New Dom for me!

[SubmissiveDove5]

Impish

The software I use is called Jaws.

All I have to do is click on the edit/delete link and I can edit my pst. As far as inserting quote, I haven't been able to figure that out yet. Jaws is helpful, but sometimes it's not the easiest program to navigte around the web with.

I know all about the assistance the Government offers individuals suck as myself. First, it's so damn difficult to get anywhere even when you go through the right channels. Even if I do get through all the paper work etc, I'm still given a hard time with most things such as getting Financial Aid for school. There's a grant offered for people who make under $1400 a month, and I'm still denied even though I only get $621 a month.

 

[SubmissiveDove5]

Incubus'_sub

Okay! here's something about me. You can believe it r not, I really don't care.

I am a brutally honest person. I will tell you just how it is. You can ask anyone who I've known, and they will tell you the same thing. Want some references? I'll give you some!

 

[Impish]

Thanks

SD5, thanks for your responses. You are clearly bright - so I encourage you to utilize that mind of yours and take control of the parts of your life you can. And yes, I do know it's easy to say it and much harder to do. You've been offered some valuable advice. I would suggest you take it because ultimately you are the only person who is responsible for you.

Some of the strongest people I know are people that have overcome much. Don't be a victim to the government, to your parents, to life. It sounds harsh but part of being an adult is to realize that there are times when nobody can take care of you except for you. In re your parents, - I'm assuming you are not under their legal authority from doing anything you *really* wish to do.

There are organizaitons that will help you and even people on this board.

Sign me still skeptical but willing to give you the benefit of the doubt. Certainly there are crazier things that happen that can not be explained.

 

[SubmissiveDove5]

Vixenshe

I would agree except that my mother and I don't believe anyone would want to adopt him. I have to admit, he does have some very bad habits. He barks at everyone and everything. To be more specific: he doesn't bark or become aggressive with us, but if he sees anyone he doesn't know, he threaten to bite, and if he had the opportunity, we believe he would. That's why my mother said that. Whomever took him in would probably end up bringing him to the pound, and then no one else would want him, so the people at the pound would put him down.

There is a solution, but like everything else, it's not an easy thing to accomplish. If I could find a roommate, I could get my own place, and then I could have my guide dog, and my mom could keep Bear. Honestly, I wouldn't want to live alone even with sight. I wish it could happen, but I believe I would need to find a job first. Although I read online that people who have borderline personality disorders can't seem to hold jobs very long (I've researched this disorder and believe I have many of the symptoms: moody, histeria, depression, dependency issues, anxiety and has had a history of suicide attempts).

 

[shy slave]

I'm pretty sure most people around here know I'm an interpreter. I work with deaf individuals every day. I would say that it's easier for a person to manage without hearing than without sight, but that's my perspective.

I am not able to make a comparision as to whether sight or hearing is more difficult to live without as I have both.

I would say that it depends on the individual as to how resourceful they are, and within what parameters they have to live & work.
Incidentially I think your excuse for going to the trekkie convention was work as you were intrepreting for two people and not there as a trekkie yourself. Now I have to wonder if Incubus_sub will believe THAT unlikely story lol.
Actually Etoile I do admire anyone who can use BSM or ASM. I know Makaton and Sign-a-long but there not difficult to grasp Much more than basic finger spelling (heck my spelling is terrible anyway lol) and I am lost.
So now I have teased you I will blow you kisses as well (is blowing kisses a form of grovelling, Oh great one with beautiful Av's )

Back on topic, I am soooo bored with watching Dove defend herself again and again and again.

In my last post I politely suggested those who do not believe Dove should avoid reading the thread.
If that was too subtle please read Vixens post she has put it in easy words for you.
edited for spelling ~ told you it was terrible!

 

[A Desert Rose]

This thread has become nothing more than confrontation and defense.

There is no longer any redeeming value in it for anyone, and most especially not for Submissive Dove. She has already gotten scores of valuable advice from many. What remains, and continues, is nothing more than skepticism, flaming and confrontation.

Be done with it. It's run it's course.

 

[SubmissiveDove5]

ShySlave

I'm done defending myself. I just had to get that last one out, lol

 

[shy slave]

This thread has become nothing more than confrontation and defense.

There is no longer any redeeming value in it for anyone, and most especially not for Submissive Dove. She has already gotten scores of valuable advice from many. What remains, and continues, is nothing more than skepticism, flaming and confrontation.

