Need opinions/answers

[chu1616]

I don't want to bombard everyone with all of the questions I have about male sexuality all at once so I'll start with just a few:

1. Is it true that the older a man gets, (say mid 40s), that he loses his sex drive? I have always thought that the male sex drive was as absolute as death and taxes.

2. Do you know or have you heard of a guy who loves oral sex and hand jobs, but just cannot/will not have an orgasm this way?

I'm brand new to the boards, but love the stories and am really impressed by the creativity here. I love to look at porn, but reading the stories is what turns me on the most--aside from actual sex, that is.

 

[silverwhisper]

1. i believe that yes, it's common for there to be less desire for sex, i believe. after all, theoretically men hit our sexual peaks at the age of 18; women, early-mid 30s IIRC.

2. i usually can't, either, for whatever that's worth.

ed

 

[Cathleen]

Kind of a generic answer so please forgive me, but everyone is different. I'm sure there are some 'generalities' but what's normal for one isn't always the same for another.

Welcome to Lit... enjoy!

 

[kiwichyck]

1. Is it true that the older a man gets, (say mid 40s), that he loses his sex drive? I have always thought that the male sex drive was as absolute as death and taxes.

2. Do you know or have you heard of a guy who loves oral sex and hand jobs, but just cannot/will not have an orgasm this way?

1. I don't know. Depends on the individual. My mans drive seems less as he gets older, but I think that may just be because I want it more!

2. Yes. DH enjoys the sensations of both, but he's never climaxed that way without something extra going on.

 

[bobsgirl]

I don't want to bombard everyone with all of the questions I have about male sexuality all at once so I'll start with just a few:

1. Is it true that the older a man gets, (say mid 40s), that he loses his sex drive? I have always thought that the male sex drive was as absolute as death and taxes.

2. Do you know or have you heard of a guy who loves oral sex and hand jobs, but just cannot/will not have an orgasm this way?

I'm brand new to the boards, but love the stories and am really impressed by the creativity here. I love to look at porn, but reading the stories is what turns me on the most--aside from actual sex, that is.

1. I'm going to make an educated guess that older men go more for quality than quantity. There are plenty of men around here in their forties and fifties. They don't appear to have lost their sex drives.

2. Yes.

 

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[Eilan]

Guess my husband didn't get the memo. He's 48, BTW.

Cate's right on the money. Everyone's different.

 

[wally2450]

I have read that mens testosterone levels start to drop in their late thirties. Your doctor could help you with this.

 

[M's girl]

Guess my husband didn't get the memo.

LOL

Keep it that way!

 

[manofsteel52]

I don't want to bombard everyone with all of the questions I have about male sexuality all at once so I'll start with just a few:

1. Is it true that the older a man gets, (say mid 40s), that he loses his sex drive? I have always thought that the male sex drive was as absolute as death and taxes.

2. Do you know or have you heard of a guy who loves oral sex and hand jobs, but just cannot/will not have an orgasm this way?

I'm brand new to the boards, but love the stories and am really impressed by the creativity here. I love to look at porn, but reading the stories is what turns me on the most--aside from actual sex, that is.

I'm 54 and my sex drive is at least what it was when I was 18-30. I intend to keep it that way as long as I'm consuming oxygen.

I've heard of them, but I'm really happy I'm not one of 'em!.

 

[phoenix1224]

1. Is it true that the older a man gets, (say mid 40s), that he loses his sex drive? I have always thought that the male sex drive was as absolute as death and taxes.

For some men, yes, it is true.

But for most men, a more accurate statement would be that as he gets older, the more likely it is that he will experience erection problems.

2. Do you know or have you heard of a guy who loves oral sex and hand jobs, but just cannot/will not have an orgasm this way?

Yes... ME.

I love receiving oral sex and hand jobs, but have never orgasmed from them.

 

[midwestyankee]

1. Is it true that the older a man gets, (say mid 40s), that he loses his sex drive? I have always thought that the male sex drive was as absolute as death and taxes.

2. Do you know or have you heard of a guy who loves oral sex and hand jobs, but just cannot/will not have an orgasm this way?

1. We're all different, to be sure. I don't think that my drive, per se, has changed much during my adult life and I'm well north of 40. That said, the recovery time isn't what it used to be as Scaly said. Given the circumstances, I'm sure that I could still pull an all-nighter. It would just be a crime of opportunity, so to speak.

2. I've seen posts here by men who had trouble with climaxing from both of these forms of stimulation but I don't count myself among their number. My suspicion is that a lot of men train themselves to not ejaculate when receiving oral sex because of a fear (real or perceived) that their partner will not like it. I also think that a lot of men use very firm pressure or get into the habit of using certain specific movements during masturbation and this makes it more difficult for their partners to give them a reasonable facsimile.

As Eilan suggested about her hubby, I think I missed the memo on the dropping drive thing. Oh well.

 

[uksilverlining]

I'm waiting for mine to drop off so I can do other things with my life

 

[deliverer]

Regarding your question #2

This is not uncommon at all. There is much more to erection and ejaculation than mere stimulation. Much of it is imagination.
Now I realize this does not hold true for everyone. I realize that much of the dysfunction that surrounds these things is clinical and can not be helped.
But I feel that in general the key, along with stimulation, for a good erection or a good orgasm is imagination.
There is a third element that comes into play and that is your level of control.
sooner or later one reaches the point when they are ready to cum....the trick is to be able to hold it off if your not ready, or to be able to unleash if you are ready. As with much in the world, this all requires balance.
I believe one that can be achieved with a little practice!

 

[Kinky-Princess]

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[cymbline]

1. I am over 40 (okay, over 45 ) and I do not think I have any less desire for sex than I did when I was 20, although my recovery time is not the same as it was then.

I was talking to a friend of my about this yesterday. He said the same thing, he is 42. It is the recovery time that is not the same as when he was in his twenties.

Cathleen is right everyone is different.

 

[jethrobodeen]

1. Is it true that the older a man gets, (say mid 40s), that he loses his sex drive? I have always thought that the male sex drive was as absolute as death and taxes.

2. Do you know or have you heard of a guy who loves oral sex and hand jobs, but just cannot/will not have an orgasm this way?

1. Possibly. Sometimes. It depends. There was a time not long ago when the drive wasn't there for me, but that was due to life-shit and eventually worked around it, but now again I wake up almost every morning with a throbbing hard-on ready for action. I do not plan on losing this in any way, shape, or form! Mornings and afternoons are best for me and DW, well her anyway, I'm in my own time zone.

2. Sure, it happens. My DW had some learning and experimenting to do, and needed a little nudge, or perhaps encouragment in the enthusiasm department to get me off regularly. But now that's not a problem, my how her technique has improved!

-JB

 

[SI_Guy]

!) Like most others here I find my recup time is somewhat longer now but I still want and need sex as much now as I did at 18...maybe more. Im in my late 40s.

2) I enjoy both blowjobs and handjobs, I can usually cum from a handjob, although not always. I can count on 1 hand and not use all the fingers how many times I have cum from a blowjob. And it isnt the persons technique or anything like that. I can get THAT close but not go over the edge.

My 2 cents.