my rant

[graceanne]

Oh, my god I as so pissed. I can't even find words to discribe how pissed I am. Dip wad (aka kevin) got online. It isn't bad enough that he beat the shit out of ella, breaking her wrist, two ribs, her jaw, and shaving her head, causing her to go into labor and have the twins early, but then . . . THEN the asshole wants tog et online with me, and tell me about how it's all her fault, and that she's a bitch, and she deserved to have her head shaved, to make her as ugly on the inside as the outside. I am so MAD! WHAT DID HE THINK I WAS GONNA SAY "GOOD FOR YOU!" I mean, what the hell was going through his stupid useless mind? What on earth are people like that on earth for? Other than to screw everyone up. And he says that she screwed his life up. I DONT' SEE HIM TRYING TO FIND A JOB WITH NO HAIR, AND THREE BABIES TO TAKE CARE OF! God, I wish I was a man, and that I lived in Baltimore. I'd go and cut of his dick, or feed him to snakes, or . . . I can't think of anything bad enough for people liek him. The only way to get truelly what he deserves would be if I could bring him back to life everytime I killed him, SO I COULD KILL HIM AGAIN! ARG!

 

[Vixandra]

Wow... that's royally f''ed up.

I'd be after blood too.
Did anyone call the cops to have a "Chat" with him?

 

[graceanne]

Yes, but he's out on bail. I was hoping he'd spend some time in jail, and take it up the ass a few times.

 

[MissTaken]

What an abusive prick.

*hugs* to you and your friend.

 

[graceanne]

What an abusive prick.

*hugs* to you and your friend.

thank you. I felt a lot better after venting. I just wish I could do something for her.

 

[Netzach]

Yes, but he's out on bail. I was hoping he'd spend some time in jail, and take it up the ass a few times.

Peferably with a plunger in NYC.

 

[RJMasters]

Sounds like he could use the bull treatment...

Tie his ass up to a post and paint it with cow heat.

Then just walk away.

Useless SOB.

Hugs to you and your friend too graceanne.

 

[PyroDemon]

{{{{ Hugs}}}} Maybe if we get enough hugs going the support alone will help ease the pain. I hate hearing things like this, makes me remember how much I like hurting those that hurt others.

You know, I have a couple of clients that know of a few "hardhitters" with a pair of pliars and a blowtorch that might just be able to straighten ole' "tuff" guy right up. I am sure they would be more than happy to release a little frustration on this piece of garbage. And you know, people often have a funny way of magically disappearring from time to time, must be aliens.

 

[graceanne]

Thank you for the hugs. I'll pass them on to Ella. She's the one really hurting here. I just wish that I could do something for her, but she's too far away. I can't help with the babies, all I can really do is let her vent and send her e-hugs. She says that's helpful, but it's not helpful enough, not for me. I want to give her a real hug, and watch her tykes while she takes a nap, and give her clothes, and furniture, and help her find an apartment. . . . you all get the idea. *sigh*

As tempting as the thought of him disappearing is, I know if something happened I'd be the first that'd be questioned. His wife's too ill to do anything, but he knows how much I hate him. (I told him, right before I ripped him a new asshole.) I just keep hoping he's stupid enough to come this way, so that my hubby can have a piece of him.

 

[Betticus]

Who's Ella?

This guy sounds like he needs to have his head shaved, have nazi symbols drawn lovingly on his skin and then be kicked out of the car in the middle of Compton shirtless on Saturday night.

 

[rosco rathbone]

It should rather easy to have him arrested; if I'm not mistaken.

 

[graceanne]

he's been arrested. Then he got out on bail. I dont' know what's going on with that, but he's been out for a bit. How much do you want to bet he just gets probation or something like that? That'd really piss me off.

 

[rosco rathbone]

he's been arrested. Then he got out on bail. I dont' know what's going on with that, but he's been out for a bit. How much do you want to bet he just gets probation or something like that? That'd really piss me off.

Someone needs a good lawyer.

 

[graceanne]

Someone needs a good lawyer.

Well, you've just hit on one of the problems. He is a lawyer.

Betticus, I didn't see your post till just now. I agree, I think that might make me feel better. lol Ella is my friend, the one who got beat up.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I think the suggested responses to this ... I can't call him a man or a person; to call him an animal is to insult the animal kingdom ... thing's behavior have been too mild, with the possible exception of graceanne's wanting to bring him back to life every time he's killed, so it can be done again. Perhaps we could take a page from our Native American brethren: douse certain parts of his body with honey and stake him out on an ant hill? Not parts that would let him die quickly, of course, but parts that would hurt a lot, and make him very, very frightened... genitals and anus, nipples, ears, eyelids, inside his nostrils...

 

[graceanne]

I think the suggested responses to this ... I can't call him a man or a person; to call him an animal is to insult the animal kingdom ... thing's behavior have been too mild, with the possible exception of graceanne's wanting to bring him back to life every time he's killed, so it can be done again. Perhaps we could take a page from our Native American brethren: douse certain parts of his body with honey and stake him out on an ant hill? Not parts that would let him die quickly, of course, but parts that would hurt a lot, and make him very, very frightened... genitals and anus, nipples, ears, eyelids, inside his nostrils...

