Need Female Perspective on Anal

[Guest]

Hi Lit Gals

Can you give a guy some adivice and perspective on this.

I have for many years wanted to try Anal with my wife. Once or twice she has allowed us the attempt. But never wnet thought with it. Always saying that it was uncomfortable.

The other night she allowed me to play with her anus with my finger durring sex and she appeared to enjoy it. So I am thinking that maybe I would try to get her to try again.

Do you like Anal and if so how did you first come to try it?

If you dont - why not ?

If you have not tried it - why not ?

Thanks in advance

Wanting to try the road less traveled

 

[SexyChele]

This question has been asked a lot on this board. I will go ahead and answer your question, but I suggest you do a search and see what threads might come up

I personally love anal sex. However, it took me quite a while to get there. You ask about the first, but I think you will find that almost all women will tell you their first experiences with anal were painful or uncomfortable. You might want to re-ask your question as to their first pleasant experience.

Often men are very curious and eager about anal sex, but they don't take the time to educate themselves on how to do this properly. Most (uneducated) men seem to think the anus is just like the vagina, and if a woman is "ready" he should be able to just ram it in and have her enjoy it. If you are one to feel that way, let me suggest your wife take a dildo and ram it into you. I'm joking, of course, but when phrased that way, most men get the drift. It can HURT!!!

It helps to build up to anal - with fingers, tongue, and very slim anal plugs. This gets your wife used the feeling. Another important factor is cleanliness. Most women are uncomfortable because they don't think they are "clean". Using an enema prior to play will help this problem, and put your wife more at ease.

It is also important to realize that the anus is not self-lubricating like the vagina. You will need lube - and more lube - and still more lube. And just when you think you have enough, still more. Then just a little more for good measure. Better to have too much than not enough. Also, stay away from products like Vaseline - it is petroleum-based and that can hurt/damage the sensitive tissue of the anus. You are best off using a water-soluble lube, such as KY. Using Crisco or olive oil works as well, but is such a hassle to clean up, not to mention if it gets on the sheets!

The best "starter" position is for your wife to be on her hands and knees, back straight. She should also be in a very heightened state of arousal. Place the head of your cock at her anus and let her tell you when it might be okay. When you push into the anus, do is S L O W L Y. At the same time (and this is the true secret to anal sex), your wife should push out, as though having a bowel movement. If you've used enough lube, and you go slowly, as she pushes out, you should just slide right in.

Once the head is in, S T O P!!! The feeling may be a bit uncomfortable to her. She might have a "stretched" feeling as well as a feeling of fullness - much like needing to use the bathroom. It helps if you or she rub her clit with fingers or vibrator. The feeling of being stretched will pass, but wait for her to say when to continue. And have the lube at the ready in case more is needed. If she says it hurts, slide out of her carefully!

She should let you know when she is ready - either verbally or by moving her body back against you. If you feel friction, apply lube. She may have to stop periodically as she gets used to the feeling. Let her. It also helps during this time, if she pushes out periodically. That relaxes the sphincter muscles, the ones that cause the "pain".

Once you have entered her fully, or as much as she feels comfortable with, stop and let her determine when to continue. Once she gives the "OK", begin to move slowly and carefully. Keep pressure on the clit - either manual or with a vibrator. As the anus stretches and she becomes more used to you, you should be able to move with more speed.

If at anytime she states she is in pain, pull out - but NOT quickly! OUCHIE! Pull out slowly and carefully. Also, never remove your cock from her anus and then put it into her vagina - that can cause infection, even though she is clean. Also, do not place your cock in her mouth after anal sex. Once you are finished, or the activity is stopped, you should go to the restroom and cleanse yourself thoroughly. (again, even though she is "clean")

Good luck, and try to move at her pace. If she feels pressured into it, anal sex will be no fun to her.

 

[JilloryIsMoist]

I particularly like anus to anus contact. It's hard work, and requires limberness, but I only seem to end up dating people with dislocatable (painlessly) hips - not a peccadillo, just a strange twist of fate - so we meld together beautifully.

A word of warning on anal penetration making you feel like you need to go to the toilet. On one occasion a lover had a finger inside me and I felt like I needed to go to the toilet; rather than laughing and them getting miffed, I proceeded to hang on in there. Imagine the surprise on his face when it turned out that I actually did need to go to the toilet.

Skeee bop bop boh dop bop, bop bop boh dop bop, he's the scatman. Skeeby deeby dee bop boh dop bop. He cleans well under his fingernails when done. He still bites them, dontchaknow. Owww, jaggies.

 

[MissTaken]

Hmmm I was drunk my first time, so didn't realize it was supposed to be uncomfortable.

Everything after that has been icing

Heed sexy chele.

The lady doth know of that which she speaks!

 

[truecelt2]

Warming her up to anal...

Chele - never heard anal how to said so well! ::bowing::

My partners have always enjoyed prolonged oral play prior to anal penetration. As Chele says, some women feel unclean - so do what it takes to change that perception (enema, bath, shower, warm washcloth ;-).

Patience is the appropriate virtue. Start slow. Talk about it. Go slow - very little, teasing stimulation with mouth and fingertip.
Domination is fun - but let the lady do the driving her first time.

If you've properly prepared her for you - she'll start moving and asking for more faster than you expect.

And a bonus for the wee men oot there - thickness is not an asset in this event!

All the best!
John

 

[Guest]

Great Help

SexyChele

Thanks for such a detailed reply. I have searched the board and read a lot about anal. Most replys are just a "you gotta go slow and keep trying" type of responce.

Yours was a very detailed FAQ on the subject.

Thanks once again for you time.


Wanting to Try the Road less traveled