Namaste`

[Intrepid_Arjuna]

Greetings !! from India....

Im a very avid consumer of all the fabulous stories produced from here...Thank you all for some really great stuff! Its the first time Im posting, and I feel honored to be in company of such creative people...

I had a small question while we are at it...How do some of the authors manage to write stories about a sexual orientation they dont belong to. I mean...If I was gay, and I had to write about straight encounters, I would find it very hard (not that I would do a great job with gay encounters)!

Please ignore my ignorance if Im asking something too obvious, or if its too soon for me to be asking questions.

Thank you and please keep up the good work!!

 

[oggbashan]

...I had a small question while we are at it...How do some of the authors manage to write stories about a sexual orientation they dont belong to. I mean...If I was gay, and I had to write about straight encounters, I would find it very hard (not that I would do a great job with gay encounters)!

Please ignore my ignorance if Im asking something too obvious, or if its too soon for me to be asking questions.

Thank you and please keep up the good work!!

We use our imagination.

And we read what has already been shown to be popular in that category.

Og

 

[neonlyte]

Welcome to the AH

I tend to stick to my own orientation but have penned a Lesbian story without 'anyone noticing'. Good Luck with the writing.

 

[rgraham666]

What ogg and neon said.

Welcome to the AH.

 

[tickledkitty]

I've just finished writing a lesbian encounter, but I'm not gay. I think I try to put myself in the character's shoes. I know what feels good, and I know what turns me on. It would probably be the same, or at least very similar, whoever was doing it to me. At least, that's what I think, and that's how I approach it.

I think about smells and how things feel against my skin. Men seem to have a sort of musky scent that can be arousing. So, women? Perfume, the scent of their aroused pussy...I just twist it to fit the situation. Everybody's skin tastes kind of salty-sweet and has a similar feel against your own. Men are generally more hairy and rough. Women are more smooth and soft. Nipples tend to react similarly to sexual stimulation on both men and women. I'm generalizing here, but I hope you get the idea.

This is the second lesbian piece I've written, and I had no complaints on the first one. People seemed to like it fine. We'll see how the current one goes once it's posted. I also wrote a story from a man's point of view, but I haven't submitted it yet. One thing I'll probably never try is gay male because it's just too foreign to me. You never know though...

 

[fieryjen]

It's pretty much like writing anything else I don't have a clue about. How would I know what it feels like to be bitten by a vampire? Or to have a broken arm? I've never experienced any of those things, yet I've written about them.

I wrote my first erotic stories long before I ever had sex. They're horrible, but... still.

 

[cloudy]

I had lots of help with my lesbian story from a couple of wonderful lesbian authors.

 

[TxRad]

Welcome to the madhouse we lovingly call the AH.

I have age on my side, which has given me plenty of time to observe people and how they react in situations. The rest is all out of my imagination. I write stories from both points of view, male and female. Obviously only one is my real sex.

As for gay, I've tried lesbian stories and don't have a problem with them. I haven't yet tried the other half of that coin. That'll be another step outside my comfortable box.

Writers stretch themselves as they venture into unknown waters. Science fiction and period stories are another stretch. We all live in a narrow scope of the present. None of us have lived in the far past or even the near future. Imagination can take you anywhere.

 

[jomar]

What they said.

And welcome to the AH Intrepid.

 

[sr71plt]

Imagination, trained research technique, and broad reading interests. I might be helped by being bi.

 

[impressive]

Research. *nods*

 

[lightsaver]

Post a thread, let some research come to you.

Not that I would know, I'm not an author. Just an avid fan of what I've read on here.

The avatars aren't too shabby either I might add, as I tip toe outta here.

 

[glynndah]

A welcome for the little newbie from the good little witch.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

Greetings back to India! You are most gracious with your kind words about the authors here. Welcome indeed.

 

[Guest]

In addition to what everyone else has said, I'd suggest that you don't have to BE gay to have a same-sex experience... If nothing else, your own reactions (positive and/or negative) might well provide the stuff of half a dozen stories.

Just a thought.

Can't remember who wrote it, but, "If I do it once I'm a philosopher. If I do it twice, I'm a pervert."

(Guess which one I am!) :caning:

 

[SlickTony]

Welcome to AH, Intrepid!

As for writing from a sexual orientation or POV that is not yours, I think Ogg said it best.

I've written 3 gay male stories (well, 2 GM and one group sex that became pretty gay towards the end)--that and the First Time story I submitted for the Winter Holiday contest make 4 stories I've written from a male POV, and people seemed to like them. Wait, I was forgetting the Fetish story I wrote. That makes five.

Lord knows, if we had to limit ourselves strictly to our own experience to write anything, precious little would get written.

