My first bi experience

[klippert]

I’m with Klaus, no labels, please, they cannot encapsulate the complexity of sexuality, and only serve to keep people in artificial cages.

the complexity of sexuality... unless your a pedo. its not that complex. These threads are great..until they go off the rails with Pop-psychology. Next thread like this should come with a Psychiatrist couch - Jee'bus. Its SEX...it became complex when they 314 gender options added.

 

[Escierto]

"Bisexual", "breeding", and "sexual expression" are all different things. They do not require being separated. They are already separate and unique. A man wanting to have a sexual experience with another man is much different than a man who wants to have a romantic, intimate and loving relationship with a man. Gay men want the latter. Most men who just want to experience sucking a cock want no parts of that.

Labels aren't passe. Gay still means gay and straight still means straight. But the term "bisexual"gets used to define too many different things. The term bisexual is often used as an easy and convenient shorthand (of a kind) to define a sexual experience with someone of the same sex. But it really is more than that. A person who is truly bisexual is open to more than just a sexual experience with someone of either sex. They want (or are open to) an intimate and loving relationship with either sex, that includes kissing, cuddling, romance and a joined lifestyle. I doubt most men who say they are "curious about sucking cock" want any of those things. They aren't bisexual. They just find something arousing about the idea of sucking a cock.

To put it another way, a man isn't gay simply because he likes to suck cock. (As if that is the only defining characteristic of a gay man.) It's far more than that. He is gay because he wants to love a man and be loved by a man. Who ever says they are curious about that? No one.

You are exactly right.

In a similar vein, I can’t help but notice all the threads about femboy, shemales, feminine men etc but they are all fetishists. I don’t see any of them wanting an actual relationship with a transgender woman. Too much work for them I guess. Of course it is literotica so one’s expectations must be low.

 

[oneblueye]

hey ...

You are exactly right.

In a similar vein, I can’t help but notice all the threads about femboy, shemales, feminine men etc but they are all fetishists. I don’t see any of them wanting an actual relationship with a transgender woman. Too much work for them I guess. Of course it is literotica so one’s expectations must be low.

Its always been my experience that you will only find what you are looking for--, so your expectations will be guiding you to only those situations .

 

[Delawareguy]

the complexity of sexuality... unless your a pedo. its not that complex. These threads are great..until they go off the rails with Pop-psychology. Next thread like this should come with a Psychiatrist couch - Jee'bus. Its SEX...it became complex when they 314 gender options added.

Agreed

 

[Delawareguy]

You are exactly right.

In a similar vein, I can’t help but notice all the threads about femboy, shemales, feminine men etc but they are all fetishists. I don’t see any of them wanting an actual relationship with a transgender woman. Too much work for them I guess. Of course it is literotica so one’s expectations must be low.

Expectations being low seems to be a rule here. I see too many fawning comments of unworthy praise for things most people would find distasteful at best and disgusting at worst. For example, 400+# women and/or well below average looking women get far more overly enthusiastic positive comments than they are worthy of. I guess some guys will find almost any woman attractive as long as she is either naked, being overtly sexual, or both. It's really pathetic.

As for the femboy or she-male fetishes, I think it is more fantasy than any desire to actually become them or to be with them. Same goes for incest. While the idea of it may be arousing when thinking about OTHER people doing it, in reality very very few people have any actual desire to be sexual with THEIR family and would be turned off by the idea. What you see here is not a reflection of the real world nor is it a random sampling of it.

 

[Escierto]

Expectations being low seems to be a rule here. I see too many fawning comments of unworthy praise for things most people would find distasteful at best and disgusting at worst. For example, 400+# women and/or well below average looking women get far more overly enthusiastic positive comments than they are worthy of. I guess some guys will find almost any woman attractive as long as she is either naked, being overtly sexual, or both. It's really pathetic.

As for the femboy or she-male fetishes, I think it is more fantasy than any desire to actually become them or to be with them. Same goes for incest. While the idea of it may be arousing when thinking about OTHER people doing it, in reality very very few people have any actual desire to be sexual with THEIR family and would be turned off by the idea. What you see here is not a reflection of the real world nor is it a random sampling of it.

