New Dom for me!

vixenshe said:


Okay, I'm done hijacking. (Did I spell that right? I never feel I spell that word right.)

You're probably thinking of highjacking, something totally different and much more fun.
 
Re: Etoile

shy slave said:
The insurance companies and the Government forms that are required in UK.
Its good to know that both UK & US have the same kind of things that make you want to cry out for help. Shame they don't come with a safe word lol

PS How did the sponsered paddle go??
Yeah, I have been through a slew of insurance companies and doctors and the whole shebang all in the past five years. It's pretty annoying. But hey, it keeps me healthy and I can keep spending time with my loved ones, so I'll manage. :)

The paddle went very well, thank you! You can read about it it here.
 
SubmissiveDove5 said:
Yup, the Government is a pain :)

Agh tell me about it.....I am applying to be Master's carer and for a payment to that effect, and the forms are never ending....they practically want to know what you had for breakfast! :rolleyes:
Because Master is disabled I need to be close by for any work plus not able to work fulltime, and that cuts my options for jobs down by three quarters at least.

Dove hang in there......don't rush into anything, get your life sorted out before you get into any type of relationship let alone a D/s one. How can you give anything to a relationship when you yourself have so many personal issues......it isn't fair to you or to the other person. Concentrate on you - the other stuff will come along when you're not looking (it did for me!) :)
 
Shy Slave, I have no idea at all what you're mad about. Seeking sympathy & playing on their disabilities is not what most disabled people are about. In fact, over sympathising is usually seen as treating the disabled as "different" in itself. My experience goes back even longer than your own and has probably been more involved as well.

Etoile, I do sympathise with you. On our side of the Pacific (or Atlantic) the red tape is just as long & sticky.
 
just to weigh in and probably muddy the waters further...

On Both sides of the issue... on the one hand, I got the impression that incubus is suspicious that Dove is either an online fake who is making up a story, or that her story is true but she is a sort of professional 'victim' who will refuse all help so she can hold onto a sort of status. I've waffled and wondered the same thing myself.

On the other hand... if I gave my full rl story here it makes Doves pale by comparison, is unlikely to be believed, and would surely attract a lot of people who would wonder why I was posting it. Lucky for me, I don't need help at the moment, and didn't come to the internet when I did.

We can't know about the other people on here, right? So most will give the benefit of a doubt as long as we feel we can.

Two bits of potentially useful advice.
First is an adjunct to the 'shit happens' way of thinking about difficulty and tragedy. I kept asking, 'Why Me?' Then one day I read somewhere the answer. "Why Not Me?" Seriously. This stuff happens, it's going to happen to Somebody. Why Shouldn't it happen to Me -- or You? Sounds hard but it actually helped.

The other is in response to an often heard view I used to hate. The new age (Bhuddist?) idea of karma -- that if you have bad things happen in this life it must be because you did something bad in the last life, that in other words you deserved it. Or being told new agey stuff like if your leg is hurting it must be because you want to kick somebody. (I did. I wanted to kick the person who suggested that. :cool: )

One day I came across an alternative view -- that it is only an old evolved soul who has a hard life. The new souls, the weak ones, the babies, are the ones who get the easy life. It's only the tough and wise souls that can be tested and honed by fire. (Don't know that I gave it the best description here but hope you get the idea.)

:rose:
 
I must be an old soul, lol

I liked that !

Seriously though, the only reason I told "My whole life story" was because I felt I should given the reasns why I couldn't do something. Not that they are an excuse..there not...just a reason. Trust me, I don't like blabbing everything all over the lace :)
 
Yeah, one should never babble all over lace, tends to yellow it.
*ducks*
What- I thought it was amusing. And laughter is some of the best medacine for most people. I say most because making someone with a chest tube or post-abdominal/chest surgury laugh is just plain mean.
But most other cases, laughter's good. Releases endorphins.
How are you coming on those guide dog applications?
 
lol, oops typo

I hope I didn't have cap locks on in my pm I sent to you Vix. If it is in all caps, sorry about that, sometimes my cap lock key gets stuck.
 
I think that's something we'd all excuse you for, SD5!

For me, the problem is that my caps lock key LIGHT doesn't work on my laptop. So I can't ever tell when it's on, and I have a bad habit of tapping the caps lock key when I'm not actually typing stuff, and I end up leaving it on. :p
 
curious

To the comments in regard to "Is this for real?"

I'm a skeptic. And I'll still read. And I think it's perfectly fine to call people on their BS or to at least attempt to establish whether it IS BS or not. If you can't handle it, don't put yourself out there.

I'm curious.

How do you know to edit your posts? and how do you know where to go in and insert edits?

Excuse Me! I do have my good points, I just don't have any opportunities to use them. I know it may just sound like another excuse, but it's kind of hard to go out and do things when I can't even get out of my house! I'm scared to death of breaking my neck going down my ramp, that's how steep it is. I know I could have it redone, but that takes money, and money is something I don't have!