 

[gauchecritic]

It's never too soon to ask questions Intrepid.

Hello and welcome to the AH.

If you consider that most stories on Lit are about people and what they like to do then it's not really so far removed from the old saying "write what you know." What subject can anyone be more knowledgeable about than what they like?

So unless you're gong to make things up about what knots to use in a BDSM scene then 'what you know' is about all you can write about.

You know how skin feels, you know what orgasms are like, so what you know is what everyone else knows. You just have to find a way to connect your writing with the reader.

 

[3113]

I had a small question while we are at it...How do some of the authors manage to write stories about a sexual orientation they dont belong to. I mean...If I was gay, and I had to write about straight encounters, I would find it very hard (not that I would do a great job with gay encounters)!

Greetings back! It's wonderful to hear from satisfied readers and writers from around the globe.

I'm female and the first erotic stories I ever wrote were gay male--which I consider to be half-beyond my experience. As a heterosexual female, I know what it's like to have sex with a guy. So I'm half there. I just don't know what it's like to be a guy having sex with a guy (I'm half there for a lesbian story, come to that--I know what it's like as a female to enjoy sex). And, yes, I did do research, extensive research as well as reading a lot of the gay erotica already written up here.

But here's the interesting thing...when you start to examine, really examine the human body, you learn that men and women aren't so far apart as we think. The clitoris and penis are, for all intents and purposes, the same organ. Here's some anatomical info I got from one site:

The genital swelling forms the female labia majora, or outer lips, homologous to the male scrotal sac. It remains split in women, forming the vulval opening, while fusing in men to form the scrotal raphe. The urogenital folds develop into the visible male foreskin and female labia minora and clitoral hood. Most remarkable though, is the internal development of the urogenital folds. Beneath the skin, they grow into the male phallic shaft and the hidden portion of the female clitoris. These contain homologous erectile tissue, which swells when stimulated, becoming engorged. Yes, that means a woman can and does, like her man, become 'erect' when her clitoris is stimulated.

In other words, a man can think on how it feels to have his own penis stimulated to imagine how it must feel for a woman to have her clit stimulated, and vice versa, because when all is said and done, the two aren't that dissimilar. We can close our eyes and imagine how we feel, and use that feeling for the opposite sex...and be at least partially correct.

Which is not to say that a writer can ignore the research. There *are* differences; testosterone does not feel the same as estrogen, and there are different rules for what attracts and lures one sex to another. There's differences in the build of the body down to our center of gravity and body strength. If you're a woman writing as or about a man, you might want to find out what it's like to adjust testicles in one's shorts, and if you're a man writing as or about a woman, you might want to find out what it's like to adjust breasts in a bra

Writers are notoriously curious and, on this forum, rarely afraid to ask question about anything. But the nitty-gritty moment of sexual stimulation isn't too far apart between men and woman, and isn't that difficult to imagine, if one wants to imagine it how it feels for the other sex.

 

[tickledkitty]

Lord knows, if we had to limit ourselves strictly to our own experience to write anything, precious little would get written.

Gawd, ain't that the truth!

 

[tickledkitty]

I'm female and the first erotic stories I ever wrote were gay male--which I consider to be half-beyond my experience. As a heterosexual female, I know what it's like to have sex with a guy. So I'm half there. I just don't know what it's like to be a guy having sex with a guy (I'm half there for a lesbian story, come to that--I know what it's like as a female to enjoy sex). And, yes, I did do research, extensive research as well as reading a lot of the gay erotica already written up here.

This is so smart to think of it that way! I might have to give gay male a try some time after all. I mean writing it, of course.

 

[TE999]

Welcome to the AH Intrepid.

I have written to many different cats. on Lit with varying degrees of success.

My Lesbian stories have been well received--and I am a straight Male.

I have included Gay Male encounters in some stories---but have not written for the cat. as yet.

The fact remains that we are dealing in fantasies here--If you have a fair grasp of the subject matter--then add some sex and viola--a story emerges.

It's a bit more complicated than that of course--but you get the drift.

Good luck with your story writing.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

In order to write gay male stuff, I watch a lot of gay porn. *sigh* Somebody has to do the research.

 

[cantdog]

In order to write gay male stuff, I watch a lot of gay porn. *sigh* Somebody has to do the research.

Your devotion to your craft is an inspiration to all of us. *nods*

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Your devotion to your craft is an inspiration to all of us. *nods*

I do what I can.

 

[Intrepid_Arjuna]

Thanks everyone for the incredible welcome...!! Im thorougly encouraged to visit here more often..

And thanks for some very interesting insights into how erotica is conceptualized and imagined. Now I realize writing about sex and having it are so totally different....

I'll try to respond to and thank each of the posts individually, if the excessive sleepiness allows me to...