My Social Life Sucks!

[TN_Vixen]

What is wrong here? I'm outgoing, not butt-ugly, not fat, halfway intelligent and yet? yet? I cannot find any man with whom I'm interested. Don't tell me it's the places I'm looking cause frankly.. I'm NOT looking, but I will believe that it may be the fact that there aren't any interesting, intelligent, compassionate, sexual men in my area. hehe

Maybe there aren't any at all? Have you ever thought that the term "compassionate male" is an oxymoron? *s*

Compassionate when they want you to swallow.. "sensitive" when they want to emotionally manipulate... "sexual" when it involves him getting off.. "intelligent" when they must argue their reasoning why they "HAVE" to watch this game today... really I do!"

 

[Endlessly]

Hey-- I'd settle for a guy who says more to me than "excuse me."

 

[Guest]

I can't say my social life sucks as I have no social life to speak of at this moment.

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Green Tomatoes.

 

[TN_Vixen]

you're young

Hey-- I'd settle for a guy who says more to me than "excuse me."

and you'll get over that quickly. *smile*

 

[Endlessly]

Awwwwwww... You're so cute when you're condescending. *pinches your cheek*

 

[Lajo]

I like to think I am compassionate male. I would rather give you the pleasure than receive it from you. I would rather work in the yard or do 100 other things than watch (or go to) the big game. As for intelligence...well..I have good common sense and a firm grasp on my beliefs, cares, and desires.

But...I am married. So, I do NOT have a social life either!

 

[Mustang Sally]

Isn't there more to a social life than just dating? Who needs a man? You know women are usually better company. And while nothing beats the real thing, you can take care of your immediate sexual needs yourself.

I don't have any friends within my area code. It's very sad. Not one person I can call and say, "hey, wanna see a movie?" or "coffee at Timmy's?" I'm so lonely, and bored.

The solution? I'm changing my area code. Seriously, I'm collecting ideas on how a shy person can meet new people in a big city. Not men for dating purposes, just potential friends. Just some good old-fashioned human interaction is all I'm asking for.

I am NOT a loser, dammit!!

 

[TN_Vixen]

LOL

Awwwwwww... You're so cute when you're condescending. *pinches your cheek*

sorry.. that's what happens when you get OLD.. you get cynical and believe that whatever the advice to the younger generation, it must be GOOD advice. *wink*

 

[TN_Vixen]

Isn't there more to a social life than just dating? Who needs a man? You know women are usually better company. And while nothing beats the real thing, you can take care of your immediate sexual needs yourself.

Oh hell yeah. I wasn't saying that my social life revolved around dating. It is just that ... well, when my social life has ONLY revolved around friends for let see... hmmm.. maybe over a year? THEN I'm thinking.. MENMENMEN. hehe.

I honestly considered lesbianism, but hey.. I love men. I guess I just need to learn how to lower my expectations?

 

[Guest]

If cynicism comes with age, I must be Methuselah by now.

 

[TN_Vixen]

Methuselah!!

hehe. That's my brother's nick. I already like you.

 

[FlamingoBlue]

It's all a matter of timing, sweetie!

You just never know when it will happen. I spent years loking for a "good" woman and didn't find her until I answered a personal ad. Never in a million years would I ever have believed it.

There is no formula for what will attract you, on any given day. Keep your heart and your mind open and look beneath the surface. Or, maybe you need to get out of Tennessee. Or maybe you should look inward to find your real friend. Maybe then you'll find satisfaction easier to obtain in your quest for a soulmate.

Bueno suerte', sweetie,

blue

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Methuselah

My nickname too !

Mustang Sally, the best advice you could get for making new friends? . . . smile at people. An' I know you gotta beautifu smile girrl.

 

[TN_Vixen]

*smiling at blue*

darling, that's so sweet! I suppose if I were to dig deep maybe I would find that the fault lies within?

I've just been so convinced my whole life that "true love" exists that I abandon everything in search of it. Maybe it doesn't?

I think the wall has already begun to crumble and that in itself make me sad. :-(

 

[FlamingoBlue]

See. I told you so!!!

About 2 minutes ago you told me to pick up my shit and leave the BB and now you think I'm sweet. All men are not capable of being pigeonholed. Oh, I am bored by organized sports, love my wife and would kill for my children. And I read books, too.

blue

 

[TN_Vixen]

I never insinuated that you..

couldn't be sweet AND talk about shit. I just said that I'd rather not see SHIT on the main board.

