My wife really surprised me this weekend...

[Chi-Guy31]

So, this is the one place where I can share the details of the wonderful weekend I just had with my wife, where she completely surprised me sexually in ways I did not think would happen!

I have posted in other threads about how much I love my wife but that our sex life has often be infrequent or downright stalled for weeks on end. It has been discussed many times and it is mainly due to some physical pain she experiences from an old car accident, so that can keep out of action for awhile. Plus, I have most often been the initiator when it comes to sex, both to start it and during teh act as well. If we have sex twice a month, then that has been a good month. This is how it has been mostly during our 5+ years together (including dating, living together and now being married). There was a spike last summer in frequency and energy, but then things cooled again, things felt more inhibited and I was resigned to just dealing with this and unloading any expectations I might have for our sex life.

Well, this weekend, she completely amazed and surprised me. From Thursday through til last night, we had more sex than we have had in the past 5 months! She initiated, she herself suggested positions (I usually am the one who has to say when to change positions, she has never stated any preferences), she was more adventurous - who knows what happened? We would often warm up and play in the shower first and she did something I have always wanted her to do - play with my ass! While soaping up, she thoroughly explored my ass with her fingers while also jerking my cock and it was total bliss. Afterwards, in bed, she rode me reverse cowgirl style so she could play with my balls and continue to finger my ass - brilliant!

I am admitted ass fan and fan of all anal stimulation, both giving and receiving, so I worship my wife's marvelous rump. I was able to give her extensive, long neck, back and butt massages this weekend, eventually probing her ass lovingly with tongue and fingers. Now, sometime last year, anal sex was taken off the menu by her request. I thought she had enjoyed previous occurences, but I guess I assumed too much. I respected my wife and did not push the issue during the hiatus. So, imagine my surprise when this weekend we had anal sex 3 times and it was the best, more intense I have ever experienced! The butt massage twice lead to this, with her flat on her stomach while I entered her and from her heated reactions she was really taking much pleasure from it. Then last night, while she rode me cowgirl style, we moved quickly from vaginal to anal and my mind then just melted. There was no warm up, just a quick fingering, I scrambled for the lube to help out, and then away we went! It was furious, I was worried about causing her pain, but it was bliss for the both of us and verbalized often. Again, I do not know what changed with her, she had noted last year that this did not do much for her, but this weekend she was just on fire. I pounded her ass like it was her snatch and she went all the more crazy for it, as deep as I could go. Simply amazing!

So I am on cloud nine today, had to share my thoughts with somebody and this is the perfect site! Has anyone experienced an unexplainable shift in their partner, when it comes to sex?

 

[silverwhisper]

i haven't, no. i know it's a tough thing to look a gift horse in the mouth as it were, but did you ask her?

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

I think thats awesome that you had such a wonderful time.




And, I really really hate to rain on your parade - and don't let this worry you too much - but the first thing I thought of when you asked the question was that she could be cheating, simply because thats one of the "symptoms" that is sometimes connected. However, seriously, I don't think this is it.

 

[SueJ]

Soooo happy for you, Chi-Guy! Keep those fires burning now.

Sue

 

[Monazwx]

I think thats awesome that you had such a wonderful time.

And, I really really hate to rain on your parade - and don't let this worry you too much - but the first thing I thought of when you asked the question was that she could be cheating, simply because thats one of the "symptoms" that is sometimes connected. However, seriously, I don't think this is it.

My first thought too was, "Is she having an affair?", but it sounds more like a case of pent-up passion.
Just enjoy.

 

[Chi-Guy31]

Thanks for the comments everyone!

Yeah, I certainly did not want to look a gift horse in the mouth, just felt like riding the wave of pleasure instead of questioning where it came from. She and I don't often explicitly discuss what turns us on, she claims to have no fantasies and such and times when I have broached the subject it never turned out well. I guess I just wanted to avoid drawing attention to the change, lest she feel more awkward about it.

As for cheating, yes, highly improbable. She is not one who has had an overactive sex drive in the past, so it has never seemed like she needed more than what she gets from our activity. I have heard of the same idea, though, that a sudden shift sexually can be a result of the partner having someone else on the side.

I think I am still tingling from last night...

 

[Ezzy]

I think she found your links to Lit on the computer and she has spent the last 5 months doing intensive research into what you say you like on the BB.

She has also studied all of the blank manual and worked out that it is not wrong for her to either initiate an encounter or ask for what she wants.

She still has some work to do in the communication department, but it sure does sound like a good start.

 

[cndallas]

So, this is the one place where I can share the details of the wonderful weekend I just had with my wife, where she completely surprised me sexually in ways I did not think would happen!

I have posted in other threads about how much I love my wife but that our sex life has often be infrequent or downright stalled for weeks on end. It has been discussed many times and it is mainly due to some physical pain she experiences from an old car accident, so that can keep out of action for awhile. Plus, I have most often been the initiator when it comes to sex, both to start it and during teh act as well. If we have sex twice a month, then that has been a good month. This is how it has been mostly during our 5+ years together (including dating, living together and now being married). There was a spike last summer in frequency and energy, but then things cooled again, things felt more inhibited and I was resigned to just dealing with this and unloading any expectations I might have for our sex life.

