Need some Ideas for wifes first time....

[ieatbeaver23]

My wife and I have been married for 8yrs now and have tried many things. I love being tied down and teased/used. Tommorow will be her first time letting me tie her down. We have one of the "web" type things that goes on the bed and has cuffs that velcro to it. We have hand and ankle cuffs. We have several vibrators,feathers,lotions,crops.
Im wanting her to enjoy herself,without going so far that she wont want to do it again. She loves a good fucking and will beg for it.
I guess mostly Im just trying to get some ideas for foreplay. she likes a good spanking,kissing all over her body,oral,loves to have her tits played with/nibbled on.
Any ideas?
Thanks
IEB

 

[Red Sonja]

I'm certainly not an expert in bondage, etc., but it seems to me if this is her first time... it might be best to just add the element of being tied down. Obviously engage in foreplay, slow teasing with a feather etc..

I may be reading too much into this... it just seems that if you've been married for 8 years and this is the first time she's allowed this -- it's likely because she is uncomfortable with the idea. Thus my thought to tread lightly.

 

[FatViagraCock]

Have you thought about music? You'll want some background music that you know she will appreciate, and that will relax her.

Do you have a safe word?

 

[njlauren]

Lot's of things you can do, but obviously you don't want to go too far (no candle wax *smile*)....

-You could give her an erotic massage while tied up, get some massage oil or even something like olive oil can do the trick, sensuously teasing her (massage oil may be better, if you want to do other things to her).....especially around the nipples and around the genital area (not not directly on it), behind the knees, behind the elbows, the feet......the idea is sensuousness and feeling

-If she is game, a blindfold and ear plugs, to cut off those senses so she feels...(and also anticipates what you are using

-sensation play, alternating rough and silky textures...for example, something fur like and then something like the bristles of a hair brush....for example, using the brush, work on her nipples, then alternate with the fur like thingy;;;

-If she is willing, light spanking, of her butt, of her genital region, followed by the fur thingy.....

-Temperature play is fun, on the nipples and elsewhere, alternate ice cubes with something warm (hot water bottle, something metal warmed in a candle), it is about sensations, mix that with rough/smooth texture play

-And of course, sensual teasing, bring her almost to climax with a toy or with your fingers, bring her closer and closer, but don't let her come

-If you have her blindfolded, feed her small bits of different things of different textures, bit of fruit, bit of whipped creme, a tiny bit of a liqueur (if so inclined, key would tiny, it is about taste and texture, not geting drunk), a warm drink, a cold bit of icecream...you get the idea....

The idea is to get her to a different place where feeling and texture matter and thoughts don't....and of course, after a while,she is likely to be fit to be tied in terms of getting fucked.....and in the act of lovemaking, emphasize you are in control, verbalize, and alternate what you are doing, do oral sex on her, stroke her, fuck her a bit, hold off.......that control, that you are in control and she has no choice, is what helps make it hot IMO......

Mostly of all, use your imagination, imagine what would feel good if she was doing it to you...

 

[ieatbeaver23]

Awesome answers! Thanks a ton. The anticipation is killing me! I want it to he a memorable experience for both of us! I get extreme pleasure from giving her pleasure,so it should be a great time!

 

[subwannabe]

I would add some kind of distinct aroma so that she will forever remember the experience. Maybe something like orange or whatever you want. Every time she smells an orange smell she will remember. Women love these kinds of things.

 

[njlauren]

I would add some kind of distinct aroma so that she will forever remember the experience. Maybe something like orange or whatever you want. Every time she smells an orange smell she will remember. Women love these kinds of things.

Great suggestion! Scent is a decided trigger of memory, that and music do wonders...for me, though, hopefully not scented candles, they are true torture for me I am afraid, generally make me wheeze and my eyes water....but other scents are great..using a scented oil is one way, there are plenty of others (rubbing orange skin on someone is an interesting experience, the inside and outside have different textures, or touching the nipples with a cold orange slice.