New dom... No clue what to do

[Akuma64]

I'm a bit new to the whole Dom\sub relationship. I met this girl online a while back and I love her, she's into bondage and the like. I want some advice from some of the experienced members from here.

We have done alot of role play in a private chat with me as the Dom. She likes to have me tie her up in some rope and handcuffs.

I'm also new to the forums too.

 

[Bachlum Chaam]

Sir may I suggest you read up on the forum if you aren't meant to be a dom you won't be it isn't something you decide

Read up as much as possible get a feel for the subject is my suggestion, read stories on BDSM . Good luck to you and your lady
Bachlum Chaam

 

[FungiUg]

Welcome, Akuma.

Most people will recommend you "read up" to learn. I'm going to disagree.

As anyone who has been to University knows, to really learn, you need to discuss what you are learning. Argue it, talk it over... make it real.

So, by all means read. But here's your opportunity to discuss points with the people here.

Jump in boots and all. Remember that ultimately, being dominant is about what YOU decide you want. That's the point. So talk, read, learn, and make up your own mind about what you will do with it all.

 

[slvjenn]

well. I think there are some things you should read...

mostly the HOW on bondage. HOW to tie someone so that blood is still able to flow through the extremity (sp?). How to ensure that the person being tied is in no form of distress.

Sure, learning on the job can be good. But some things you just need to know first.

Read up on the HOWs then take that and tread lightly at first. See what you both like as you experience it IRL for the first time.

 

[FungiUg]

well. I think there are some things you should read...

Oh definately. But also discuss what he reads... join in the conversations, don't just read passively. That way he will learn much more.

 

[Arden]

From your profile, it appears that you have quite a bit yet to experience and learn.

Good luck!

 

[Akuma64]

Eh he. That's true about not having much experience.

I have been reading on rope techniqes and some restraints through a site called .Bondage University. I'm still trying to look up more techniques at other sites.

I've been reading some stories on this site as well. The only thing I havn't gone through is the forums.

 

[FungiUg]

I've been reading some stories on this site as well. The only thing I havn't gone through is the forums.

I find it's the forums where I learnt most, because I can ask questions. My biggest sucess through the forums has been learning the technique to teach a submissive to cum by command... and that was simply through me asking can it be done, and if so, how?

 

[Akuma64]

Now you've peeked my interest, so I'll bite...

How do you make a submissive cum on demand?

 

[FungiUg]

Now you've peeked my interest, so I'll bite...

How do you make a submissive cum on demand?

Voice training and association, basically. Go look up the thread (it'll be mentioned in the library.)

The most effective technique I've found so far is to get the submissive on the edge of orgasm, keep her that way, and then TELL her to cum. Count down to her orgasm from, say, 5. Then gradually shorten the numbers and remove the initial stimulation until you just telling her to cum does it.

I doubt it would work for every woman though.

 

[Akuma64]

Hmmm.... Interesting. I went through the library too look through it real quick. Nice.

I've also read somewhere that a Mistress once whipped her sub to ejaculation. Is this true too?

 

[FungiUg]

Hmmm.... Interesting. I went through the library too look through it real quick. Nice.

I've also read somewhere that a Mistress once whipped her sub to ejaculation. Is this true too?

I imagine it happens. I know that I can get a submissive cumming from spanking her.

 

[His Precious]

cumming on command - I admit I have been trained to do this my my Master and I don't know which of us appreciates it more.

 

[Bachlum Chaam]

cumming on command - I admit I have been trained to do this my my Master and I don't know which of us appreciates it more.

I dare say tis your Master who appreciates it the most, the pure power and the rush of having her come when you command it, then to make her keep going again and again.
I particulary love to make her plead and cry before her release it leaves her in no doubt who is in control