nerdy chicks

[mtnbkr]

it's all about choice

Or to put it a different way: when I was 16, I was a certified genius (IQ: 199, tested) and felt that it was rare to meet anyone who was even close to being my mental equal among my age group (my peer group?). As I've aged and the intervening years have come and gone, I haven't gotten any stupider (at least not by much), but my peer group has slowly gotten smarter a whole (having gone off to college, learned lessons from life, reading, schools).

So, perhaps your peer groups have gotten more adept at delivering compliments, or more likely, you have gotten more socially adept and comfortable at being complimented

Perhaps it's more about choice. Younger years...grammer, middle, high school, your associates were chosen for you...those that lived near you, those that rode your bus, in your class, etc, etc. In those days I was teased a lot by people who weren't my peers, just happened to be associates. I got sarcastic, and non-genuine compliments all the time as a form of teasing. "nice instrument" (I was in band) then I would be labeled a geek, by those same people. That kinda stuff. As you mature, your associates become more of your choosing, your job puts you with people of similar backgrounds in education, the bars you go to, the places you chill at...are all places you feel comfortable. The people there are more genuine, compliments more meaningful, because they are people you more closely relate too. So you have to be less skeptical of what they say and just accept it as truth.

my dime - a nickel and three pennies.

 

[Stoic Perrin]

I love "nerdy chicks" too.

But what is nerdy?
I love the ones who choose plain close over revealing or the women who read books over going out and partying (they usually have a big imagination if you catch my meaning) and the larger women in some circles are considered nerdy ( I don't think they are but some do)

They just need the right man to admire their "non-cosmo" beauty.

To many women don't know how beautiful they really are!!!

That is what I like about Literotica there are women of all shapes, sizes, and ages. Lets celebrate the beautiful features of your body not get down on the parts you want to change!!

 

[Devil_d0ll]

I love "nerdy chicks" too.

But what is nerdy?
I love the ones who choose plain close over revealing or the women who read books over going out and partying (they usually have a big imagination if you catch my meaning) and the larger women in some circles are considered nerdy ( I don't think they are but some do)

They just need the right man to admire their "non-cosmo" beauty.

To many women don't know how beautiful they really are!!!

That is what I like about Literotica there are women of all shapes, sizes, and ages. Lets celebrate the beautiful features of your body not get down on the parts you want to change!!

im starting to feel just odd not nerdy or geeky.. oh well im just me

 

[mtnbkr]

if...

im starting to feel just odd not nerdy or geeky.. oh well im just me

If you had a twin sister would you feel "even"?

Sorry...couldn't help it. I'm a dork.

a kewl dork.

 

[Devil_d0ll]

Re: if...

If you had a twin sister would you feel "even"?

Sorry...couldn't help it. I'm a dork.

a kewl dork.

cute very cute
i like dorks so its ok... i say stupid shit like that all the time

thanks for the laugh

 

[Stoic Perrin]

im starting to feel just odd not nerdy or geeky.. oh well im just me

That is ok we love you non nerdy types too.
I love all of you odd women too.

ESPECIALLY you

 

[mtnbkr]

cute very cute
i like dorks so its ok... i say stupid shit like that all the time

thanks for the laugh

devil,

OMG I clicked on your photos in your sig because I was bored. OMG the picture in your "I'm a doll" folder...June 3 so kewl. Non sexual, but damn kewl. Don't know, just like the look, very punk.
very cute too.

 

[TheCyberPoet]

I was thinking about this thread as I returned home from walking my dogs and it struck me:

Nerds are the socially inept deviants who transgress outside of the societal norms mostly by virtue of lack of aptitude (usually social aptitude).
Geeks are the social deviants who transgress outside of the societal norms mostly by virtue of choice.
Deviance is any behavior not ascribable to the majority -- i.e. at least 50% -- of the population.
BDSM and Literotica are both examples of deviance by choice.

 

[mtnbkr]

well said poet. Way to break down the definitions. from this day forth I will be known as a geek and no longer a nerd...so what's a dork (well, besides elephant's butthair) Has anyone every found out the veracity of the elephant's butthair thing? If you don't know what I'm talking about...then nevermind

 

[TheCyberPoet]

Dork - from Dorking. See Dorking.

Dorking - from Dorking, a town in Surrey, southeastern England: one of a breed of domestic fowls characterized by a long, low, full body and having five toes on each foot. Valued, especially for the table (i.e. - to eat).

If you want to know the origin of the word geek (before it was ascribed to fish eating side-show entertainers), the original work is geck (and can be found mentioned in Shaksphere's 12th Night).

Source: The New Century Dictionary of the English Language, copyright 1927.

 

[Guest]

Odds are that your own maturing is changing the very nature of your nerdy/geekiness, mellowing it out and reducing it's effects.