Well, this weekend, she completely amazed and surprised me. From Thursday through til last night, we had more sex than we have had in the past 5 months! She initiated, she herself suggested positions (I usually am the one who has to say when to change positions, she has never stated any preferences), she was more adventurous - who knows what happened? We would often warm up and play in the shower first and she did something I have always wanted her to do - play with my ass! While soaping up, she thoroughly explored my ass with her fingers while also jerking my cock and it was total bliss. Afterwards, in bed, she rode me reverse cowgirl style so she could play with my balls and continue to finger my ass - brilliant!

I am admitted ass fan and fan of all anal stimulation, both giving and receiving, so I worship my wife's marvelous rump. I was able to give her extensive, long neck, back and butt massages this weekend, eventually probing her ass lovingly with tongue and fingers. Now, sometime last year, anal sex was taken off the menu by her request. I thought she had enjoyed previous occurences, but I guess I assumed too much. I respected my wife and did not push the issue during the hiatus. So, imagine my surprise when this weekend we had anal sex 3 times and it was the best, more intense I have ever experienced! The butt massage twice lead to this, with her flat on her stomach while I entered her and from her heated reactions she was really taking much pleasure from it. Then last night, while she rode me cowgirl style, we moved quickly from vaginal to anal and my mind then just melted. There was no warm up, just a quick fingering, I scrambled for the lube to help out, and then away we went! It was furious, I was worried about causing her pain, but it was bliss for the both of us and verbalized often. Again, I do not know what changed with her, she had noted last year that this did not do much for her, but this weekend she was just on fire. I pounded her ass like it was her snatch and she went all the more crazy for it, as deep as I could go. Simply amazing!

So I am on cloud nine today, had to share my thoughts with somebody and this is the perfect site! Has anyone experienced an unexplainable shift in their partner, when it comes to sex?

Maybe she discovered Lit finally.



Whatever the reason, congrats.

 

[Chi-Guy31]

HAHA!! Yep, my first thoughts were either that she finally decided to follow the links I gave her to Lit and its boards and stories, or she finally decided to dive into my porn DVDs and see what really turns me on (one guess: anal)! I would hope she would communicate to me if this is the case, as they are both aspects of my sexuality which she has previously not shown an interest.

If it is not this, then I say, "Damn, woman, why have you been hiding this side of yourself!"

 

[SweetErika]

Congratulations, and best wishes for continued passion and incredible sex!

My husband kind of changed like that last year. I know for a fact he wasn't cheating, and his explanation was that my own reawakening and sexual risk-taking combined with more communication and his decision to listen was the catalyst. Once he took some steps and got lots of positive feedback, everything started getting better and easier...it still is, in fact.

 

[Chi-Guy31]

Good to know, SweetErika, I am wondering if it was the same for my wife, but then I have always tried to be supportive, give lots of great feedback before, during and after sex and yet there was not much change over the years. Maybe it just finally sunk in? I am hoping that our sex life does revert back to what it was. I also will try to not lean on the anal sex option too much. What happened last year was that my wife felt I was becoming a bit too focused on it, leading to her eventually putting the kibosh on it completely. I can't lose it again!

 

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[Chi-Guy31]

Thanks for the comments, JenStar, good to know what it was like from your side. Maybe it is sort of a "fuck it all, why not just have fun with this" type of shift fro my wife as well. I am one who never wants to make the lady feel uncomfortable or that she has to submit to something just to make me happy. I need to know the she enjoys the activity as much as I do, otherwise I'll just stop. Now I just need to get my wife interested in porn and erotic stories in the same way you are and then there is nothing left for me to hide!

By the way, your pic in the other thread is super!

 

[hatara]

Could be that the massages helped to relieve the pain of the old injuries. Add to that I am sure she is probably as frustrated with the former lack of sex as you were. I really don't think that it was that she was having or started an affair.

May I also suggest that maybe next time you start with a massage with warmed Kama Sutra oil. Between the warm massage and the scent she will be in heaven!!!

 

[Chi-Guy31]

I would love to add oil to the massage, Hatara, and have asked during massages in the past, but she says no, saying she does not like the feeling of the oil all over her, preferring skin on skin. Hmmm. Well, maybe this is something else that has changed for her?

 

[hatara]

It also depends very much on the oil being used. Also make sure to just apply them lightly and not use a lot. A little goes a long way. The Body Shop also has massage oil that you add just a few drops of essential oil to and mix together for a wonderful Aromatherpy experience. That oil is far lighter and designed to just be absorbed so that your skin doesn't have that oily feel to it afterward.

 

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[Chi-Guy31]

Good advice, hatara, I will keep that in mind and look for those products ASAP!

And yep, JenStar, she kept it up again for me last night! I still can't believe her record-setting drive. It was almost midnight, I was set to read for a bit and then go to bed, but she proceeded to get naked and remove my clothes as well! The action got heated very quickly and again went quickly from vaginal into anal sex, then progressing through standing doggie, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl and then regular doggie style anal. It was mind-blowing and I am still amazing at how much she is enjoying the deep anal pounding, it truly is a dream come true. I thought the headboard on the bed was about the split in half!

 

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