On the many threads about transgender women, guys post pics from some porn site then engage in a circle jerk about how hot she is and how they wish they could be sucking, fucking, etc. Of course they COULD make that a reality if they wanted to - it’s not that difficult. I have been with two different transgender women and have fulfilled just about any sexual fantasy I ever had. The reality surpassed the fantasy but I guess that’s just me.

 

[Delawareguy]

On the many threads about transgender women, guys post pics from some porn site then engage in a circle jerk about how hot she is and how they wish they could be sucking, fucking, etc. Of course they COULD make that a reality if they wanted to - it’s not that difficult. I have been with two different transgender women and have fulfilled just about any sexual fantasy I ever had. The reality surpassed the fantasy but I guess that’s just me.

I am sure you are a rare case and most on here would not even think of pursuing it. Unless maybe if the opportunity presented itself unexpectedly and they were brave enough to actually do it. I would not go seeking a CD or TG to meet with or even get involved with one I knew or saw, say at an adult bookstore, who was looking to suck cock. I would probably pass on the offer, and have. Even though I have seen a few very passable and smoking hot CDs in my life. It's not worth the risk. The health risks, mostly. For me, the idea of being with a very hot woman who has something extra under her skirt is very erotic and arousing. The reality of that actually happening is less attractive, given the risks involved. I think most feel the same way. No, it would not be that difficult if you know a place where they would be. If they are visible, they are probably visible for a reason, kind of the same way a prostitute is. But again, most guys would not make the effort. Nice fantasy. Not so much a good idea in reality.

 

[Delawareguy]

Plus they don't have the "balls" to do it.

 

[newatthis2]

Question for the original poster ColoradoCurious43

Im still pretty new to this and so Im pretty cautious

What websites and such have you found work out here in Colorado (Im in louisville).

What has worked for you?

I have tried
adam4adam - just too much advertisements.
Squirt.com - met two guys (never went that far..Im cautious and still learning), seems like the most reliable
Silverdaddies - like the site, just not much action
Doublelist - lots of weirdos and deadends here ( I have tried several posts for mutual oral)

 

[Dexter60]

I have had really good luck with rent men
I don’t mind paying
You get what you want without any drama

 

[oneblueye]

hey ...

"Bisexual", "breeding", and "sexual expression" are all different things. They do not require being separated. They are already separate and unique. A man wanting to have a sexual experience with another man is much different than a man who wants to have a romantic, intimate and loving relationship with a man. Gay men want the latter. Most men who just want to experience sucking a cock want no parts of that.

Labels aren't passe. Gay still means gay and straight still means straight. But the term "bisexual"gets used to define too many different things. The term bisexual is often used as an easy and convenient shorthand (of a kind) to define a sexual experience with someone of the same sex. But it really is more than that. A person who is truly bisexual is open to more than just a sexual experience with someone of either sex. They want (or are open to) an intimate and loving relationship with either sex, that includes kissing, cuddling, romance and a joined lifestyle. I doubt most men who say they are "curious about sucking cock" want any of those things. They aren't bisexual. They just find something arousing about the idea of sucking a cock.

To put it another way, a man isn't gay simply because he likes to suck cock. (As if that is the only defining characteristic of a gay man.) It's far more than that. He is gay because he wants to love a man and be loved by a man. Who ever says they are curious about that? No one.

since you are big on corrections and being correct, I would inform you that the last two sentences you posted 'there' were inaccurate and therefore false;
because you DON'T KNOW if or how many men ACTUALLY do say what they are curious about or why they are curious.

 

[oneblueye]

hey ...

Expectations being low seems to be a rule here. I see too many fawning comments of unworthy praise for things most people would find distasteful at best and disgusting at worst. For example, 400+# women and/or well below average looking women get far more overly enthusiastic positive comments than they are worthy of. I guess some guys will find almost any woman attractive as long as she is either naked, being overtly sexual, or both. It's really pathetic.

As for the femboy or she-male fetishes, I think it is more fantasy than any desire to actually become them or to be with them. Same goes for incest. While the idea of it may be arousing when thinking about OTHER people doing it, in reality very very few people have any actual desire to be sexual with THEIR family and would be turned off by the idea. What you see here is not a reflection of the real world nor is it a random sampling of it.

whats really pathetic to me is the fact that YOU would think that YOU are qualified to decided what people are 'worthy of praise' and how much they are worth.
LOL!!! (y.p.o.s.)

