My Plan A is not working out right

[MMM_wms]

And now the question arises: invent a Plan B or quit? Would be nice to know exactly what is not working right. The length of my ads, i.e. simply too many words to read? The substance in them, i.e. too hard to understand? Or what I am advertising for, i.e. a rather deep involvement with my mail companion?

Or the problem is not my ads at all but rather too few matching readers for them, who do not stop by here often enough. So I must bump my ads more often, or post them on a different forum. The only thing I feel like changing content-wise is the involvement part. Because my longed-for outcome will happen also in a more casual mail exchange. What matters is not so much depth but sincerity, I figure.

I crave meeting a woman who truly needs what I offer her, not necessarily one who falls deeply in love with me. If we like one another “only” for the erotic enjoyment of mailing each other, that will be plenty enough. I have had such a mail exchange and we both enjoyed it much.

What won’t work out though, are fakers and braggarts. And women looking for asymmetrical mailings. Expecting a lot and unable or unwilling to give something back in return. After all, you and I long for something better than what we have at home, right?

So should you – dear woman in a partnership that does not “do it for you” – be brave enough today for writing me a PM, please tell me what you long for the most. You may want to take a look at my prior ads perhaps, to review what I’d love to give away. And please tell me also what gets on your nerves. After all, when I write you back, I don’t want to burden you with offerings not aligning with your needs and wants. After all, we wish to add some good reasons to our lives, to feel happy about, right?

 

[Lonelywife1205]

I read a couple of your ads to see if I could offer you any insight. This is just my opinion since it seems like you are wanting to know why what you’ve been doing isn’t working. I’ll be honest and tell you why it wouldn’t work for me.

Your ads are way too wordy for my taste and you come off a little pompous. You seem like a lot of work. The thought of exchanging long, drawn out emails exhausts me. You don’t really say anything about who you are except a person who is “looking for more”. I’m sure there are women out there who would be attracted to your communication style.

Any ad that has ever grabbed my attention had the following characteristics...
Fun, witty, engaging, charming, approachable, confident and vulnerable.

Good luck to you, I’m sure she’s out there somewhere.

 

[jaF0]

I got down to about Plan N and said fuck it all.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

If you're real question is around why your ad might fail, I have input.

The pattern of posting multiple ads, each with a slightly different tone, can potentially read as insincere. This perception, even if untrue, is reinforced when you complain about previous experiences (?) or things the wrong woman might bring to the table.

I don't know that I would walk up to a man and say, "I might like you; but not if you're needy or unable to hold up your end of the conversation." He's more likely to respond if I'm willing to put myself out there so that we can see where we click. Online, you might actually need to discuss what you like to do, what you bring to the table, or what fascinates your mind.

Consider this:

(a) I need a woman who doesn't expect me to carry the burden of the relationship

(b) I thrive in a relationship where I am able to help my partner explore those things that excite her.

anyway.. food for thought..

 

[MMM_wms]

thank you a lot, both no-longer lonely wife and GiggLeGasm !

I very much appreciate your comments, reallly I do. And I can see the points you are making.

Now No-Longer Lonely (my congtatulations, btw): I hope you see that I am approachable. I regret coming across as pompous. Maybe because English is not my first language?

The slightly different tone should be read as additive, i.e. all of my ads together describe me. Otherwise ONE ad of mine would have come out even longer. And pls keep in mind: some women do enjoy reading (many) words. But of course you are correct: I am not the easiest fellow to get to know.

Some comments for you, GG: you have a great point when you mention my complaining; truly a bad habit. But when you read between the lines, I am also saying - indirectly - that I aam neither a faker nor a braggart, and I shoot for writing symmetrical mails.

But of course both of your suggestions, a and b , are far better ways of expessing what I had meant to say. Thank you for suggesting it to me.

In closing, I like to thank both of you again for some highly valuable comments. And I wish you both a great Sunday!
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[jaF0]

English isn't your first language, is it?

 

[MMM_wms]

English isn't your first language, is it?

but so much so that at least I know how to spell he admonition Thomas Watson thought up for his people!

 

[jaF0]

So, that's a yes?

 

[ydahecnot]

Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face....Mike Tyson

 

[MMM_wms]

Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face....Mike Tyson

I am awfully glad you bumped my thread; thank you. But can to tell mme what these words by Mike Tyson hve to do with my ad? Orthis conversation here?

 

[ydahecnot]

Nothing and everything.

 

[jaF0]

It means exactly what it says. You got a plan until shit gets fucked up and your plan don't work no more. Then you gotta get a new plan and hope it doesn't get fucked up too.

Kinda like your threads not working out like you'd hoped. You got socked in the kisser and few times and you gotta keep making new plans.


This just furthers my thoughts on the language barrier.