familyfun333
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My therapist thinks am twsited & perverted for having INCEST fantasies, I feel crappy
I am writing this because as new member I know that Literotic is a safe and mature place to explore and enjoy a variety of sexual fantasies. Also it seems to me that the owners and moderators of this site are progressive enough that they have created a forum where adult folk can read and write about their incest role play scenarios.
I just wanted to get this off my chest because my self esteem has gone rock bottom since I met with my therapist this week and I told her about my incest fantasies. She showed no compassion and actually made me feel like I was on my own with this one after referring to my sexuality as a "twisted" and "perverted" one. Now, I know some folks here might take the "twisted" and "perverted" designation as a compliment or a badge of honor (in a light hearted sort of humorous way), but her diagnosis of me was cold and lacking in any understanding or empathy.
She wasn't too pleased when I told her about my fantasies. She actually became quite moralistic about it, a bit judgmental, and it was odd because in the past she seemed very liberal with issues pertaining to homosexuality, abortion, birth control, and sex. She was more interested in doping me up with medications (which I don’t need) than to explore where these fantasies have arisen from. Her response was odd because it came from an individual that is not religious in any manner, and is most likely an atheist because of her Freudian psychiatric background, and the almost ridicule she places on religious, spiritual, superstitious, and esoteric issues which I bring up from time to time.
What gets me is that in our culture the therapeutic, medical, educational, and sexology establishment has been telling us, for about forty years now, since the onset of the sexual revolution, that varied erotic fantasies are not bad, that they can be healthy, and if done in a manner where laws are not broken, or no one is mentally or physically hurt can actually benefit relationships (if the other partner is in accordance) and can actually enhance an adult individual's sexuality. A great example of this progressive philosophy in action is an institution like Literotica which I think provides an incredible public service for responsible adults to express themselves.
But where am confused at her negative prognosis is that during my many sessions with her I always stressed that my incest fantasies where just that - “fantasies” plain and simple. A little about myself and my sexual likes relating to incest: I like tame incest fantasies, I like to role play them (with my self for now - I have never done it with a partner because my wife doesn‘t understand). I don’t partake in incest fantasies that are rough, BDSM oriented, no one gets raped, tied up, or forced to do anything, I only fantasize about people who are over 18 or 21, and that are in a very consensual loving and nurturing scenario. To make it even more clear, (and I have explained this to the doctor many times) my incest fantasies are symbolic in nature. They involved idealized and symbolic mothers, sons, dad, and daughters. They don’t involve my real family members - yikes and eeeccchhh!!! I don’t find my parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. sexually arousing at all. Actually to think of them in sexually incest related ways is quite the turn off, or “wood” killer, if you catch my drift! I like to make people up, or I fantasize about other real families that I know about, either next door neighbors or celebrities. I would not mind hearing about other people and their real life very consensual responsible situations - but only if they don’t involve sexual and mental abuse, and am not interested in anyway in anyone who is, or was underage. Heck, I don’t even have the desire to fantasize about my in own laws, or my own offspring, when, and if I do have kids.
In closing, I was never abused sexually as a child, my parents did not practice incest, and I really feel sorry, with all my heart, for survivors of real life incest and sexual abuse.
The way I came to enjoy incest as a fantasy was actually quite simple and harmless. It happened when I was in high school or college. A buddy of mine had a video of the classic American porn movie “Taboo”. In it, vintage porn star Kay Parker, I think it was, seduced her grown up son. I thought that was hot, and there is where my turn on for this subject started.
So in closing, am I a sick dude for having an interest in fantasy oriented incest, and is it twisted and perverted?
Are there support groups for people who think like me?
Thanks for listening to me - I am getting another therapist.
I am writing this because as new member I know that Literotic is a safe and mature place to explore and enjoy a variety of sexual fantasies. Also it seems to me that the owners and moderators of this site are progressive enough that they have created a forum where adult folk can read and write about their incest role play scenarios.
I just wanted to get this off my chest because my self esteem has gone rock bottom since I met with my therapist this week and I told her about my incest fantasies. She showed no compassion and actually made me feel like I was on my own with this one after referring to my sexuality as a "twisted" and "perverted" one. Now, I know some folks here might take the "twisted" and "perverted" designation as a compliment or a badge of honor (in a light hearted sort of humorous way), but her diagnosis of me was cold and lacking in any understanding or empathy.
She wasn't too pleased when I told her about my fantasies. She actually became quite moralistic about it, a bit judgmental, and it was odd because in the past she seemed very liberal with issues pertaining to homosexuality, abortion, birth control, and sex. She was more interested in doping me up with medications (which I don’t need) than to explore where these fantasies have arisen from. Her response was odd because it came from an individual that is not religious in any manner, and is most likely an atheist because of her Freudian psychiatric background, and the almost ridicule she places on religious, spiritual, superstitious, and esoteric issues which I bring up from time to time.
What gets me is that in our culture the therapeutic, medical, educational, and sexology establishment has been telling us, for about forty years now, since the onset of the sexual revolution, that varied erotic fantasies are not bad, that they can be healthy, and if done in a manner where laws are not broken, or no one is mentally or physically hurt can actually benefit relationships (if the other partner is in accordance) and can actually enhance an adult individual's sexuality. A great example of this progressive philosophy in action is an institution like Literotica which I think provides an incredible public service for responsible adults to express themselves.
But where am confused at her negative prognosis is that during my many sessions with her I always stressed that my incest fantasies where just that - “fantasies” plain and simple. A little about myself and my sexual likes relating to incest: I like tame incest fantasies, I like to role play them (with my self for now - I have never done it with a partner because my wife doesn‘t understand). I don’t partake in incest fantasies that are rough, BDSM oriented, no one gets raped, tied up, or forced to do anything, I only fantasize about people who are over 18 or 21, and that are in a very consensual loving and nurturing scenario. To make it even more clear, (and I have explained this to the doctor many times) my incest fantasies are symbolic in nature. They involved idealized and symbolic mothers, sons, dad, and daughters. They don’t involve my real family members - yikes and eeeccchhh!!! I don’t find my parents, siblings, cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. sexually arousing at all. Actually to think of them in sexually incest related ways is quite the turn off, or “wood” killer, if you catch my drift! I like to make people up, or I fantasize about other real families that I know about, either next door neighbors or celebrities. I would not mind hearing about other people and their real life very consensual responsible situations - but only if they don’t involve sexual and mental abuse, and am not interested in anyway in anyone who is, or was underage. Heck, I don’t even have the desire to fantasize about my in own laws, or my own offspring, when, and if I do have kids.
In closing, I was never abused sexually as a child, my parents did not practice incest, and I really feel sorry, with all my heart, for survivors of real life incest and sexual abuse.
The way I came to enjoy incest as a fantasy was actually quite simple and harmless. It happened when I was in high school or college. A buddy of mine had a video of the classic American porn movie “Taboo”. In it, vintage porn star Kay Parker, I think it was, seduced her grown up son. I thought that was hot, and there is where my turn on for this subject started.
So in closing, am I a sick dude for having an interest in fantasy oriented incest, and is it twisted and perverted?
Are there support groups for people who think like me?
Thanks for listening to me - I am getting another therapist.