Be done with it. It's run it's course.

Your right ADR, and your new Av is cute.

 

[Etoile]

Impish, I apologize for misunderstanding your post. I didn't realize you were well-versed in the disability community yourself; your post sounded to me like you were unaware so I thought I'd provide some helpful links.

 

[Etoile]

Incidentially I think your excuse for going to the trekkie convention was work as you were intrepreting for two people and not there as a trekkie yourself. Now I have to wonder if Incubus_sub will believe THAT unlikely story lol.

Hee! That was my excuse for actually being there, that's true, but only because it costs money to attend and stay at the hotel. If it were a free event I might go even if I weren't working.

Actually Etoile I do admire anyone who can use BSM or ASM. I know Makaton and Sign-a-long but there not difficult to grasp Much more than basic finger spelling (heck my spelling is terrible anyway lol) and I am lost.
So now I have teased you I will blow you kisses as well (is blowing kisses a form of grovelling, Oh great one with beautiful Av's )

I am going to take a guess and assume you mean ASL (American Sign Language) and BSL (British Sign Language)? They are actually two totally different languages, mutually unintelligible! I have seen some video of deaf Brits signing and I can't make out a word of it. ASL was developed in part by a Frenchman, though, so it has some similarity with LSF (French Sign Language) and I can understand that a little bit. ASL is also used in Canada.

I had to look up Makaton - now that is really cool! I never heard of it before but I will do some reading now.


And thank you! http://www.amanita.net/images/smilies/blush.gif

 

[MissTaken]

Some very interesting stuff in this thread.

I will only offer, that life is what you make of it. We all have our own challenges, disabilities etc. The real challenge is working through and around them and the true glory is when you have!

Have faith in yourself.

 

[Impish]

huh?

Who are YOU to decide what is redeeming and when something has run its course? Get off your horse. This is called a discussion board. GET real. Make your own boards up and then set your own rules. Don't impose your values on me.

If you had phrased this with an "I think, and therefore I will," that's one thing - but you did not.

Think about it. I always love people who judge and yet denounce judging.

Originally posted by A Desert Rose
This thread has become nothing more than confrontation and defense.

There is no longer any redeeming value in it for anyone, and most especially not for Submissive Dove. She has already gotten scores of valuable advice from many. What remains, and continues, is nothing more than skepticism, flaming and confrontation.

Be done with it. It's run it's course.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Re: huh?

Who are YOU to decide what is redeeming and when something has run its course? Get off your horse. This is called a discussion board. GET real. Make your own boards up and then set your own rules. Don't impose your values on me.

If you had phrased this with an "I think, and therefore I will," that's one thing - but you did not.

Think about it. I always love people who judge and yet denounce judging.

Yes, you proved my point. Thank you.

 

[Esclava]

This thread has become nothing more than confrontation and defense.

<snip> What remains, and continues, is nothing more than skepticism, flaming and confrontation.

<snip>

These are the very reasons you do not see me on the boards anymore. I have been reduced to lurking because I cannot bear to see the "discussion" spiral down to lower levels of semi-intelligent conversation. I have even less desire to respond or even contribute.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, to meet each other half-way and be able to agree to disagree on those points of contention we cannot reconcile. Of course, IMO, the world would be a much better place if we were willing to accept other opinions without setting fire to them first.

Not that I haven't been guilty of that very same thing on other threads - but I stop posting when I find myself needing to defend everything I say because someone has taken offense where none was intended. That is a sure sign that I have either not made my point clear or I did not consider how what I said would affect someone else. In either case, I am wrong.

Esclava

 

[Mr Blonde]

Esclava

I have been reduced to lurking...

You do realize you have made ~100 posts in the BDSM area within the last three weeks? Some of us could only wish to find time/ energy to be as "inactive" as you.

But seriously, I have about 20 people on my ignore list. It is not to insulate myself from divergent opinions but to block out people with very poor signal to noise ratios. I mean, this board isn't half bad when you throw out the most annoying people. Give it a shot.

And remember, this is just an internet porn site. Please freely speak your mind...then learn and adjust only as appropriate. Just because someone had more free hours and wrote a marginally better post to countradict your opinion should not mandate a change in your real life worldview.

 

[Esclava]

Re: Esclava

You do realize you have made ~100 posts in the BDSM area within the last three weeks? Some of us could only wish to find time/ energy to be as "inactive" as you.

