need some help

[invaderguy]

i started dating this girl when she still had a boyfriend, and eventually i got her.. (she cheated on her bf). and now, almost a year later.. what i didnt know was she also cheated on me the first few months on me with her ex.. she never told me that she is gonna meet him or anything. and promised me that she wont see him again.. what should i do now? should i forgive her? any suggestions?

 

[EJFan]

in my experience, anyone who cheats on one SO can surely cheat on the next. this isn't to say it's guaranteed but it's sure possible.

forgive her? i dunno. what does your heart and gut say? i tend to believe that if someone cheats and then tells you about it, they're only self-serving and trying to rid themselves of the guilt. if a cheater keeps their indescretion to themselves at least that shows some concern for the affected person... telling you is all about her serving herself. that's a huge check mark in the "dump her" column for me.

 

[invaderguy]

she didnt tell, but i just found it out.as i always have a gut feeling that something was wrong.. she claims she really loves me, and will do anything to be with me...(really anythin if u know what i mean),, i really need some help and suggestions from anyone

 

[EJFan]

she didnt tell, but i just found it out.as i always have a gut feeling that something was wrong.. she claims she really loves me, and will do anything to be with me...(really anythin if u know what i mean),, i really need some help and suggestions from anyone

well... if you found out rather than her telling you i can only say to go with your gut. i wouldn't stay with her, but that's just me.

of course, if you continue having unprotected sex, whether you leave her or not, she might just wind up being part of your life forever bro.

 

[invaderguy]

tnx ej! you really helped me with my two threads...! better make up my mind...!

dont wori, i will stop having unprotected sex.. it just aint worth it huh!

 

[silverwhisper]

i can't improve on what EJ already said: he's always good for advice, i find.

and i hate to say it, but invaderguy, you might wanna go get tested, man.

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

and i hate to say it, but invaderguy, you might wanna go get tested, man.

ed

Change might to you 100% should go get tested.

 

[Eilan]

i started dating this girl when she still had a boyfriend, and eventually i got her.. (she cheated on her bf). and now, almost a year later.. what i didnt know was she also cheated on me the first few months on me with her ex..

Karma's a bitch, ain't it?

 

[jadefirefly]

Wouldn't it suck to know that you got something nasty from her ex?

I mean, ew, gross. You have NO idea what that ex of hers has got, but for all you know now you've got it too! And you didn't even have to touch him. Yuck.


Someone once said that when you have sex with someone, you're also having sex with everyone they've been with. Mmm. Yummy.

And this is why we use protection.

 

[bennsm3]

Long time listener first time caller...i just couldn't bare to stare at this carwreck and not help.

anyway just thought this fit in with this post. in the Subways of Japan right now they have started a new campaign for safe sex, it shows people walking through the street all blurry and asks, "do you know your SO's ex's partner's last SO?" (well thatis the basic translation) sounds confusing, but its funny to watch the people read it and than the shocked look on their faces like they have never thought of it that way.


wrap it.

 

[fgarvb1]

Well, you see thats the thing about cheaters, ...they cheat.

If you can take a woman from a man, she can be taken from you.

I don't know but I think one can throw the hers & hers as well as the hims & hims in there too.

That my friend is free lesson in life.

It only cost pain.