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If you've been blind and/or disabled almost your entire life, only one eye working since age 5-20, and blury and with all those surgeries, how did you maintain your GPA? How did you learn how to write using proper grammar and puntuation - going through all you did? When did you have time to go to school? Also, how do you have a photographic memory when you can't see?

If you have managed to overcome such diversity as you lay out (altho contridictions abound - I just have too much to do today to try and point them all out) how come you haven't been smart enough to find out such basic things of helping yourself - liking searching websites that anyone could simply find with google?

Edited to add: How do you know when there is a typo but you can't tell cap locks? What program do you use? What's the name of it? I've a very curious one. :D
 
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Impish

Well, I'll start with the fact that after I came out of my coma, the doctors recommended that I be put in a nursing home because I was a vegetable and they believed I would remain a vegetable for the rest of my life. My parents refused to believe that, and refused to do so. Then one day, the doctors were stunned to see me walking using a walker. This was after they all said I'd never walk again. So after that, I went home and it was a few months before I was to start Kindergarten. The school department wanted to place me in special ed, but my mother didn't allow that totally, so I was placed in a regular class with certtain special services. Throughout school, I got good grades, but didn't have many friends, so I didn't get much opportunity to experience "life as a kid" the same as a lot of other kids. I love learning, so my disabilities never stopped me from doing so. As I got older and things got more difficult as far as social interaction goes, I became more and more resentful of my parents because I couldn't, or should I say wasn't allowed to experience everything everyone else my age was experiencing. I never got to go to the prom, I never even went on a real date and that is still the case today. All of these things I could have done, but wasn't allowed. As far as how I can use the computer, I have a screen reader on my computer which reads everything on the screen. It indicates when a letter is capitalized, but sometimes I'm typing so fast, I don't hear it. I taught myself how to type way before I lost my sight completely. The screen reader tells me where links are too.

I hope I have answered all your questions :)
 
actually

you didn't answer any of my questions. sometimes that's a confirmation in itself. ;)
 
Answers to your questions

"How do you know to edit your posts? and how do you know where to go in and insert edits?"

I haven't figured out how to do that yet. That's why I always put the person's screen name in the post subject line.

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"If you've been blind and/or disabled almost your entire life, only one eye working since age 5-20, and blury and with all those surgeries, how did you maintain
your GPA?"

It wasn't easy, I'll say that. The surgeries weren't all at once, my eye surgeries were in 1991, 1994 and again in 2001. My surgeries I had on my legs etc were 1985, 87, 88, and 90. They were usually during the summer months, so I didn't miss much school. That's how I maintained my gpa.

" How did you learn how to write using proper grammar and puntuation - going through all you did? When did you have time to go to school?"

Well, English was my best subject in school. Like I said, my surgeries were mostly during the summer. As far as being able to do the work, well I've had my problems with anxiety, but I got help with tutors and teachers.
Also,
how do you have a photographic memory when you can't see?

I can't see now, but when I could see, I didn't really have to look at certain things in order to use them. When I used the phone for example, I never had to look at the buttons while I was dialing because I know where the buttons are. Learning how to type without looking at the keyboaard is a form of photographic memory as well. Another example is that now that I can't see, when asked to discribe something that I saw years ago, or how to do something, I can tell you exactly what it was or how to do it including any details which someone sighted would need to see in order to do. There are many things I can do without having sight that sighted people might think impossible like keep my 500+ cd collection in alphabetical order.
 
Sooo, whilst you can't cross the deadly ramp or investigate guide dog sites on the net by yourself & have no money for what would be considered essentials, you've managed to collect 500 CDs. Come on, next installment please, but don't forget that you were supposed to be spending some time making phone calls about the dog training. You should have been back with the reasons that it wasn't possible for you by now.
 
I did make phone calls, and in order for me to get a guide dog, I would have to get the dog I already have put to sleep because of his aggression towards other dogs. I will not do that! Bear is only six years old.

I collected all those CDs over a period of ten years. I didn't buy them all at once!
 
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Impish said:
How do you know to edit your posts? and how do you know where to go in and insert edits?

If you've been blind and/or disabled almost your entire life, only one eye working since age 5-20, and blury and with all those surgeries, how did you maintain your GPA? How did you learn how to write using proper grammar and puntuation - going through all you did? When did you have time to go to school? Also, how do you have a photographic memory when you can't see?

Edited to add: How do you know when there is a typo but you can't tell cap locks? What program do you use? What's the name of it? I've a very curious one. :D
Whoa! Not to answer for SD5 or anything, but blind people are a lot more capable than you might think. Blind people learn to read and write and go to school and use a computer and edit posts just like sighted people. It's called adapting! Check out these links:
http://www.vis-ability.co.uk/
http://www.blind.net/blindind.htm
 
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Ok I am still confused

Dove has told us about her difficulties.

Stoney said that if she had choosen to post her rl history then we would find it unbelievable, as some her seem to find Dove's rl.

There are elements from other posts on the boards that show Dove is not alone in her past & current difficulties, but she is the only one (at present) talking about some of her issues.

That does not mean to say that anyone of us may have wished to post our life issues, or that tomorrow someone else will.