Or to put it a different way: when I was 16, I was a certified genius (IQ: 199, tested) and felt that it was rare to meet anyone who was even close to being my mental equal among my age group (my peer group?). As I've aged and the intervening years have come and gone, I haven't gotten any stupider (at least not by much), but my peer group has slowly gotten smarter a whole (having gone off to college, learned lessons from life, reading, schools).

So, perhaps your peer groups have gotten more adept at delivering compliments, or more likely, you have gotten more socially adept and comfortable at being complimented

Yup... to all....

When you were 16, did you consider yourself as "different" and without a true peer group? If a person gets the idea that they are different, that usually sets them apart and isolates them from potential friends. Did that happen to you?

 

[bashfull]

Wow

Okay, I take a break from this thread for a few days and BAM! Such wonderful conversations. For those of you I haven't met, Howdy! **waving hat in air**

Cyber~read your IQ post. Now I feel inferior with a lowly 162. lol. I have enjoyed reading your posts. Also, I wish to reply and reference another post you made :

"Nerds are the socially inept deviants who transgress outside of the societal norms mostly by virtue of lack of aptitude (usually social aptitude).
Geeks are the social deviants who transgress outside of the societal norms mostly by virtue of choice.
Deviance is any behavior not ascribable to the majority -- i.e. at least 50% -- of the population."

Given the aforementioned definitions, then the majority of successfull people are both geeks and deviants. In my years of studying achievers, I have noticed similar qualities. These include an unwillingness to "norm" (actual industrial psychology term meaning to only perform at the minimum level necessary and no higher than the group). Also, as most are not satisfied with mediocrity, their actions and behaviors lead to their success. Hence, success can be defined as geeks and freaks! lol.

 

[bashfull]

You're forgetting another option on that, jdu. Overall, our society doesn't teach us how to accept compliments. Ex.--comment,"that s a pretty sweater ". reply,"this old thing?" Instead of a simple, "why thank you." (smile)
Then add a more personnal note to it, and really warp the wires.

but that's just my .02 worth.

VA

VA~I love reading your posts, mi'lady. You appear to be such an empathetic, intelligent, and passionate woman. Your opinions are worth much more than .02 cents. Much, much more.

 

[TheCyberPoet]

Bashful, don't feel inferior: I said it was 199, not it is 199. My IQ scores have fallen as those in my age group have improved by virtue of time; the gap isn't as big as it was back then.

And thank you for the compliments (RE: an earlier posting: I do not have problems acknowledging compliments concerning my abilities -- I am very self-assured about them).

To answer your specific question:

When you were 16, did you consider yourself as "different" and without a true peer group? If a person gets the idea that they are different, that usually sets them apart and isolates them from potential friends. Did that happen to you?

At 16, I had a few peers in my own age group. They were my peers because I decided to accept them as such, and each was superior to me or my equal in some respect. To focus down on this in more detail, aided by observations of others who were there then (and who have shared their perceptions with me recently): The school, a large one, was subdivided into the traditional (for that time) groups: the jocks, the brains, the druggies, with splinter groups for ROTC, theater/drama, band, and the muscle-car crowd. I was distinctively in the brain bunch (or the eggheads, if you would prefer), but within that group, I was the one who was considered the dangerous, wyld one (as being unpredictable and prone to misadventures, not violent), the one who refused to live within the norms, and my socialization crossed into a number of other groups. I sold grades and attendence to others (mainframe hacking in the days just before PC's), but my own pride kept me from ever altering my own grades (attendence is a different issue). I taught classes that I should have been taking, by virtue of pissing off teachers ("if you think you are so smart, you can teach the class" -- and I did, for the rest of the semester when I was present). I raced muscle cars with the druggies, but abstained from drugs other than alcohol. I think the most poyant single example is St. Patty's day, when I would arrive at school a few hours late, stroll into class and set down Bennigan's table pop-up ads on the teacher's desk, still carrying my empty stein. Or perhaps that I was specifically instructed not to build an atomic bomb, nor to stop the planet's rotation for my final project in Physics II honors. But I was a straight-A student none the less. Hmmm... and quite lonely in many senses, for while I had a short-lived affair with an older woman (27 to my 16), and I had close friends, I never dated while in high school for lack of the ability to see myself as desirable in that context (and thus, unable to ask anyone out). In retrospect, waiting served me well.

 

[jdu]

Good evening everyone.

Cyberpoet...That was my "unregistered" question about you..not trying to be sly, just didn't notice that I hadn't logged in !!

 

[Mountain Mama]

Hmmmm.....so much to think about here.....

As a child, I was the smartest in my class. I was also chubby and teased relentlessly. As I grew older, I learned to accept my intelligence, but I wasn't happy that I was still relatively unpopular in my peer group and dateless. I had friends and I guess you could say we were a "geek" clique.

