me NOT working my way into being her sidepiece when sadly, it worked.

He now PREFERS using toys on her, and likes to talk about it as if she is a wanton that is insatiably slutty. She doesn't think he wants to make his threesome talk a reality, but one can dream.

That is why I asked here. I want to make sure his ego is nice a secure...and honestly, he might bring it up.

....you said "bring it UP!" ~giggle~

 

[Aphro]

He now PREFERS using toys on her, and likes to talk about it as if she is a wanton that is insatiably slutty.

Seriously? He prefers to use toys on her? Hmmmm.

Lyrica2, it sounds like you may be in for an AWESOME trip with your guy! Make sure you stop back in and tell us how it went...for research purposes you understand. Entirely innocent curiosity.

 

[suckonsimon]

Seriously? He prefers to use toys on her? Hmmmm.

Lyrica2, it sounds like you may be in for an AWESOME trip with your guy! Make sure you stop back in and tell us how it went...for research purposes you understand. Entirely innocent curiosity.

research ... splutter cough cough ... but what I really want to say, AD: you look very lovely, and charming, in your av Si.

 

[Lyrica2]

Seriously? He prefers to use toys on her? Hmmmm.

Lyrica2, it sounds like you may be in for an AWESOME trip with your guy! Make sure you stop back in and tell us how it went...for research purposes you understand. Entirely innocent curiosity.

hahaha, yes, he has planned lots of amazing things for me, beside the sexual ones!

 

[subwannabe]

From what I understand, most women do not have vaginal orgasms from penetration by a cock of any size. I'm average size and I don't believe that any of the women I have ever been with ever had an orgasm from penetration. They have, however, had many, many orgasms that they have enjoyed very much.

 

[dewitnow]

My experience

From what I understand, most women do not have vaginal orgasms from penetration by a cock of any size. I'm average size and I don't believe that any of the women I have ever been with ever had an orgasm from penetration. They have, however, had many, many orgasms that they have enjoyed very much.

I'm feeling blessed! My wife and I have had the best orgasms together while in the missionary position. Well, until I found this this website... Using these techniques I have been able to give her not only multiple orgasms but full body orgasms. Or "Big O" as it's called. In fact, last night was one of the best!
My wife and I are still in a state of shock! We are in our 40s and thought we had one of the best sex lives out there but OH BOY were we wrong! We are REALLY enjoying it now!!
Thanks to finding this thread;
http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892&page=01

 

[jaketen2001]

well

You may want to try anal, it will give you a deep and tight feeling with a smaller penis. And just mae him get good with his fingers and his tongue.

 

[Mr.G]

Ha

I've been doing some reading, saw this thread and dropped in to suggest:

http://forum.literotica.com/showthre...=70892&page=01

But doitnow beat me to it.

I am SO happy that the "techniques" described have helped improve the LOVE LIFE you and your woman are enjoying. It really does make a helluva difference huh? Most of the notes I get are from guys going "I never knew." (which is why I posted it in the first place) AND from the women I get, " Before sex was all about him and now it's about ME TOO and I can't get enough."


Yea!!!

 

[Lyrica2]

Wonderful weekend, good, but awkward discussion. I adore him, he adores me and you all were correct...he will do anything to make me happy....*sigh!

 

[Que]

Wonderful weekend, good, but awkward discussion. I adore him, he adores me and you all were correct...he will do anything to make me happy....*sigh!

Perfect.

Absolutely nothing wrong with having an awkward discussion if no one dies of embarrassment there from.

 

[silverwhisper]

lyrica, that's awesome! i'm really glad the conversation went well.

i've always found that unexpressed frustrations have a nasty way of getting themselves expressed in particularly suboptimal ways, myself.

ed

 

[dirtycarol]

I've been with guys that were small and enjoyed them very much, if they had the right attitude!