New Life As A Slave

[gentlelover]

Well, today I began my new life as a slave to my new mistress here in Pittsburgh. Today has been very testing to me in many ways. Both physically and mentally. I need some suggestions of how to get through my new life day to day. With punishment being an almost give in every few hours, it is very trying. I am used to managing people in my office, but my mistress says that I am now her total slave and must do as she says. From the contract that I signed, I am also to be chained to the floor at night so that I do not try to escape. Please give me some suggestions so that I may further accept my entry into this position. Thank You.

Slave

 

[Bondagebunni]

Well, today I began my new life as a slave to my new mistress here in Pittsburgh. Today has been very testing to me in many ways. Both physically and mentally. I need some suggestions of how to get through my new life day to day. With punishment being an almost give in every few hours, it is very trying. I am used to managing people in my office, but my mistress says that I am now her total slave and must do as she says. From the contract that I signed, I am also to be chained to the floor at night so that I do not try to escape. Please give me some suggestions so that I may further accept my entry into this position. Thank You.

Slave

let me know if i'm wrong here, but it seems like you're not enjoying yourself... i just felt the need to comment on that...i'll just shut up now cause i'm prolly wrong ^^;;

 

[silkee_A]

Sorry if I seem outspoken, but if you have to be chained to floor for the sole reason of "not escaping" then should you be there to begin with? As the previous poster said, you don't seem happy.

 

[bunny bondage]

*sniff sniff* anybody smell something?

 

[TxBelle]

*sniff sniff* anybody smell something?

Yeah and it's rotten... I think that's little hard core for someone who's inexpierienced. Maybe instead of asking advice this little sub wants to be told what to do and likes being told.

Huuummm I thought only real life relationships contained these kind of head games.

 

[lark sparrow]

A BDSM contract is not legally binding. If you are being held against your will, call 911 on a telephone - shouldn't be too hard as you seem to have internet access. Otherwise, enjoy and do some research.

 

[MissTaken]

Well, are you living together?

How long have you known one another?

Have you shared Activity and Interest checklists for purposes of discussion?

It sounds like she wants a slave. Is that what you want?

Even if it is, I am guessing that it may take some adjustment. Even after signing the contract and beginning your new life, be sure to communicate with your Mistress, your needs and desires and be open to her needs and desires.

Generally, getting involved in a slave/Mistress relationship isn't to be done lightly. Soemtimes, the Master/Mistress does know us better than we think. How do you feel about serving, punishment, being chained? Does it excite you? Does it meet your inner need for submission when she commends you? Do you feel best when reminded that you are "Hers?"

I look forward to ebony's input on this post.

 

[WriterDom]

Give her a left hook to the head, then kick her in the stomach. That should give you enough time to get out the door.

 

[bunny bondage]

use the power of the headbut

 

[UCE]

Well, today I began my new life as a slave to my new mistress here in Pittsburgh. Today has been very testing to me in many ways. Both physically and mentally. I need some suggestions of how to get through my new life day to day. With punishment being an almost give in every few hours, it is very trying. I am used to managing people in my office, but my mistress says that I am now her total slave and must do as she says. From the contract that I signed, I am also to be chained to the floor at night so that I do not try to escape. Please give me some suggestions so that I may further accept my entry into this position. Thank You.

Slave

I'm not sure why you're getting all this concern and also critique about the chained at night thing. My master has done something similar to me for 15 years and we both find it extremely erotic. (shrug) It works for us, and different strokes and all of that. Anyway, it seems the least of your problems.

Getting used to being a slave is a difficult process that usually takes years. It is much easier to do if one's master or mistress knows what she or he is doing and assists with the transition rather than making it harder. It's hard to tell what your mistress is like in this regard from your message. Say more, please. For example, do her commands radically effect your real-life work? You seem to be hinting that they do.

Unda

 

[silkee_A]

I just want to claify something. If my Master chose to chain me to the floor and it was for the purpose of his ownership over me, then I think it would be fine. I would not however, make a comment such as "slave" did. Being chainded to the floor seems not that involved in comparison to what else his/her Domme/Dom may choose to do. I was only showing concern, nothing more.. northing less.

silkee_A

 

[Cirrus]

Is this the same "mistress" that did nothing when you got that butt plug stuck?

I'm going to say IF this is real, then be afraid, be very afraid. You had free will when you moved in with her, leaving may not be so easy. Seems she's been reading to many Gor books.

 

[lovetoread]

Is this the same "mistress" that did nothing when you got that butt plug stuck?

I'm going to say IF this is real, then be afraid, be very afraid. You had free will when you moved in with her, leaving may not be so easy. Seems she's been reading to many Gor books.

What she said. She put it beautifully.

Its easy to be told to leave, its another to actually do it,though.

Talking about being a slave is one thing, actually living the life is another. Perhaps this life is not meant for you and you should step back and think about it more.

If its this hard on the first day, what happens in a week? A month? A year?

