New Dom/Sub help

[Puppet0110]

Hi All!
My husband and I are begining to explore Dom/Sub roles and are looking for some good information to help us understand and incorporate BDSM into our life style. I'm especially interested in good scenarios for beginners and toys that we can incorporate to start off with as well as information on Dom/Sub roles. Any information/web sites would be appreciated.

Thank you!

Puppet

 

[A Desert Rose]

Hi All!
My husband and I are begining to explore Dom/Sub roles and are looking for some good information to help us understand and incorporate BDSM into our life style. I'm especially interested in good scenarios for beginners and toys that we can incorporate to start off with as well as information on Dom/Sub roles. Any information/web sites would be appreciated.

Thank you!

Puppet

For information, try the library thread that Nemo has going.

Welcome to the forum too.

 

[Hecate]

maybe I missed it somehow but ... are you considering a switching scenario between the two of you or a "one way" power exchange, and if so, which side?

Are you more interested into the "sensation" side, SM so to speak or more after the power exchange side, humiliation, servitude etc.?

As much as it will help us give you pointers as much it might be good for the two of you to knwo where you wan to gbe heading first .

Just a quick ramble and ENJOY the journey!

 

[Puppet0110]

Hectate

Good questions...ones that we are currently trying to answer for ourselves. I think that at this point we are exploring all of our options. For myself, I am interested in both the sensation side and learning to be a good sub for my dom and exploring those roles. We have talked some of switching eventually. But for now, I feel that I need to learn how to give up control and allow my partner to direct things. This is new for him in our relationship, for I have always been a independant and stubborn woman....lol. After almost 10 years together in a very 'nilla relationship, we are trying to find ways to reconnect on a physical,emotional, and spirtual level. The "idea" of a d/s relationship appeals to us both and the little exploration we have done has been VERY rewarding for us both. If anything it has increased our level of communication ten fold. He is a very creative man with many ideas and the endless possibilites of this lifestyle has sparked that creativity. We are just at the begining of what appears to be a long and interesting journey....

Much apprecation to all in this forum...

Puppet

 

[Shadowsdream]

Hectate

Good questions...ones that we are currently trying to answer for ourselves. I think that at this point we are exploring all of our options. For myself, I am interested in both the sensation side and learning to be a good sub for my dom and exploring those roles. We have talked some of switching eventually. But for now, I feel that I need to learn how to give up control and allow my partner to direct things. This is new for him in our relationship, for I have always been a independant and stubborn woman....lol. After almost 10 years together in a very 'nilla relationship, we are trying to find ways to reconnect on a physical,emotional, and spirtual level. The "idea" of a d/s relationship appeals to us both and the little exploration we have done has been VERY rewarding for us both. If anything it has increased our level of communication ten fold. He is a very creative man with many ideas and the endless possibilites of this lifestyle has sparked that creativity. We are just at the begining of what appears to be a long and interesting journey....

Much apprecation to all in this forum...

Puppet

Another question if you do not mind...is the submission you crave to experience inside the confines of the bedroom or in all aspects of your private life together?

 

[Puppet0110]

Shadowsdream,

Hummmm.....good question. I would like it to be part of our private life together, not just in the bedroom. What I am begining to discover is that there is a part of me that really responds to doing things to please my mate and show my appreciation for him in my life. Since we've begun looking into D/s I've felt that desire grow and find myself doing things that I know will please him.

I have to be honest and say that this decision comes at the end of a very difficult year in our relationship, where we were both ready to walk out the door. Thankfully, we decided to pursue marriage counseling, looking into new ways to deepen our communication, and exploring our sexuality independantly and together.

More to be revealed as time goes on...

Thanks to all for the fantastic questions, they are really helping me to explore my thinking.

Puppet

 

[Shadowsdream]

Shadowsdream,

Hummmm.....good question. I would like it to be part of our private life together, not just in the bedroom. What I am begining to discover is that there is a part of me that really responds to doing things to please my mate and show my appreciation for him in my life. Since we've begun looking into D/s I've felt that desire grow and find myself doing things that I know will please him.

I have to be honest and say that this decision comes at the end of a very difficult year in our relationship, where we were both ready to walk out the door. Thankfully, we decided to pursue marriage counseling, looking into new ways to deepen our communication, and exploring our sexuality independantly and together.

More to be revealed as time goes on...

Due to your response I will suggest the building blocks of a BDSM relationship as they pretain to outside of the relations ship.
Two of the cornerstones that build a strong foundation are rules and rituals.
Take some time together to see if you can come up with 2 daily rules and 2 daily rituals that are uniquely created for your own home circumstance.
If you need suggestions I believe that many here will give you ideas of what has worked for them.
Enjoy this incredible journey!

Thanks to all for the fantastic questions, they are really helping me to explore my thinking.

Puppet

 

[Puppet0110]

daily rules and rituals - suggestions wanted

"Due to your response I will suggest the building blocks of a BDSM relationship as they pretain to outside of the relations ship.
Two of the cornerstones that build a strong foundation are rules and rituals.
Take some time together to see if you can come up with 2 daily rules and 2 daily rituals that are uniquely created for your own home circumstance.
If you need suggestions I believe that many here will give you ideas of what has worked for them.
Enjoy this incredible journey!"

Shadowsdream,
I think that is a wonderful idea!

All,
I would love some suggestions for daily rules and rituals as suggested by Shadowsdream. We are new to this lifestyle and would love to know what has worked for you.

Thanks to all,

Puppet

 

[Shadowsdream]

Re: daily rules and rituals - suggestions wanted

"Due to your response I will suggest the building blocks of a BDSM relationship as they pretain to outside of the relations ship.
Two of the cornerstones that build a strong foundation are rules and rituals.
Take some time together to see if you can come up with 2 daily rules and 2 daily rituals that are uniquely created for your own home circumstance.
If you need suggestions I believe that many here will give you ideas of what has worked for them.
Enjoy this incredible journey!"

Shadowsdream,
I think that is a wonderful idea!

All,
I would love some suggestions for daily rules and rituals as suggested by Shadowsdream. We are new to this lifestyle and would love to know what has worked for you.

Thanks to all,

Puppet

One of the most important rituals in My home is the morning coffee ritual.
I have a particular way I expect it prepared and served...
Half hot milk and half boiling water..2 lumps of sugar...served from his knees with his eyes down and arms outstreched before him.
This is how I envisioned the ritual in the beginning...My toy added his own special respect by presenting the cup after first tasting it to be sure of its perfection..then kissing the rim of the cup before presenting it to Me...he also lowered his body into the frog position so that I might rest My feet upon his back.

In essense it became a ritual I designed and he improved with his honest devotion...
Today it never varies and it is a ritual I train all of those who serve Me. Each will have their own special nuance of devotion to add to make it uniquely their own.

Beginning the day with a ritual sets the tone for the entire day..a mind zone.

 

[Hecate]

Iam sure you have seen this one already,

but I thought I'd point it out just in case.

Rituals and Positions

I will be baack with a few thoughts later today, but it makes me happy to see someone is discovering the huge potential and the magic BDSM can give when done in the right spirit.

 

[MissTaken]

I am just popping in to say hello to puppet and tell you how excited this thread has made me. How wonderful for you and your husband to be able to explore with one another like this.

Enjoy and have fun!