 

[Delawareguy]

since you are big on corrections and being correct, I would inform you that the last two sentences you posted 'there' were inaccurate and therefore false;
because you DON'T KNOW if or how many men ACTUALLY do say what they are curious about or why they are curious.

Truly gay men are not "curious". They already know and understand they are gay and desire more than just a sexual experience with another man. Since my statement was specifically referencing gay men - not "curious" men who do not define themselves as gay - my statement is not inaccurate as you claim.

Heterosexual men, or men who have only ever had sex with females, are the ones who are "curious" about having a sexual experience with another man. Most of them are not looking for any more than that, based on what I have read from others or heard from "curious" men in chat rooms, etc..

For that reason I do not think my statement is unreasonable or false.

 

[Delawareguy]

whats really pathetic to me is the fact that YOU would think that YOU are qualified to decided what people are 'worthy of praise' and how much they are worth.
LOL!!! (y.p.o.s.)

Oh sorry. My mistake. You are absolutely correct. Most people enjoy seeing pictures of morbidly obese, unattractive humans. Especially when they have displayed themselves in a less than flattering poses, possibly with flashlights shoved into their ass.

I stand corrected. Lets hope we see more of that!!

 

[AlexBailey]

To put it another way, a man isn't gay simply because he likes to suck cock. (As if that is the only defining characteristic of a gay man.) It's far more than that. He is gay because he wants to love a man and be loved by a man.

Most of your points are good but don't quite agree with the above qualification.

There are plenty of people who are gay who have no desire for a relationship or emotional love, so using who someone desires to partner with as the determination of their sexual identity is overly simplistic.

 

[Delawareguy]

Most of your points are good but don't quite agree with the above qualification.

There are plenty of people who are gay who have no desire for a relationship or emotional love, so using who someone desires to partner with as the determination of their sexual identity is overly simplistic.

You used the term "partner with". To me that means a bit more than just being curious about sucking cock or would describe a man who might go to and ABS for the purpose of sucking cock. if I suck a guys cock I do not think I am in any way "partnering with him". Maybe we just perceive that expression differently.

Having said that, I agree with what you say, but only GAY men or men who are TRULY bisexual want more than just sex with a man. They are different from men who are merely looking for a sexual experience with man (sucking a cock, etc.), AND THAT DIFFERENCE IS that they are open to being intimate and romantic with another man and would enjoy and desire to be kissing another man, cuddling with him, "partnering" with him or more specifically, being in a monogamous, committed, closed, personal relationship with another man or even marrying a man. I think that goes far beyond what a man who claims to be "curious about sucking cock" would be looking for. I think that is often true for men who already do enjoy sucking cock but are mostly heterosexual, and (possibly) married to a woman.

I am not saying that ever man who identifies as gay must want those things. I am sure some do not, just as not every heterosexual man wants to be married or in a committed relationship with a woman.

Not many men who say they are curious about sucking cock would also say "yeah, I could get married to a guy". THAT was my point.

 

[magicalmoments]

Not counting a little bit of adolescent group masturbation among my circle of male friends my first bi-sexual experience as an adult happened in my late 20's.
My wife and I had just started exploring the world of swinging and I was a little frustrated with how slow it was going so I took an opportunity to find some action for myself. I found an advert in an adult contact magazine (this was well before the internet) from a guy who was seeking a group of other guys to lease a small apartment that they could use as a base for secret liaisons. The idea being that the guys would share the cost and work out a timetable for access. A sort of secret erotic timeshare for guys cheating on their wives.
I met the guy and discussed the idea but it quickly became clear that it was well out of my budget. But we talked about swinging and opportunities for meeting women and in the process of this he produced a number of Polaroid photos of his experiences. While looking through these I got an erection. He noticed me adjusting myself to make myself more comfortable and suggested I release my cock from my trousers. We were sitting in his car in a remote spot.
I remember thinking for a moment and deciding why the hell not. So I got my dick out and started stroking it. He asked if he could stroke it so I happily let him. He got his dick out, which was also stiff and I started stroking him. We briefly sucked each other's dicks but brought each other off by stroking.
Afterwards we each went our own way and never contacted each other again, but my pathway down the road to bi-sexuality had begun.

