Multiple Love?

[celiaKitten]

Tonight I ran into an old friend from High School while I was shopping. We caught up, blah blah... then she told me that she is in love with three different people.

Got me thinking, can you truly love more than one person simulatniously? Not talking about lust or variations of love, I mean romantic love and multiple recipients.

What do you think?

 

[MNGuy]

Yes you can. But then you must choose or be chosen.

 

[Guest]

Oh yes, Lit has proven that...

 

[sufisaint]

You can love the whole world if you just completely open up your heart...easier said than done though..

 

[Summery]

Yes, it is very possible.

Hello CK

 

[patient1]

I said not, at least I never have.

I believe some people can.

I don't know which is better.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I suppose it is possible for many people if they let themselves - the problems then would be the ramifications. I believe that the inevitable jealousies and the probable inequalities would cause a lot of problems, therefore it probably wouldn't last very long before falling apart in a mess.

Surely some small number of people could do it and get away with it, but most people have problems loving one person properly, much less more than one.

 

[celiaKitten]

*grrrr* double post!

 

[celiaKitten]

Yes, it is very possible.

Hello CK

*ah the beautiful Summer Breeze* Heya hon! Check yer PM's

 

[Black_Bird]

Yes...

But no love for one person will ever be the same for your love for the another.

Every relationship is dynamic and different, as it should be. If your husband loved you the same way he loved his ex, wouldn't that make you feel like merely a replacement?

 

[celiaKitten]

Re: Yes...

But no love for one person will ever be the same for your love for the another.

Every relationship is dynamic and different, as it should be. If your husband loved you the same way he loved his ex, wouldn't that make you feel like merely a replacement?

Excellent point, BB! (but I don't have a husband ... thank god!)

 

[nakedangelina]

My initial response was "yes" but then I thought on it...
Yes, I can and have loved more than one person at one time. But I could never be "in love" with more than one person at a time. For me there is a huge difference, and although I have only been truly in love a few times in my life, I know it consumes me totally when it hits.

 

[Summery]

*ah the beautiful Summer Breeze* Heya hon! Check yer PM's

I am on my way there now sweet CK.

 

[celiaKitten]

STG .. you gotta get the 'ass2ass' one up .. heh, or tell me how to get it I love that one!!

 

[Susano]

I say yes, and Robert Heinlein agrees with me, and how ya gonna argue with him?

"It is impossible for a man to love his wife completely without loving all women somewhat" or some such quote, I never remember those word-for-word

 

[WaxNWane]

Nope, one's plenty.

Now lust, on the other hand...

...nah, one's plenty there, too.

 

[april-wine]

Most definately possible to love more than one......

To be totally intimate with more than one, too hard for me......

 

[HopefulRomantic]

I am in love with three women right now.
None of them love me.
That seems to be why it's working so well...

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

STG .. you gotta get the 'ass2ass' one up .. heh, or tell me how to get it I love that one!!

Put this into your sigline:

<img src="http://www.btinternet.com/~andyblewis/funnies/iconsex/iconsex-asstoass.gif" border=0>

 

[Calamity Jane]

Yes, it's completely possible.

 

[Susano]

I am in love with three women right now.
None of them love me.
That seems to be why it's working so well...

That does help a lot, when one of them starts loving you back she tends to get really possessive, and then where will you be? Better make sure never to start a relationship with any of them.

 

[DartmouthCouple]

I've been in love with more than one person at a time. I have a husband I love very much but I have been in love with a woman before. We tried living together but it just didn't work out. She expected me to leave my husband and I just wasn't willing to do that. I still miss her

 

[BigDawg69]

The problem is that there is only one word "love" and it takes on so many different meanings. Even if you exclude, lust, and friendship and familial love there are still hundreds if not thousands of levels of romantic love. The Eskimo's have like a hundred words that all describe snow. We should have at least that many synonyms for forms of love.

Can you "love" more than one person at a time? I think so. I also firmly believe that no 2 of that love is the same or even comparable. We as a competitive species feel the need to compare our love for each other and determine which is stronger or better, and that is not good.

If we could just love and be loved. Simple, but not easy.

 

[tswyk]

Very nicely put, Dawg. I concur.

 

[Xander]

It is possible to love mroe then one. But as Black Bird said. The love for one, will never be the same as for someone else.