 

[Ebonyfire]

Well, today I began my new life as a slave to my new mistress here in Pittsburgh. Today has been very testing to me in many ways. Both physically and mentally. I need some suggestions of how to get through my new life day to day. With punishment being an almost give in every few hours, it is very trying. I am used to managing people in my office, but my mistress says that I am now her total slave and must do as she says. From the contract that I signed, I am also to be chained to the floor at night so that I do not try to escape. Please give me some suggestions so that I may further accept my entry into this position. Thank You.

Slave

I hope you read and understood the contract you signed first off.

Then the only advice Ihave for you to is obey your mistress, not any anonymous people on a porn site. If you have questions and concerns communicate them to the person who is responisible for you.. your mistress.

Ebony

 

[Bondagebunni]

Re: Re: New Life As A Slave

I'm not sure why you're getting all this concern and also critique about the chained at night thing. My master has done something similar to me for 15 years and we both find it extremely erotic. (shrug) It works for us, and different strokes and all of that. Anyway, it seems the least of your problems.

Getting used to being a slave is a difficult process that usually takes years. It is much easier to do if one's master or mistress knows what she or he is doing and assists with the transition rather than making it harder. It's hard to tell what your mistress is like in this regard from your message. Say more, please. For example, do her commands radically effect your real-life work? You seem to be hinting that they do.

Unda

i realize that some people find that activity erotic...however the way it was put, it sounded more like he was getting into something that he 1. didn't quite understand or 2. wasn't read for...i was just expressing my concern (as others have also done) that he didn't seem to be all that happy with the situation...if you don't find any joy in something like that, then why do it? If it's just a matter of him needing to hear from others in a similar situation, that's fine...i just wanted to make sure that he wasn't getting himself in over his head. As i put before, i may be wrong...but it just sounds like a not-so-safe situation.

 

[Rocket88]

Re: Re: Re: New Life As A Slave

...it just sounds like a not-so-safe situation.

What happens in case of a fire?


SSSSSSSSSSMOKIN'!!!!!

 

[Bondagebunni]

Re: Re: Re: Re: New Life As A Slave

What happens in case of a fire?


SSSSSSSSSSMOKIN'!!!!!

subbie flambe? Smoked Slave? Filet o bottom? Top choice? (cause that's what a top would eat? ok, that ones sucks.)

 

[Rocket88]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: New Life As A Slave

... Top choice? (...ok, that ones sucks.)

That was the best one.

 

[Bondagebunni]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: New Life As A Slave

That was the best one.

i liked the flambe one, myself.

 

[Hecate]

WARNING - rambling ahead

I shall not judge whether the initial post is a reality - it makes no difference for the emotions it struck up in me.
If it is a chosen real life situation I shall not condemn it even though this version of BDSM is not my version of BDSM.

That said, all I am going to spew, even though I shall use the initial post as "pointers" is strictly my personal take on BDSM and may not be reflecting the life choices of those who play more "extreme", of those who are more deeply immersed in their roles.

Well, today I began my new life as a slave to my new mistress here in Pittsburgh. Today has been very testing to me in many ways. Both physically and mentally. I need some suggestions of how to get through my new life day to day.

BDSM is not "nothing or all", BDSM is about needs and desires - BDSM is consensual, meaning it is about the wellbeing of BOTH parties involved. You can "test-run" BDSM, you know? A scene, a day, in and out of bedrooms ... pretty much everything goes on this journey of discovery. No need to subscribe to the lifelong full scheme right away!

BDSM is based on informed decisions, only then can they be safe and sane (if I read surprise now between the lines of what this new life indeed is made of - physically and mentally - I can not see where that informed decision enters.)

BDSM is challenging, for both, the Dominant and the submissive, but it should never be a matter of "how do I make it through the next day". BDSM relations are meant to fulfill needs that can not be met otherwise, but then it is not an ordeal.

BDSM MUST NOT EVER be used as a means to get into a relation, be taken care of and get laid without fully acknowledging the implications of such a type of relationship and embracing them as a concept that is suitable for one's own life.

With punishment being an almost give in every few hours, it is very trying.

Punishments are not the core issue of a BDSM relation. Punishments should (in their basic meaning) not bring joy to either party - that they are "mistaken" in play-settings is legitimate, but I do think this is not what we are about here.
Why are there punishments - why that many of them? Are you not complying? Are you not doing things right? Are those "punishments" punishments or educational reinforcements? And more than that - were they not an discussed part of the contract? Are they possibly caused due to a lack of conversation or (just a wild guess) a lack of experience and communication on the Dominant's side?

Punishment always (in my book anyway) is based on some kind of failure on the submissive's part - but if the number of punishable offences reaches a certain degree there needs to be a very close look into the "why":
- Have I not communicated my requirements clearly enough so that my sub can comply accordingly for lack of information?
- Am I asking things of my sub that are simply out of limits (physically or mentally) and I am not giving them any choice but failing me? And why on earth would I want to create that atmosphere of unworthyness?
- Are the punishments provoked by the sub (SAM) - and if so , why are unmet desires not propperly communicated?

I am used to managing people in my office, but my mistress says that I am now her total slave and must do as she says.

