My struggle with writing loving wife/swinger stories

[DanOkeffie]

Finally, I just figured it out. My challenge with this category. A husband isn't supposed to show off his wife nir should he get off on other men seeing her. There is that bond or rule just like women are not supposed to enjoy flashing or being with other men.

Oh the old school rules.

In another post about LW, several women said that women are just like men with their desires. They want to be wanted and enjoy variety. The verbage & actions might be different but we all want to be loved. We all enjoy good sex. We all love seduction or to be seduced ...

Key is, not everyone has to act on it

 

[SimonDoom]

Key is, not everyone has to act on it

But SOME can, right? Isn't that what matters?

I'm not sure about the point you are trying to make, so I won't judge, but it seems to me a good starting point is that as long as the parties involved are all informed, consenting adults, they can make whatever decisions they want to about the interplay between marriage and sexuality. There's no good basis for saying the same rules must apply to all people.

If you have a strong personal view about what a husband is "supposed to do," it's perfectly legitimate for you to have and express your view. But it's OK for others with different ideas to have and express different views, isn't it?

 

[Rob_Royale]

Oh the old school rules

Really don't apply in fiction.
In fiction we open a window and throw out the rules. We create warp drives and hobbits and monsters that die until the next sequel. No rules.

 

[alohadave]

A husband isn't supposed to show off his wife nir should he get off on other men seeing her. There is that bond or rule just like women are not supposed to enjoy flashing or being with other men.

Don't do it if you don't like it. It's not your business what anyone else does or writes about.

In another post about LW, several women said that women are just like men with their desires. They want to be wanted and enjoy variety. The verbage & actions might be different but we all want to be loved. We all enjoy good sex. We all love seduction or to be seduced ...

Key is, not everyone has to act on it

Sexist much?

Let's get this clear. A story is not real life. Why can't you people get this through your heads? Stories in LW are not real life accounts. Don't fucking read the stories in that category if they trigger you this hard.

 

[EmilyMiller]

My struggle with writing loving wife/swinger stories​

Why write what you are not into?

I’ve experimented with a few areas - e.g. Exhibitionism - which are not IRL kinks, but where I can sort of see the attraction. But I’d never write something that was antithetical to my own view of the world.

Neither should you.

 

[KittyOfSteele]

*Marks off moralistic kink shaming into the weekly AH's bingo card.*

What? I don't drink.

 

[Erozetta]

There are no generalized rules for relationships beyond the rules that a couple makes for themselves and each other.

If it isn't your relationship, what does it matter?

 

[MindYaBitness]

Finally, I just figured it out. My challenge with this category. A husband isn't supposed to show off his wife nir should he get off on other men seeing her. There is that bond or rule just like women are not supposed to enjoy flashing or being with other men.

Oh the old school rules.

In another post about LW, several women said that women are just like men with their desires. They want to be wanted and enjoy variety. The verbage & actions might be different but we all want to be loved. We all enjoy good sex. We all love seduction or to be seduced ...

Key is, not everyone has to act on it

I'm not a swinger, and I'm pretty sure that my spouse would rather die than see me have sex with another man. However, he has a borderline Candaulism kink that is hard to hide, sometimes. He LOVES when other men ogle me. Any formal event we go to, my dress has maximum cleavage. He loves when I'm presenting at conferences for my job, and other men approach me after.

He's secure in the knowledge that I've had to play dick-goalie my whole life and I'm skilled at diverting over eager guys. But, he'll admit that he loves knowing that they want me, but I'm going back to the hotel room with him. He feels "bonded", as you say, by objectifying me a bit. Knowing that I gladly allow him to parade me out like a possession for others to admire. If he weren't so shy about sex in general, I think he'd enjoy watching another man actually touch me, seeing him get excited & pull me away leaving the other guy with blue balls. He's almost do e something similar already.

So, I'd not say that your wrong, but simply that you're not being creative in the different shades that committed relationships comes in.