Need some help =/

[DarkCalm]

Hey everyone,first of all my english isn't that great so please bare with me (and i don't mind if you correct me,i would even appreciate it) and secondly i'm new here,although i've been reading the forums for a while,i decided to register today to get some help from this helpful community.
Here's my situation : i'm in a 8 months relationship with my girlfriend,she's 2 years younger than me and we never had any sexual experiment before (which it's great discovering your sexuality with someone at your level).We are still virgins (we both still don't feel ready,and i don't have hurries on that) although we already do things in bed(masturbating,stimulating,oral and those kind of things) although there is something that have been troubling and stressing us: she can't perform oral on me for too long,and by too long i mean a minute or less.She says that,when she fells the pre-cum in her mouth,she gets a urge to vomit,and so she has to stop.I don't know if this is normal(although i guess it is) and i don't know what to do is there any solution to this?what can i (or she) do?
Thanks for the attention,and thanks in advance for those who answer

 

[M's girl]

Welcome to posting at Lit. First of all: you are both very young (and I suggest, by the way, that you edit your post because Lit rules say you can't refer to sex where minors are concerned!) although you might argue that with me. I have a niece her age and she won't even THINK about doing what you are doing already but I know lots of young girls are.

So, I assume (hope?) that she is not very experienced yet (and neither are you probably) so you both have to give all this some time and go slow. Do the things that do work and feel good to you and her. Don't push her, if she's willing to try now there is a good chance she will get used to the whole idea in time.

 

[DarkCalm]

Welcome to posting at Lit. First of all: you are both very young (and I suggest, by the way, that you edit your post because Lit rules say you can't refer to sex where minors are concerned!) although you might argue that with me. I have a niece her age and she won't even THINK about doing what you are doing already but I know lots of young girls are.

So, I assume (hope?) that she is not very experienced yet (and neither are you probably) so you both have to give all this some time and go slow. Do the things that do work and feel good to you and her. Don't push her, if she's willing to try now there is a good chance she will get used to the whole idea in time.

I've edit my post and i understand your point of viewing,although in society nowadays it's normal for some teens/pre-adults start doing these thing at ages like 16 but it doesn't matter .
Yes,she (and i) aren't very experienced,as i said we never had sexual contact with anyone before and we are doing everything slowly with time . But she (and i ) really want to surpass this problem, she wants to try but everytime she tries and taste the pre-cum ,she gets the urge to vomit. That's why i asked for help, i don't think (although i may be wrong) that time and habituation will resolve this .

 

[SweetErika]

Maybe it's a sign she's not ready to have sex (oral sex IS still sex) yet. She could also not like the thought of getting your semen in her mouth, so she doesn't want to continue past the precum phase.

Perhaps she could stimulate you with her hand (use lube) until the precum appears, put a drop on her finger, taste it and see if that makes her sick as well.

She might also be trying to put too much of your cock in her mouth, and that's what's making her feel like she's going to vomit. A good fix for that is to simply lick and suck just the tip of the cock while stimulating the rest with the hand.

And I think your English is excellent. I understand you better than many of the native speakers we see here. It says a lot that you're trying to practice and want to improve.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I think the easiest way to manage the problem for now is to use a flavoured condom when she gives you oral. Once she is more comfortable with sex and sexual fluids she will probably be ok.

pre-cum has a feeling like mucus in the mouth and that is why some women find the texture unpleasant. She needs time to realise that it is a harmless fluid and a big compliment.

Good luck with your discoveries

 

[DarkCalm]

Maybe it's a sign she's not ready to have sex (oral sex IS still sex) yet. She could also not like the thought of getting your semen in her mouth, so she doesn't want to continue past the precum phase.

Perhaps she could stimulate you with her hand (use lube) until the precum appears, put a drop on her finger, taste it and see if that makes her sick as well.

She might also be trying to put too much of your cock in her mouth, and that's what's making her feel like she's going to vomit. A good fix for that is to simply lick and suck just the tip of the cock while stimulating the rest with the hand.

And I think your English is excellent. I understand you better than many of the native speakers we see here. It says a lot that you're trying to practice and want to improve.

