need a bit of help

[big hank]

I have been married for 25 years and both me and my wife were virgins . We never did anything sexually before we married ( yep we only kissed ). My wife is the most self disiplined person I know. She is in great shape and has gained only 7 lbs. in all these years. A year ago I ran into my high school girlfriend. She has turned into this incredible BBW. We have been spending alot of time together and have recently begun to have oral sex. Often. I did not realize how wonderful BBW's could be and how amazing sex in general is. My question is how do I stop. I feel like crap.

 

[M's girl]

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[pleasantville]

A cheater is a cheater. If you don't want to stay married than get out of it. Be a man and don't hide it.

 

[SweetErika]

So, what exactly is your problem? That you are now 'stuck' with this woman who is shaped so well and has it together (and you are not?) or that you found out only now that you should have waited to get married anyway? Why do you mention the BBW thing? What has that got to do with it?

Basically you are cheating on your wife and for some reason you think you should stop that (and I agree). So, what's the problem? Just stop. There will always be other women who might be interesting but you made a choice to be with this one. The grass is always greener and so forth. Stop being selfish and weak and focus your energy to make your marriage work better...

Amen, sister!

I can only guess what body type has to do with this. From what I can tell though, a lot of people have major misconceptions about larger people, and especially curvier women. In my time here, I've seen lots of threads asking if BBWs are better or worse at oral and sex in general, meaner, smell/taste worse, lazy all around and embarrassing to be seen with. Maybe Old Hank thought some of those things himself, and is surprised at how wrong he was, or perhaps he's just excited to be with a completely different woman, body type included.

Hank, stop taking your clothes off. If you can't manage that, stop seeing this woman completely. If you still find that too difficult, ask your wife if she minds opening the relationship (you wouldn't mind her fucking other people, right?) or get a divorce. You can stop cheating if you start using your big head.

 

[Jaydoes]

well.....

If you don't have the balls to be good to your wife....you are crap!

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I'm sure everything gets a bit mundane after 25yrs together but most men would be jealous as hell of the fact that your wife hasn't gained any weight. Everybody has a string of excuses when they have an affair - and whether you've penetrated this BBW or not, you're having an affair.

It may be a tough decision to leave your wife after all this time but the way you're behaving now is cowardly and untenable in the long term.

You know you have a choice to make. Make it and live with it.

 

[lushlucid]

ahhh
why do they always ask for help AFTER they've fucked up.

ask your wife to put some weight on

i love how you went from being the innocent virgin to cheating on your wife.

 

[Muscadine_Eyes]

I have been married for 25 years and both me and my wife were virgins . We never did anything sexually before we married ( yep we only kissed ). My wife is the most self disiplined person I know. She is in great shape and has gained only 7 lbs. in all these years. A year ago I ran into my high school girlfriend. She has turned into this incredible BBW. We have been spending alot of time together and have recently begun to have oral sex. Often. I did not realize how wonderful BBW's could be and how amazing sex in general is. My question is how do I stop. I feel like crap.

Tell her.

I hope you don't have kids, already.

 

[Straight-8]

Ahh the morality police have jumped all over you on this one Buddy! But I have to agree with M's Girl that you aren't very clear about what advice you need. If you want to stop, follow SweetErika's advice: "leave your clothes on".

If you want to feel better about yourself you have three choices:
1) Level with your spouse as has been suggested and take the consequences. Just remember you are NOT doing this for your wife (however much the moralists may say it) you are doing it so you feel better about YOURSELF;
2) Decide that you and your wife are incompatable and leave her for this girl (rationalization); or
3) Accept what you have done and keep your mouth shut (forever - live with it!) and your head down and hope it never comes out - probably smart to only try this if you also stop but it is up to you. I'm not your conscience.

If you go for either #1 (and the relationship survives) or #3 for goodness sake LEARN FROM THIS EXPERIENCE. I suspect your wife gets about as much out of your relationship as you do - not much. If you decide to stay with your wife you need to bring her along on this voyage of discovery that is life. And sex is and should be a huge part of that life.

 

[silverwhisper]

hank, i'm not gonna judge you, but i think you really need to figure out what it is you really want. if your wife knew, how would she react?

when you come right down to it, i think your next step is entirely dependent upon what's in your heart.

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