my shy wife.

[maff1981]

how do i persuade my wife to pose for more photo's?

 

[habebev]

how do i persuade my wife to pose for more photo's?

Well you can get her drunk...lol j/k
What does she look like? Is she shy or not into the whole public display?

 

[curiousmom80]

pose

you need to show a passion in photography, give lots of compliments on what will look good in the photos and tell her honestly what would you happy. Just gentle encouragement

J

 

[foxpass]

Yes. This is how my ex set it up (he was a photographer, though). Make her your muse. Make her feel good about her body and the idea of posing as an erotic woman, not just another porn actress for you to get off to.

you need to show a passion in photography, give lots of compliments on what will look good in the photos and tell her honestly what would you happy. Just gentle encouragement

J

 

[Ellafun]

Don't publish them? If you're taking them for your own personal collection, I'm sure she wouldn't be as anxious.

 

[JasonDaniel]

Foxpass has good advice. Take a few pictures in the beginning, for just you and her, not to be shared with anyone else. Share them with her and delete them if she wants. Sharing the photos and letting her see herself in a new context should help her overcome her shyness. Make it a shared experience, not just something for you. Let her know how it turns you on. As she becomes less shy, she will likely become more bold.

 

[NymeriaS]

First off, why doesn't she want more photos of herself? Is it the risk of other people finding it (or not 100% trusting you'll keep it private)? Is it self-consciousness?

And most importantly, does she actually enjoy it or are the photos just for your viewing pleasure?

Being told to just pose in a sexy way can put a lot of pressure on the subject and I can understand not feeling completely comfortable.

If she's just feeling self-conscious and awkward, take photos of both of you, together (set up a timer). Have her take photos of you naked. Make it equal parts fun for both of you, and if she is going to "bare all", you should too

 

[amofiga]

Yeah, I think NymeriaS hit it. WHat is your reason for the photos? Is it because you yourself want to enjoy them or do you have this thing for sending them out to the public. Your wife may be willing to pose for you but not for the world. Some women are turned on by the exibitionist thing but many are not.

Also, make sure you start with flattering photos and not the leg spread Hustler beaver shots. A lot of women might take a while to warm up to semi-porn poses. The more flattering she sees herself when she looks at the phots and the less she sees herself as naked meat, the more she may be willing to pose. I'm not sure if you're really a good photographer and could do the outdoor/on the beach/in the woods by the stream nudes or are just looking for the bedroom spread. You might also start out having her do some of those professional "glamour" photos you can get done where a professional photographer can make her look like a real model, and maybe that will warm her to the idea of being photographed.

 

[maff1981]

reply to all.

thanks for the advice, we have been together 14 years and so trust isn't the issue we had fun when we were younger with a camera and she was fine about that, we only got married this year and she was a bit shy when i wanted some photo's off our wedding night because she isn't as confident about herself as she was when she was 17, i still think she is incredible and would only want the photo's for us to look at together. and we got a new camera as a wedding present and thought it would be a fun thing to do but she is to shy.

 

[Squabbles]

Yes. This is how my ex set it up (he was a photographer, though). Make her your muse. Make her feel good about her body and the idea of posing as an erotic woman, not just another porn actress for you to get off to.

I think this is really key. It is about allowing her to embrace her eroticism, not just being nude in front of a camera. Coming from a lady who deals with social anxiety, I know it can be really hard to get past the feeling of playing the role of porn actress in order to experience how empowering it is to embrace your own nudity, and gaining confidence from doing so. It's a vulnerable feeling until you understand this part (for me, at least!), so perhaps helping her to understand the difference? If any of this made sense. Making sure she feels empowered by it all is key.

Also. I remember a particular occasion where I was too shy and self-conscious to undress and take a shower with my boyfriend in the room, after he had already seen me nude countless times. So, he kissed me, took me to his bedroom, undressed me, and made love to me. And after that, I was fine with being nude. Perhaps, after helping her to understand that she shouldn't feel ashamed and that really it could be a wonderful experience for her, you could suggest it again after sex. I know that I am the most at ease with my own nudity after sex.

I don't know if any of this will help at all, but I hope so! Perhaps you could let her snap some shots of you first to ease her? I just know that for the shy (from my own experience), the line between feeling empowered and feeling "molested" can be tedious. And often self-perpetuated.

 

[JasonDaniel]

Think of it this way: it isn't her shyness of being photographed naked, rather it's her shyness of the camera. Start with normal, (fully dressed G-rated photos for the family photo album), until she is comfortable with camera. After she is comfortable with being in front the camera, she will become more adventurous. Also, let her photograph you; she needs to feel completely comfortable with being on both sides of the camera. Most women, (who really love their man), really like doing things that please their man, and being the case, she needs to know that you really enjoy the pictures. When she gets into it, she will love pleasing you and forget about her shyness. Be patient, and take your time, but she will overcome her shyness.

 

[JudyJ]

As much as it sorta pains me to say it, there is really no good that can come out of taking photos of your wife. If you have kids you need to worry about them snooping around and make no mistake about it they probably will. If you put them in a safe place on DVD or otherwise they can get misplaced, forgotten or worse yet thrown out by mistake.

A safer alternative that may work for you is hooking up a video camera directly to a TV in your bedroom. Don't record but just enjoy the TV together and when you're done there is no "evidence". Its like watching a porno of you and the wife and you can make a new one each love making session.

Just a suggestion

 

[djyak]

Let her have fun, not you be in charge. Let her edit the photos so she can know for sure her face, or anything recognizable is there. Let her decide if she wants to post or not, either way, encourage her. She may love the responses.

Tifani

 

[albertaboy]

My wife and I had lots of fun with pictures a few years ago.

She was initially shy about it, but after a bit it turned her on.

She had an Am pics thread for a while and she enjoyed the feedback, but it died out because we ran out of ideas.