However, in view of such hard core sceptacism (is that how you spell it?) from some people; others would have to have nerves of steel to even contemplate it.

Etoile is right blind people are very resourceful as are many others. Deaf people are equally resourceful. It is a skill that takes both energy and courage to face day-to-day life in a world designed for physically & mentally able people.

Stoney summed up both sides well, but she also said
WE can't know about other people on here right? So most will give the benefit of the doubt as long as we feel we can

If you are beyond giving Dove the benefit of the doubt then I have to query why you are continuing read this particular thread?
 
Re: Ok I am still confused

shy slave said:
Etoile is right blind people are very resourceful as are many others. Deaf people are equally resourceful. It is a skill that takes both energy and courage to face day-to-day life in a world designed for physically & mentally able people.
I'm pretty sure most people around here know I'm an interpreter. I work with deaf individuals every day. I would say that it's easier for a person to manage without hearing than without sight, but that's my perspective.
 
That's just it, most disabled people ARE very resourceful and have a full knowledge of the help available to them & make use of it.

I don't believe this alleged life story, but as I said before it's interesting to see what she comes out with next. Apparently her drunken parents refused to allow her a companion dog originally, but now she can't have a guide dog without putting her pet dog down. The pet is only 6, so she only got it around the time she went blind so she was allowed a pet, not a trained dog??? Got to give her a gold star for inventive excuses.

We would all have unbelievable aspects to our lives were we to write them down. Sometimes, when we have a particular problem, we post the relevant details to explain & ask for help. This one instead chooses to dribble out another heart wrenching detail every day, feed on the sympathy & make more excuses for her own apathy.

OK SubDub, you've shot down the dog idea, quite cleverly too, so where to next??
 
I got Bear as a puppy in 1998. I could see then from one eye, I didn't need a gude dog, or should I say, I could have had one for $6300! Guess what? That's how much money I get from the Gov a year!
 
Perhaps you should consider going into politics, you can dodge & hedge around sticky questions with the best of them.

The government ONLY gives you $6800 does it? Maybe they don't believe you are entitled to more because they think you need to get of your butt & do something for yourself as well. I suggest that that is the real reason you've decided you're a sub. You think that some Dom is going to want to look after you bodily, emotionally & financially & all you will have to do is give your lurve & devotion to escape the life you say you have. Think again.
 
SD5, maybe instead of putting down your dog (that seems rather drastic), give him away to a good family, and maybe try to set up times where you can visit, with your parents, instead of a guide-dog.

That way, you can have the guide-dog, and you don't need to put your pup down.


And I-S, shut the fuck up. Look. Her story is rather remarkable. Maybe it's fake. WHO CARES, EITHER WAY?! I mean, really, why do you care SO MUCH about whether people like me, and everyone else who isn't an asshole, give a damn about this person? You obviously don't.. you're using her suffering as fodder for your own amusement, and I think that it's pretty sick. If you don't like what she has to say, ignore her. If you think she's lying, well done, you've said it a score of times by now, I'm sure. We heard you. We didn't listen. Go the fuck away. You've said your piece.

Like someone else said, if we posted the crappier moments of our lives, I'm sure other people wouldn't believe us. I've posted the shittiest times of my life on this board, and got equal amounts of hatred thrown at me, and y'know what? I didn't lie once. I've talked to people about the more.. enlightened moments of my life.. and haven't lied once about them. I don't believe in dishonesty.

Now, if SD5 IS lying, so be it. She's lying. Again, who cares? Your incessant posting here only shows that you can't help but give SOME level of care.. either that or you're an obsessed moron.

Go away.
 
I"m with ya.

first. Etoile - that's exactly my point. and I'm going to quote incubus' because she answered it quite well: "That's just it, most disabled people ARE very resourceful and have a full knowledge of the help available to them & make use of it."

I am 50% deaf. I have a friend who is blind. You have interpreted my post wrong.

I am however amazed that someone who can be so resourceful and skilled overcoming such adversity can't figure out how to do a google and get assistance. I already know that six years ago there were several organizations offering guiddogs and hearing dogs for thos in need - forget about what the "government" will allow.

I continue to see inconsistancies and I'm allowed to call them out. Why? Because I want to. Because inconsistancy and clarification is important to ME.

Where is the rule that says "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it at all and leave?"

If she doesnt' want to answer? That is her business not yours Vixen.

That is the purpose of a board - for open discussion. We are all adults. You don't have to agree with my opinion.

Now, back to the inconsistancies. I knew there is software. What's the name of it? That was the question I asked. And I've also reviewed a few of Dove's posts. I've also noted that she goes back and edits her posts and I want to know what software she has that helps her with that. Altho she's now denying that she knows how to edit her posts. Just curious.

I'll be open to my suspicions and skeptical naturing being wrong. But I am allowed my process.

Vixen - don't even try to shut me down. You have no authority and have little ground to speak from. You forget - I've seen many of your earlier posts. This latest to encubus shows me you haven't learned much yet. You do exactly as you have condemed.


:rolleyes:
 
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