But seriously, I have about 20 people on my ignore list. It is not to insulate myself from divergent opinions but to block out people with very poor signal to noise ratios. I mean, this board isn't half bad when you throw out the most annoying people. Give it a shot.

And remember, this is just an internet porn site. Please freely speak your mind...then learn and adjust only as appropriate. Just because someone had more free hours and wrote a marginally better post to countradict your opinion should not mandate a change in your real life worldview.

Thank you for that tally, Mr. B. That is an average of less than 5 posts a day. I consider it "lurking" anytime I do not respond to something on which I have a passionate opinion. Many times it is in the same thread - but I don't respond because someone else has made the point - so, why beat the horse to death? That is not my personal style.

I daresay my post count would triple or quadruple if I responded to every thread I desired. But as you say, some wish for the kind of time I have - I don't have it either - this is a diversion from the work I must be online to do. So, I have to be able to speak my mind quickly and succinctly. Is that a BAD thing???

As for changing my worldview (real or imagined)...that won't happen. I have, and always will believe that it is much better to be able to agree to disagree than to fight over something because we don't see eye to eye. My opinions are mine; I just won't give them out as often. Yes, it may, indeed, be "just" a porn site; but in many places, the posters have declared it something different altogether. I can accept that and move on.

Esclava

 

[Mr Blonde]

I don't see how a bunch of strangers over the internet can make you feel awkward about expressing your opinions. It's not like this place suddenly became more hostile in the few short months since you joined. It's good to be civil and polite, but if someone doesn't follow suit you can always block their account and move on. It is not like this place is gonna totally change who I am, but some of my perspectives have been broadened because of my interactions here.

Anyway, good luck!

 

[Esclava]

I don't see how a bunch of strangers over the internet can make you feel awkward about expressing your opinions. It's not like this place suddenly became more hostile in the few short months since you joined. It's good to be civil and polite, but if someone doesn't follow suit you can always block their account and move on. It is not like this place is gonna totally change who I am, but some of my perspectives have been broadened because of my interactions here.

Anyway, good luck!

I've not been clear. It is not that anyone makes me feel awkard about expressing my opinions. If what I have to say throws fuel on a flame war that is already out of control, why add mine? What possible benefit would result? I know how I feel and there are plenty out there who have no difficulty expressing themselves. So, I let them - I don't feel a need to "jump on the dogpile."

Thanks for the luck.

Esclava

 

[Phoenix Stone]

Interesting.

I've found this a really good place partly Because of the people with whom I mostly disagree. It's good to get a longterm coherent narrative that helps me understand viewpoints most unlike my own. Of course these are the folks whom I tend to get into tussles with if we choose to interact, so mostly I just listen and move on -- unless something comes up about which I feel passionate, or I feel called out.

That has been the biggest stretch, simply getting a clear on-going look into the minds of people very different from me.

I only have one person on ignore. He's a guy on GB (visited briefly), who only posts pics of things, like bloody babies and toilet contents, with no context or comment, merely to shock. Otherwise, while there are threads and posts I don't always bother with, no one goes on ignore. Really no one bothers me enough to want to make them invisible.
If I was gonna go that route, I'd be just as likely to put some of the sweet but boring folks on ignore, to sort out the wheat from chaff. Might be interesting to narrow the board considerably for a while to say the dozen or so I really enjoy.

Thanks for the thought. Once I start working and have less time, that might be the way to go.

 

[Etoile]

I only have one person on ignore. He's a guy on GB (visited briefly), who only posts pics of things, like bloody babies and toilet contents, with no context or comment, merely to shock.

I know exactly who you're talking about, heh.

 

[shy slave]

Some very interesting stuff in this thread.

I will only offer, that life is what you make of it. We all have our own challenges, disabilities etc. The real challenge is working through and around them and the true glory is when you have!

Have faith in yourself.

Thanks MissT, beautiful words about challenges and glory of success.

Having had an 'interesting' childhood/early adulthood, I began collecting dragons.
Every time i did something I was personally proud of I bought one. It went from little things like budgeting well enough to have some money left to treat my sons, or simply not losing my temper with my family when they where tactless or down right cruel.
I haven't felt the need to do this for about ten years, but when my ego was at an all time low; it was the personal boost I needed. It remeinded me of personal challenges and that I was proud to have overcome obstacles no matter what there size.