I agree with whoever said as we get older and can pick more who we hang out with we grow more comfortable with ourselves. When I entered college, I was in the marching band and made lots of friends and also made friends through classes.

However, my luck with men has ran hot and cold. I'm a geek, but I like to occasionally go out and have a couple of drinks, watch football and play trivia. I don't consider myself all that attractive, but I like to dress to show off my assets (low-cut tops and sweaters). I like to think there's a duality to my personality.

Now, I'm approaching middle age. I'm still considered one of the most intelligent within my circle of friends and acquaintances. I'm comfortable with that. I've never had my IQ tested; it's not important to me.

But when it comes to my looks, I'm still about 15 years old. If someone tells me I'm pretty or look nice, I blush and say thank you, but inside I'm wondering why they haven't gone to the eye doctor yet.

What am I trying to say? No matter how smart I am or how comfortable I may be with my quirks and geekiness, I want what everyone else does.......to be loved and accepted unconditionally, to have a warm snuggly guy who loves to love me and tell me I'm pretty. Sometimes it seems harder for us nerdy chicks.

 

[bashfull]

Mountain Mama, take me home...

Well, you peaked my interest, sweetheart. "but I like to dress to show off my assets (low-cut tops and sweaters)". Hmmm, need someone to manage those assets, for ya', ma'am? Honest, I'm cheap. As long as you don't charge too much, I might be able wrangle up a few dollars....


*looking in pockets for money**
*whispers to MTNBKR: Hey, got any money on ya'? I'll pay you back, honest.*


"I was never threatened by nerdy chicks. I was usually just ignored!"

 

[Mountain Mama]

Hmmmmm, bashfull......that's something to consider.

Do you have a business plan for managing my "assets"? What did you have in mind?

 

[bashfull]

Hmmmmm, bashfull......that's something to consider.

Do you have a business plan for managing my "assets"? What did you have in mind?

Well, first we need to assess our resources. But, in order to do so, we need to remove any wrapping for verification reasons....

 

[va_angel2u]

VA~I love reading your posts, mi'lady. You appear to be such an empathetic, intelligent, and passionate woman. Your opinions are worth much more than .02 cents. Much, much more.

Thank you bashful (blush)

Va

 

[wes420]

mmm...nerdy chicks

Um I dont care if a girl in nerdy or not, but it would be cool if she were dressed as Velma (from Scooby Doo), and I could be Shaggy or Fred. Sounds like fun to me. Any girls want the part?

 

[va_angel2u]

What am I trying to say? No matter how smart I am or how comfortable I may be with my quirks and geekiness, I want what everyone else does.......to be loved and accepted unconditionally, to have a warm snuggly guy who loves to love me and tell me I'm pretty. Sometimes it seems harder for us nerdy chicks.

Howdy neighbor (waves at mtn mama). I'm in sw va, near the blue ridge parkway.

Just wanted to say"well said"

VA

 

[balzacspeaks]

I like nerdy chicks. Always have. But I don't really like the term "nerdy." It's perjorative and, I think, invented by the unimaginative, uniformed (that's "uniformed," not uninformed. No. Both words apply) homogenous masses for people who think outside the box, don't care whether they dress, act and think like everyone. That kinda woman is my kinda woman. Some have classic beauty, some don't. But all of them have original thoughts and all of them enjoy sex for the pleasure they get from it -- if they haven't been scared off by an inconsiderate or ignorant man. And the sexual pleasure they give? It's heartfelt and genuine. Mmm. Give me a nerdy woman any time.

 

[mtnbkr]

off thread

*looking in pockets for money**
*whispers to MTNBKR: Hey, got any money on ya'? I'll pay you back, honest.*


"I was never threatened by nerdy chicks. I was usually just ignored!"

Dude, I just graduated from college and am jobless. Do you think I have any money? I should be borrowing some from you. HAHA!

Question for everyone...probably WAY off the subject, but I figure it's better to ask it here then anyware. I just graduated and I got thrown into the IT field..I'm smart and a lot of my genereation has fallen into it. My majors were IT and Econ (double), the problem is I don't really like IT. What do some of the other people in this thread do (day job). what jobs are there for people with smarts...everyone's input is welcome even if they are in IT. I'm just trying to get an idea of what's out there. If the secular question gets too personal please PM me. I have to come up with some career focus/goals. I know this is totally off thread, if anyone wants to flame me go ahead.
BTW...I love nerdy chics...there, back on thread.

 

[mtnbkr]

PS

PS...I really do adore smart chics...I met a most awesome one today at the key bridge marriot while I was waiting for my jack and jill party...that no one showed up to...but that's a totally different story.