Maybe she isn't still ready,although she wants to do it...next time,i will tell her to "taste" the pre-cum,to see if that's really the problem and how she reacts.I don't think the problem is in putting to much in her mouth because that doesn't affect her,is the pre-cum =/
Thanks for the last part i understand well english,but i'm not used to writing it (and my browser,Firefox, helps with the gramar ) but it's good to hear that

 

[DarkCalm]

I think the easiest way to manage the problem for now is to use a flavoured condom when she gives you oral. Once she is more comfortable with sex and sexual fluids she will probably be ok.

pre-cum has a feeling like mucus in the mouth and that is why some women find the texture unpleasant. She needs time to realise that it is a harmless fluid and a big compliment.

Good luck with your discoveries

I think it's worth giving a try as a second choice my fear is that she gets used to the flavored condom and when we try without it,she still can't do it =p but i guess at that time,it will be more easy for her to adjust.

 

[PertPerth]

Yep, I'd have to agree with the flavoured condom advice.

Another suggestion is to make sure that you taste nice!
There are a few things you can go to make your cum taste better.
Make sure you drink plenty of water, avoid spicy foods and coffee. Also try drinking pineapple juice.
There is a topic in the black manual somewhere I'm sure...though I couldn't find it myself.

My best advice is to go slow and keep it fun.

 

[Lynnezertort]

Are you sure that she's not just "trying" because you want her to? My feeling is that she's not ready to do it, it grosses her out and so she gags. Why not drop that from the list of activities for now and maybe she'll wander down there on her own and do it because she wants to...not because she feels obligated.

My two cents.

 

[DarkCalm]

Yep, I'd have to agree with the flavoured condom advice.

Another suggestion is to make sure that you taste nice!
There are a few things you can go to make your cum taste better.
Make sure you drink plenty of water, avoid spicy foods and coffee. Also try drinking pineapple juice.
There is a topic in the black manual somewhere I'm sure...though I couldn't find it myself.

My best advice is to go slow and keep it fun.

The next time we're togheter i will ask her to taste it,maybe it can be the taste and my fault =p,if so i will follow your advice (and moderate on my diet,i usually eat junk food and i heard that's bad for the taste in the semen)

Are you sure that she's not just "trying" because you want her to? My feeling is that she's not ready to do it, it grosses her out and so she gags. Why not drop that from the list of activities for now and maybe she'll wander down there on her own and do it because she wants to...not because she feels obligated.

My two cents.

The first time she tried was by my suggestion,and since then most of her tries was by her initiative.She says she loves doing it but when she senses the pre-cum she stops.Maybe the pre-cum grosses her by now .

Anyway thanks everyone who helped me out i've been talking to her and we're more relief to see this is kind normal and to have solutions.Unfortunately for me and her,we just get together twice a month in my house for these kind of things,because we can't do it in her house (there's almosto always people in there),so i need to ask my parents to don't come to our house for some hours (and they do it,i'm lucky on that =p).Thanks again for all the help,the community here is one of the best that i've ever found on forums

 

[southernsky]

Put some liquid down there that is not pre-cum, such as warm chocolate sauce, caramel, anything that she's used to and associates with good and yummy things, and use it to kind of transition her over the thought that fluids + penis is a good thing. Let her lick it off without feeling pressure to pleasure you, and let her get used to the sensation of dick in her mouth, and liquid along with that, and see if that helps.

 

[FurryFury]

I saw someone liken come to snot once. That's not such a yummy notion is it?

*shivers*

 

[Luvkitty33]

I saw someone liken come to snot once. That's not such a yummy notion is it?

*shivers*

LOL!!! Yes, if I thought cum tasted like snot then I sure as heck wouldn't want it in my mouth either!

As for the original poster's questions, I think you've received some excellent advice here.....as always! I do wonder if your girlfriend's reactions have to do with her age and both of your inexperience.

I was 18 when I first did anything of a sexual nature, and even at that age, it took me awhile to actually WANT to suck someone off. I had all these thoughts in my mind about how disgusting it was, and as a result, it was not something that I enjoyed. It took awhile for me to enjoy that, and I'm trying to remember WAY back then exactly how that happened. It might have been getting comfortable with a guy going down on me and seeing that he didn't think it was disgusting or anything, and that it was a turn-on for both of us. I'm wondering if you should just let go of the idea of her sucking you off for a little bit and do other things to please each other. Maybe try what I said might have worked for me, and then revisit it, and see if there is any change in her reaction. Just take your time and enjoy each other. Good luck!