Need? Or want?

[Jada59]

Maybe this is a male/female thing.

When someone says that they need me, it doesn't seem very sexy. A lot of people need me. Stores need me to shop there. My cats need me to feed them. Stuff like that. Just seems kind of routine.

I one told a guy that I wanted him. Because I did. As in craved him. But he told me that he didn't want to be wanted by me. He wanted me to need him.

The way I see it, I don't need anyone. I am whole. I'm complete. I'm happy on my own. But if there's a person that can add to my life or give me pleasure or whatever... Then I want them. As in want them in my life or maybe just for that point in time. Does that make sense?

But... I was watching some YouTube thing by a relationship adviser and he said that men have the need to be needed.

Mayhaps I've been going about this all wrong. What says you?

 

[SissySalina]

Try looking at it like this, most males are Alpha, this mean they are leaders (they have to be at the front of the pack) as a leaded you need someone to follow otherwise you are not a leader. If you are in front that means someone is behind you, so you need someone to be behind you.
Does that help?

 

[Tnt69]

This about sums it up !

https://youtu.be/BJs_L7yq5qE

 

[twister947]

It strikes me as splitting linguistic pubic hair. But then, it's 2am here, and I'm not inclined to deep thought.

 

[Jada59]

Try looking at it like this, most males are Alpha, this mean they are leaders (they have to be at the front of the pack) as a leaded you need someone to follow otherwise you are not a leader. If you are in front that means someone is behind you, so you need someone to be behind you.
Does that help?

Ah... Perfect! Thanks! I think my problem is the way I was raised. My dad always said not to depend on anyone else but to make sure that I can depend on myself. I *know* I can depend on myself. Maybe I should just know that then let t go and relax. Again, thanks!

 

[Jada59]

This about sums it up !

https://youtu.be/BJs_L7yq5qE

One of my favorite songs and favorite guys! Not Robin. But Tom. I do like Robin but Tom is da bomb!

 

[Jada59]

It strikes me as splitting linguistic pubic hair. But then, it's 2am here, and I'm not inclined to deep thought.

OMG! I got a visual on that. You have me laughing my head off. Thanks!

 

[EctoJohn]

I'd happily accept being needed and/or wanted.

In my head, need is like an addiction to you, want is more romantic.
However, I can see them being used totally interchangeably.

 

[Jada59]

I'd happily accept being needed and/or wanted.

In my head, need is like an addiction to you, want is more romantic.
However, I can see them being used totally interchangeably.

That could be. Thanks!

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

it is nice to be wanted...
it is GREAT to be needed!!!

A friend of mine wrote it like this in our youth--,

"you know me, I'm like the wind--, I'm here and then I'm gone
I'm just here for the pleasure yeah, I won't be staying long.
what doesn't kill me makes me stronger--, oh yes indeed
if you don't thrill me any longer, I'll find another girl to need.

I'm on the move, I'm on the move, catching love out on the run.."

we lived our rocknroll life according to those tenents

 

[Nidan]

This about sums it up !

https://youtu.be/BJs_L7yq5qE

Beat me to it

 

[ShouldaSaidDiMaggio]

In a relationship I would like to be wanted. Need doesn't imply that the other person truly enjoys my company.

However, if someone told me they needed me right now in a sexy situation, that would be quite hot.

 

[PuckIt]

I tell her I need her because she is my priority.

She tells me she wants me because I'm just an option.

We would both love to be loved.

https://tse4.mm.bing.net/th?id=OIP.K4OtNn92jOdbwvKr1JdkagHaCx&pid=15.1&P=0&w=469&h=177

 

[jaF0]

Stores need me to shop there. My cats need me to feed them.

Stores need SOMEONE to shop, not necessarily you. Or me.

Cats feed themselves all the time without people. They might even eat better than all the processed bagged and canned crap people shove at them.

 

[jaF0]

it is GREAT to be needed!!!

No it isn't. In fact, it sucks. Do for your self, don't lean on me.

Sometimes it may be OK to seek the help of a neighbor or to give help to a neighbor. But when you start 'needing' help too often, fuck off.

 

[Jada59]

it is nice to be wanted...
it is GREAT to be needed!!!

A friend of mine wrote it like this in our youth--,

"you know me, I'm like the wind--, I'm here and then I'm gone
I'm just here for the pleasure yeah, I won't be staying long.
what doesn't kill me makes me stronger--, oh yes indeed
if you don't thrill me any longer, I'll find another girl to need.

I'm on the move, I'm on the move, catching love out on the run.."

we lived our rocknroll life according to those tenents

Thanks!

 

[Jada59]

In a relationship I would like to be wanted. Need doesn't imply that the other person truly enjoys my company.

However, if someone told me they needed me right now in a sexy situation, that would be quite hot.

Ahh. Thanks!

 

[LupusDei]

I'm non-English so I'm not qualified to participate in linguistic pubic hair splitting, but I believe the concepts expressed with those words are universal enough to contemplate, and context of more than one language may even be helpful.

"Want" communicate current unfulfillment, it is somewhat dreamy and have emotions in future tense. It can discuss planning of a date, closing in to the grand moment, first kiss, steadily intensifying caresses, anticipation.

"Need" communicate existing, ongoing situation, fact recognition, emotions are rather in past perfect. It can discuss animal lust in the spur of the moment, or confidence someone will welcome you home.

Traditional gender roles have clear preferences between those indeed.

 

[SirMango]

Look at it this way. Would you rather 1. I need you because I want you OR 2. I want you because I need you. I would go for 1 and I am male.

 

[oneblueye]

hey...

No it isn't. In fact, it sucks. Do for your self, don't lean on me.

Sometimes it may be OK to seek the help of a neighbor or to give help to a neighbor. But when you start 'needing' help too often, fuck off.

Boooooy, I just NEED to love ALL of YOU

self-important, self-righteous, selfish sumbitches;

you're too important and too caught up in who your next victim is going to be so lets

just get all the 'fuck you's and fuck off's outta the way right off...

I get it---, I used to live that LIFE too.

 

[liqueur]

But... I was watching some YouTube thing by a relationship adviser and he said that men have the need to be needed.

meh! I think this is the most cliche stereotyping imaginable. I wouldn't give 2 cents for his advice.

But: When the Righteous Brother croon, "Baby, I ne-eed your lovin' "—you have to admit, that's sexy... ?

 

[Jada59]

meh! I think this is the most cliche stereotyping imaginable. I wouldn't give 2 cents for his advice.

But: When the Righteous Brother croon, "Baby, I ne-eed your lovin' "—you have to admit, that's sexy... ?

Point taken!