Slavery does not as a political concept exist in our western culture in these days anymore. You came into it on your free will - it is your choice to walk away from it again.
Again, reading the above makes me cringe in a few ways....
a) Why do some clever, obviously intelligent people on a professional level seem to become complete retards when in a D/s relation? I adore intelligent, clever submissives, who I can talk to , discuss, joke. I did not want a robot as submissive, I wanted a live person with exactly the personality of my submissive - this is why I chose to be with my pet.
b) Uhm - excuse me - you signed a slavery contract - what exactly did you think you were signing? On a side tangent - If she is not a selfish bitch person and you are the proverbially "plucked goose" she should not demand things from you that will endanger your morality and integrity. That is not BDSM, that is plain abuse (even if not physical maybe at least mental/psychological)

From the contract that I signed, I am also to be chained to the floor at night so that I do not try to escape.

Again - to me BDSM is a complementing affair - as soon as one party doesn't want to be where they are it is time to change the situation. Just the thought of needing physical means to "avoid escape" of a person who free willed based their life in my care seems totally absurd. If it is a turn-on scene, fine, chain away all you want, but then don't complain about it .... same goes for forced feminization, or the handing-over of ID, bank accounts and other such vital documents.

Again on the topic of contracts - you sign it , you must know what it is about! A contract is not meant to "sell a sub body and soul to the Dominant" , a contract is a means of communication, clarification and assurance of each parties duties and rights. Again we are back to informed (to be sane and safe) and consensual decisions.

If BDSM and the according life circumstances make you miserable then run - fast and far! There is no shame in not liking something you thought you might want - there is no defeat in acknowledging that one person's BDSM is not another person's BDSM, that full scale 24/7 slavery is not the same as occasionally kinky bedroom fun.

Please give me some suggestions so that I may further accept my entry into this position. Thank You.
Slave

I know I shall hate myself for this but there may be the one or other person out there caught in a trap so here goes (strictly may opinion and how I could imagine dealing with the situation)

- Set a detailed list of hard limits and a date as to when those could be revised and communicate this to your Dominant - should this not be accepted then run!

- Set a time limit in which you will strictly try to comply with whatever is asked of you (as long as within your limits). Look at it like a work schedule - focus on the task at hand without too much "around psychology". E.g. if it is your job to collect money of late payers, then you have to do it without letting it come too close to you on a personal level, or if you have to sack people or if you have other not so nice tasks on your desk. Try to go with the flow for the preset amount of time (can be anything starting from 2 hours to 2 days to a week or a month) and after that period look inside and ask yourself how you feel about it. Were it a job, would you want to give notice? If the answer is Yes - try to renegotiate - if that is not accepted - run!

- Be aware that all new things will be demanding in the beginning. Do not despair about not being perfect in the beginning - try hard, don't give up too soon. If though after a time the situation is not improving and the demands are continuously upsetting you physically and a mentally - run!

- If you realize it is not making you a happy, balanced and better person GO! You don't own anyone anything that precious!


Last Section very much personally directed at gentlelover:
If you truly are a submissive in the described situation then try and communicate with your Mistress - if she has a vision about what you and Her should be, then she will share it with you. That knowledge will help you to better understand your position and act accordingly. At the same time it is your DUTY as a submissive to communicate any concerns you may have about the situation. If this is not accepted, in my opinion the term Mistress is amiss and should be replaced with something heartfelt impolite. In my view you were far from ready for a live-in 24/7 slavery arrangement with this Mistress.

If you are envisioning the described scenery as what a live-in slavery might be like, just to hear the general comments of anyone else - I think you clearly got the picture.

Should though in any case you have gotten yourself into something that has grown bigger than you can handle, do not hesitate to take consequences from shame of having misjudged a situation and mistrusted a woman. GO! Away - out of there! There is nothing worse than allowing anyone to destroy your soul (let alone your body) - you owe yourself that much - if you can't care about your own well being, what precious gift do you then have to give to the Dominant that is right for you? Would be a shame to have it wasted on a "wannabe", no?

 

[Ebonyfire]

Note to Hecate

I was wondering if you were gonna comment. As always a very good post. Merry Christmas, Hecate. You are all that and a family size bag of chips.

Eb

 

[P. B. Walker]

My jaw still hits the table after reading some of Hecate's posts. You are a Studdette, Hecate!

PBW

 

[Hecate]

Note to Eb and PBW

Thanks for the kind words - it was a bit of a tough decision whether to tackle this or not ... but after all I have heard similar stories too often to just let them pass uncommented (even though it took me a while to get the time for a lengthy post)

Glad to hear someone does indeed read my rambles and rants on the topics that I find important to clarify.

Merry Christmas to you too !
Hecate

 

[P. B. Walker]

Re: Note to Eb and PBW

Thanks for the kind words - it was a bit of a tough decision whether to tackle this or not ... but after all I have heard similar stories too often to just let them pass uncommented (even though it took me a while to get the time for a lengthy post)

Glad to hear someone does indeed read my rambles and rants on the topics that I find important to clarify.

Merry Christmas to you too !
Hecate

Are you kidding? A Hecate ramble/rant makes my week.

PBW

 

[Bondagebunni]

Wonderful insight...That's all i can think to say right now ... don't you hate when even though something's really great, you just can't think of words to praise with? *sigh* oh well...thank you for sharing your views