In any case, hope still thrives for however long.

 

[scylis]

i think the best peice of wisdom i've ever heard anywhere was on the show Babylon 5.. it was given by the oldest living sentient being in the universe, the first sentient being in the universe in the show.. he told this to one of the main characters when she commented about how she's too busy to love..

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everything changes. frendships grow hostile with time. stars burn out. planets change. love grows cold and dies. i think that is why the universe began to limit lifespans. being alive only a short while lets you believe in your wonderful ignorence that love is eternal. it is possibly the greatest gift ever given to you. don't waste it.
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[Mustang Sally]

Mustang Sally, the best advice you could get for making new friends? . . . smile at people. An' I know you gotta beautifu smile girrl.

Aww, Juspar. You're such a sweet talker.
When are we going to Bermuda?? lol

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Mustang Sally

Bermuda's a long way baby.

I'd have to wind the rubber band up real tight to get there.

Why not e-mail me, we can talk about travel arrangements withough hijacking?

 

[Mustang Sally]

Juspar

I'm picturing a gigantic sling shot (with an ACME stamp a la Wile E. Coyote) launching you across the ocean... don't forget your life preserver! Let me know if it works, then tell me how I can get one of those for myself. Bermuda really is quite far.

 

[Sparky Kronkite]

Hey babe.....

You are correct...... "something" is wrong.

But what? It surely ain't you!

You my dear are "a package." A complete, and utter bombshell of a package.

I would venture a conservative guess that, at the very least, 95% of all males would not only find you initially attractive - but most all would find you to be a very viable "long termer."

AND! Other women don't like you much - do they? Your a "guys" type of woman - a big plus. They - the other women - they see that and don't like you for it. It lures "their" males.

So, what is it then?

Probably a combo of five things.

1) The guys, the ones that fit your criteria in your area - most of'em are married. Those married guys don't get out solo much. And when they do - they tend to be more conservative than not. But you know that. You know all about married men.

2) Since number one is true - that leaves guys too young for you. There could be an exception, one that could rise up and meet your criteria but probably not. So the youngun's guys seem - well young to you. Not what you want.

3) You don't much go for the blue color type - yeah, yeah - there could be, probably have been some exceptions but - not now - not long term. You want an older, professional - among many other things. In your area - the available, single, criteria meeting males are probably not over abundant.

4) You too, as wild as you are after 3 shots of tequila - are initially pretty conservative. Nothing wrong with that - it's you southern upbringing.

5) And the obvious too - you have a child. Some guys would love that but relatively few. It makes all men "think." HOWEVER!!!! You are such a perfect piece of ass - any man would be stupid to not think long and hard about "not accepting and welcoming that situation." The positives far outweigh the single thought provoking concern.

So, my suggestions would be simple:

1) If you can find a larger pool with more criteria fitting players. If you can. Job, local, whatever it would take.

2) Hard as it may be - get a little more aggressive. Target and attack. Before the 3 tequilas. Not in a bar or club. On the street, in the grocery store. Ready-aim-fire.

That's it.

 

[TN_Vixen]

sparky.. (speechless)

You DO know how to stroke a girl's ego, don't you? (smile) Very nice things you said about me as long as I don't take "perfect piece of ass" as an obnoxious chauvanistic comment. hehe

Your take on the way I view men is pretty accurate. And since I'm not really actively hunting a man.. (can't imagine actually doing that!) then it does tend to make it a lot more difficult to find someone to share things with, hmm?

I've considered taking a class in the evenings as non-credit to be exposed to different people in general, not just men and maybe that's something I should act on.

I like women and the women that take the time to get to know me end up liking me too. But their first reaction isn't always kind. I've been looked at and talked to more viciously by other women than any man I've ever had an argument with.

As for the child issue.. that never really crosses my mind. If I were to put myself in their shoes, I would definitely consider it a drawback, and in fact, I think I've only dated one man who had a child.

oh hell sparky, just come on down to TN and me you the shebabe and the kids will live happily ever after. hehe

 

[livin_simple]

It's your love of Blues music

Just Kidding!

You sound like a female version of myself, sans the children who live with their mother.

Have you considered moving to Kansas??

I'm sure we could work through the Blues thing.

 

[TN_Vixen]

Kansas? hehe

Just the name of the state evokes a yawn. (sorry..it's true) I know there's more to kansas than what I've seen driving through the state, isn't there? huh? *nudge*

 

[Guest]

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