 

[Pines]

Very hot encounter magicalmoments.

 

[Professor360]

My experiences

my first bi experience was at the hand of an older kid. he and I used to show each other our hard ons and look at this dad's porn, but never took it any farther until one night when we got caught in a summer rain storm and we had got soaked. Since he was spending the night my mom went ahead and told us to put our wet clothes in the dryer and go to the guest room. We were naked on the bed and he suggested we play with yourselves. As we progressed he slide down and put my dick in his mouth and then swung his hips to straddle me so his dick as in my face. Not knowing what to do, I put it in my mouth. I tasted weird but I tried to suck it but I could not get it right. Sensing this he stopped sucking me and starting stroking me like only a male can do. Soon I came all over his hand.I an into the bathroom and washed my mouth out.
It wasn't I got much older until I discovered transgendered escorts, and that I really enjoy sucking their dicks....

 

[FlirtyandPlayful50]

I was 20. My junior year of college. My Russian history professor was talking about his European travels and I really wanted to see Europe, so we chatted after class. He then asked if I wanted to see slides from his travels. We agreed to have me stop over that evening. I walked in, he handed me a glass of wine and we sat down to see the slides.

He was older. 60's or so. Single. And gay it turns out.

After several glasses of wine, he laid me down on his couch and asked if I had ever done anything with a man. I said, "No." He asked if I'd like to try. I said drunkenly, " I don't know." He said I can tell him to stop anytime. Then, he stroked my cock through my jeans, unzipped me and gave me the best blowjob I had had at that point in my life. Wow!

We continued to meet semi-regularly since his house was between my apartment and the campus.

 

[Delawareguy]

I was 20. My junior year of college. My Russian history professor was talking about his European travels and I really wanted to see Europe, so we chatted after class. He then asked if I wanted to see slides from his travels. We agreed to have me stop over that evening. I walked in, he handed me a glass of wine and we sat down to see the slides.

He was older. 60's or so. Single. And gay it turns out.

After several glasses of wine, he laid me down on his couch and asked if I had ever done anything with a man. I said, "No." He asked if I'd like to try. I said drunkenly, " I don't know." He said I can tell him to stop anytime. Then, he stroked my cock through my jeans, unzipped me and gave me the best blowjob I had had at that point in my life. Wow!

We continued to meet semi-regularly since his house was between my apartment and the campus.

I would have been very receptive to him. I knew by age 15 that the idea of sucking an older man's cock was somehow arousing to me but I was never in a situation such as yours. I never had any interest in exploring sexually with my peers. I think my peers were very immature about sex, nudity and sexuality which may have been the reason I only found the idea of sucking cock arousing when thinking of doing it with an older man. I was raised a nudist so I never had the curiosities my peers had about what others looked like naked or getting the first peek of a girl's tit.


I had a 70-something man did come on to me when I was 22 but we were not in a private location so not much happened. This happened at my place of work and the man was a local in the neighborhood who had come into the shop on a Saturday afternoon. I had seen him before but did not know him. I never saw him after that day again but I would have liked to have found out where he lived so I could have looked for him again. I often fantasied about what might have happened if we had a chance to meet again, or maybe his wife was into playing also but I didn't even know if he was married. It was just a fantasy I sometimes thought about that never materialized.

 

[FunHotBostonGuy]

I would have been way too chicken as a teen or in college. And I've been hit on by gay men but just haven't been interested. However, I bet if I "stumbled" upon a guy (or two) when they were naked and rock hard already, I bet I wouldn't be able to resist

 

[hilltopper69]

hi

good luck to you

 

[Dreamer110]

Mine was pretty mild. Slept over a friend's and received my first ever blowjob from him.

 

[Harley55]

I’m 60. My first experience was about 6 years ago. Loved it and it opening my eyes to what I’ve been missing from my sex life. Since then I have had a regular thing, a couple times a month, with a few guys where I can satisfy my craving and need to suck a mans cock and get fucked. Now I can say I prefer sex with a man more than a women. I fought the urge for years afraid I might love it and it turns out I do. Anyone whose curious, go for it. Life’s to short. I now enjoy sex as much as I did in my teens and early 20’s.