Actually a friend of mine had an awesome idea. She said we should stake him out in the desert, tie a piece of wet leather around his balls, and then coat them with honey. The leather will slowly dry, causing a slow and PAINFUL castration.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

<snip>stake him out in the desert, tie a piece of wet leather around his balls, and then coat them with honey. The leather will slowly dry, causing a slow and PAINFUL castration.

That would work. Betticus' idea isn't half bad
And Pyro's clients' friends wouldn't have to make him disappear. A few broken bones in his hands - say, 15-20 each hand - and crushed kneecaps and ankles, and a slow piano-wire castration could probably be arranged for just a few hundred dollars. Especially in Baltimore.

 

[Guest]

I think the suggested responses to this ... I can't call him a man or a person; to call him an animal is to insult the animal kingdom ... thing's behavior have been too mild, with the possible exception of graceanne's wanting to bring him back to life every time he's killed, so it can be done again. Perhaps we could take a page from our Native American brethren: douse certain parts of his body with honey and stake him out on an ant hill? Not parts that would let him die quickly, of course, but parts that would hurt a lot, and make him very, very frightened... genitals and anus, nipples, ears, eyelids, inside his nostrils...

No..He's not a Dom..Or even a Man...

Animal is about right though-- The Human animal..after it is stripped of whatever we find to be redeeming..

Distance and budget preclude..Or I might be inclined to make her the same offer I made another lady in those straights..
I know a couple of people too.. We all offered to come over and just sit on her couch for a while..
Sooner or later these assholes almost always show back up.
Please remind her..that while he is out on bail..is the MOST dangerous time for her.
TO be careful...
VERY careful.

 

[graceanne]

No..He's not a Dom..Or even a Man...

Animal is about right though-- The Human animal..after it is stripped of whatever we find to be redeeming..

Distance and budget preclude..Or I might be inclined to make her the same offer I made another lady in those straights..
I know a couple of people too.. We all offered to come over and just sit on her couch for a while..
Sooner or later these assholes almost always show back up.
Please remind her..that while he is out on bail..is the MOST dangerous time for her.
TO be careful...
VERY careful.

Actually she is being very careful, because he's called a few times and threatened to come 'get her'. I'd suggest that to her, but she's very . . . she doesn't want people seeing her, not bald like she is. The asshole told me he was glad that he shaved her head, so she'd be as ugly on the outside as she is on the inside. That man has some serious bi-polar issues. I used to chat with him all the time before all this happened, and I'd have never thought he'd do this.

Actually, it's a Dr. Jekyl/Mr. Hyde type thing. He's got an alcohol problem, and he's like this when he's drinking, and nice when he's not. Not that that's an excuse, it just makes it worse, but it explains why he had me fooled for so long.

 

[Netzach]

She needs to get over bald, get a restraining order and go somewhere safe, like NOW.

 

[graceanne]

She does have a restraining order, and so do the kids. But frankly what is a restraining order? A piece of paper. They're frankly flat out stupid. If he decides to come, that piece of papers isn't going to protect shit. Excuse my language, but our whole system when it comes to dealing with people like him sucks. She's staying with her 70 year old god mother, cause her mother doesn't want to deal with the stress of the three babies, and her brother has two small deaf children. He'd let her stay there, but she won't ask, she knows he doesn't have the room for 4 extra people. I wish she was over here with me, K'd keep her safe. I just hope if he shows up that either she or her godmother can get to a phone and the police get there in time.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

<snip>I just hope if he shows up that either she or her godmother can get to a phone and the police get there in time.

Though I hate to say it, hoping that she or her godmother can get to a phone, and that the police would get there on time is much like hoping one will win the $100 million lottery - it's possible, but the odds are greatly against you.

She'd be much better off with a shotgun - even loaded with nothing but rock salt, or perhaps two rounds of rock salt and then buckshot, in case he's hard to persuade - and the will to use it if necessary. If she's not a firearms person, then personal protection devices such as stun guns are available from a wide variety of sources. Here's one where stun guns can be purchased for prices ranging from $22.50 to several hundred dollars: http://www.electromax.com/perprot.html

 

[Betticus]

You could contact the cop that is investigating this and forward his online conversations with you about what he did to her to him/her.

Might help a judge to make a decision. The sad truth of it is that if she doesn't help herself out of this situation by pressing charges and sticking with them, she's screwed and might as well get used to it.

Not to be cruel about it but my cop buddies have told me too many times about it and they tend to not even waste their time if they think the woman won't follow through.

 

[graceanne]

She does have a restraining order, and she's going to follow through. She wants nothing to do with him. She's not the type that sticks around. He hit her once, and she left. She says she'd rather be alone than put up with that shit. (Except she didn't say shit, she's to ladylike.)

But just because he calls and threatens to come, doesn't mean that the cops can do anything. Until he actually breaks the law, their hands are tied, and by then she's screwed. As for forwarding it to the cop in charge of the investigation, I saved the conversation, in case it becomes necessary. But I don't know what city she lives in. Maybe I could forward it to the cops in Baltimore, where it happened. Hm, I'll have to look into it. Also, next time I talk to her Godmother, I'll let her know I have it.

As for the stun gun, I am going to push for her to get one. I'll even offer to buy her one, for that matter. I know that she would never get a gun, and she couldn't afford one if she did. She grew up in a very 'mother earth/peace to all creatures/vegan' lifestyle, and just my husband hunting totally grosses her out. If she got a gun she'd be more likely to shoot herself on accident then him.

 

[Betticus]

I hope that she can get away from him.