My Rant session

[virginleo20]

Quick question...

So exactly how does her behavior differ from the bahavior of every other woman...?

I suppose its the evolved for of the little princess syndrome...
or what ever you want to call it...

In your case what you have to deal with its propably
the little decaying old princess syndrome...

sorry bad joke...

But then again men are not all that much better.... i suppose the difference is most of them dont really care one way or the other...


But thats just my experience


One in many... by far too many.

 

[freakygirl]

Re: Quick question...

So exactly how does her behavior differ from the bahavior of every other woman...?

I suppose its the evolved for of the little princess syndrome...
or what ever you want to call it...

In your case what you have to deal with its propably
the little decaying old princess syndrome...

sorry bad joke...

But then again men are not all that much better.... i suppose the difference is most of them dont really care one way or the other...


But thats just my experience


One in many... by far too many.

wtf are you trying to say? I'm sorry this post makes no sense.

Maybe invest a little time getting to know someone and their situation before commenting.

To the rest that has responded.. Thank You.

 

[virginleo20]

well...

Iwas trying to make the point in the form of a joke from what i read in your first mail that your mother seems like a bitter slightly spoiled individual...
and that you shouldnt take it too seriously
everyone has their baggage its just her way of dealing with hers and your brothers way of dealing with his.

My sympathy for your situation... but al i can say is that deal with it .
Though it allready seems that you have been doing that by moving out or atleast thinking about moving out.

Just as a question... have you ever tried to confront your brtoher about his problems.

 

[Calamity Jane]

Re: Quick question...

*hug* freaky woman. call me if you need anything.

 

[freakygirl]

Re: well...

Iwas trying to make the point in the form of a joke from what i read in your first mail that your mother seems like a bitter slightly spoiled individual...
and that you shouldnt take it too seriously
everyone has their baggage its just her way of dealing with hers and your brothers way of dealing with his.

My sympathy for your situation... but al i can say is that deal with it .
Though it allready seems that you have been doing that by moving out or atleast thinking about moving out.

Just as a question... have you ever tried to confront your brtoher about his problems.

Ahhh someone (a virgin with 5 posts) who knows nothing of me.. nor my family problems.. yet sees fit to joke.

Yes, my moms paralyzation and memory loss is something to laugh at..

Yes, my brothers drug problem is something to laugh at..

While I'm at it.. should I laugh also about my nephew who will never know his father because alcohol killed him? How about the fact that my 22 year old brothers death caused my fathers death. Should I laugh at that also?

I'm glad you found it all funny. Come walk a few steps in my shoes.. get the feel of my funny life.

I hope you never have to live through any of the shit that I have had to. It's not fun.. nor funny. And if you do.. I hope you are able to laugh through all of it.

PCG *hugs* thank you

 

[alexandraaah]

Freaky....while every bit of your anger about your situation is validated, I doubt that virginleo had ill intentions in posting...perhaps s/he failed to see the seriousness of your situation, but had s/he known all of the things going on, I doubt they would have made a joke of it..

I'm just trying to stay in touch with the fact that people are more misunderstood than they are horrible people...and hoping it's true.

 

[freakygirl]

Freaky....while every bit of your anger about your situation is validated, I doubt that virginleo had ill intentions in posting...perhaps s/he failed to see the seriousness of your situation, but had s/he known all of the things going on, I doubt they would have made a joke of it..

I'm just trying to stay in touch with the fact that people are more misunderstood than they are horrible people...and hoping it's true.

that's why I think people need to get to know things before making comments

maybe i'm overreacting..

 

[alexandraaah]

that's why I think people need to get to know things before making comments

maybe i'm overreacting..

My guess is you're on edge...and rightly so. I think that it's hard to determine sometimes where it's "safe" to post your thoughts and where not...all kind of traffic comes through these threads..

What I got from virgin's original post, which was confusing as all hell....was the beginning of a discussion about gender roles in society. I chose not to respond in kind because I think this thread is about you...suggestions for and in support of....I also didn't respond in kind because I had no real way of knowing if I read it right.

Breathe, baby...it's a process.

 

[freakygirl]

Thank you, Alex

 

[freescorfr]

freaky you've all my sympathy - I was on the other side for years - with alcohol and know it was revolting for all around. Let that anger out and all the real sadness behind it. I'm sure there's a lot on Lit can hear you and understand its importance for you.

 

[Debbie]

How's things going freakygurl?
Thinking of you.

 

[freakygirl]

Debbie.. thank you for your post..

I'm doing well.. had a very busy week last week. Can't even remember the last time I posted here.

An update on my situation

My brother has been removed from the house, and placed into a rehab center to be followed by some jail (prison) time. On Friday afternoon the place he was living (his dealers house) was raided for Meth manufacturing and he just happened to be there.. hmm wonder where they got information on this meth lab? I guess that doesn't matter now does it.

I have sat down and made arrangements with my mother on our living conditions.. I will stay here and help her as long as Rick never moves back. We have in writing.. what I pay.. and what she pays.. and what is expected of me and her.

My Mom went to my Aunts house for the weekend.. and I've had a few days off. I spent Easter with my children.. and I've totally cleaned my house.. The weather is beautiful and I bought myself a new car. I had ordered this car and was supposed to get it months ago.. but something came up and I had to back out of the deal. My old car was starting to have some trouble with the catalytic converter (spelling?) and it was going to be more expensive in the long run to fix it. (I hadn't been told that it was an out of state car, bought at Auction when I purchased it)

So I'm now in the process of buying a 2002 Nissan Maxima.. brand new.. no problems to worry about (100,000 mile warranty, if there is a problem, they will fix it).

I'm off now to go to Olympia.. I'll see everyone as soon as my life slows down again

Thanks to everyone who has kept me in their thoughts. I really do appreciate it.

 

[CarolineOh]

I'm so glad to read that things are working out well. My best wishes to you and your family.

 

[Guest]

Freakygurl,

I am so glad things have improved for you!

I hope you are proud of yourself.

Be well!

 

[vylette]

i am sorry

wow ..i read this thread and all i can say is i am really sorry you are going thru this....i hope it is working out for the better now...and you have worked out a solution...it seems like such an unpleasant and tense situation...i admire your strength for enduring it as long as you have...and i hope you can move out soon..best of luck to you...

 

[Cierra_Dessert]

Freakygurl,

You should be proud of yourself for handing that messy situation.

I'm glad things have turned around for you, stick to your guns, and enjoy that new car!

 

[SilverVeil]

Sometimes it's tough to be involved with family. You have to do what is best for you and your family first. Your daughter needs you far more than your mother. Your mother can find a care giver. Your daughter can't find another mom.

Move out and try to salvage what you can of the relationship with your mom. Hopefully some day she will see the truth about things before your brother does serious harm like stealing stuff from her. She has to have some idea or she would not be asking you to hide her money no ? Now hopefully she will not let your brother back in even after he gets out of jail.