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[SexxyLady]

I found out tonight he hasn't even read the darn thing. I guess that is sort of good news. As least now I no it didn't leave him cold. Hot would definately be better. He's making me wait now...so I guess once again, I'll just wait and see what happens.

I'm going back to the sex stories to get off now...see ya all later.

SL

 

[It'sasecret]

Oh man I am so sorry to hear that. How could he of not even read it???????????????????????? My story is no different. Tried again last night but he was "to tired". What do you mean making you wait? Did he set a time when he wants to read it? I really think it is shitty and disrespectful that he did not even read it. I tell ya sexxylady we are really going to have find SOMETHING that works, or we will both go crazy! Well, I am off to the stories as well. (seems it is all I have to get off)

 

[Mr. Bootie]

What's the Matter with Your Men?

Hey Ladies,

I've had a few ideas since I've last spoken to you. I hope that I am wrong. Is there something else going on in your husbands life? More to the point, is there SOMEONE else in his life? I couldn't imagine not wanting to spend quality sex time with my wife unless I was getting sex somewhere else. Masturbation is usually done while fantasizing, so who are they fantasizing about? Since thay already have you there, why fantasize at all? I just don't understand!?!?!? Although I like you two, and I enjoy conversing with you, it hurts me to read your posts. I am saddened by them. I hate to hear how unhappy and unsatisfied you are. I would hope that your marriages will survive, and that these are temporary setbacks. At the same time, I TRULY wish I was there to satisfy your sexual needs. I would gladly be your Boy-Toy. You could do whatever you please with me.
There is a saying that " You don't know what you have, untill it is gone." And "You don't miss the well, untill the well runs dry." Finally " Absence makes the heart grow fonder." It seems to me that your husbands are taking you for granted. They seem to forgotten what it was that they did to get you in the first place. It may be cruel, but they need a reminder. Maybe you should try distancing yourselves from them. I mean both physically and mentally. Since your husbands are content with your sex lives, they are not going to change. Especially if YOU are giving them what they want. If you change your behavior, then that will lead them to question "What's going on." Perhaps that would open the doors to communication. I hope this helps a little. If not just know that there is someone out there that CARES about you and is thinking about you. I just don't mean sexually. I care about you as human beings. Keep your heads up ladies, and I'll see ya' at the stories!!!!! (SMILE !!!!!!)

I wish I was there,


kgboot

 

[It'sasecret]

KGboot

A lot of people have suggested things like that to me. People say maybe he is gay, cheating, or just does not find you attractive anymore. I can see why someone from he outside would think something like that. But I really know that is not the case. He is ALWAYS home and NEVER goes out, so the cheating thing is out. As for being gay, I am sneaky and check out what porn he is looking at, it is not guys. I really believe it is just his personality. He is a very plain person, in all aspects of life. He does not like change, even his mom said as a child he hated change, he could not break away from his routine. Even the porn pictures he looks at online are very "plain"and the same girls all the time. He finds a picture he likes and sticks to it. The sex as pretty much been this way from the begining. It is just getting to me more now. Before we both lived at home so that was an excuse for some of it. Plus it was the 1st sex I was ever getting so at 1st it was good. But after 7 years.... It is boring.

I was thinking the same thing you had suggested KGboot about kinda giving him the same treatment, but I am not sure that would solve anything. The lines of communication have been open, we have discussed this problem together, but it has not changed. He knew I was upset last night when he turned me down. He said to me today "sorry I was just really tired" I was just like " yeah ok". I know he was truely tired this time, but it still has been a week and the sex we do have is soooo boring.
Thanks for being so sweet kgboot. Its nice to know someone cares. Sexxylady I guess we just have to hang in there.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

AW!!! SHUCKS!!!! I'm blushing

No problem IAS,

I'm here for you. Don't you forget it. I like the way your mind works. I've read several of your posts. By the way, I haven't forgotten about the story I am going to send you. But you must remember that I already told you that I was a tease. I'm going to wait a little longer before I tell you the story. By the way, it is a audience participation story. So, if you remember the items that I mentioned, you may want to have them handy before you read the story. I guarantee that you'll be glad that you did. Do I have your attention??? Don't worry hon' kgboot will take care of you!!

kgboot

 

[It'sasecret]

Hmmmmmmmmm I LOVE being teased!!!!!!!!!

 

[JUDO]

Why not share?

IAS & SL -

Why not make hubby's porn a hobby for the both of you? Nothing is sexier than sharing fantasies. In fact, isn't sharing all things, good or otherwise, what being with your partners is all about?

Slowly, steadily share the porn with them.

"You were really turned on today, what was that you were looking at...or reading? I want to encourage that literary pursuit. Maybe I would like it, too?"

Any little beginning line to get you in their sexual fantasy world. Then, even more fun...when you find out what really turns them on in a fantasy, write one for them and read it together, possibly including acquaintances or friends that you know he likes.

"Oh, you don't remember her? The curvy redhead from the office? I saw her looking at your ass at the barbecue."

Become the sexual confidant. You know, like the ones he had when he was single. He still refers to them as "buddies."

Good luck and happy fucking.

- Judo

 

[Guest]

Thanks for the advice Judo, but he would never do that with me. I am not sure if you read my thread "help me please!!!!" or sexxyladys other post "a little oral help here" but it is all pretty much all in there. But...................


We had an awsome night!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We had a MAJOR talk (again). Hopefully this time it sinks in. He was very defensive at first and got really nasty. Last time we had talked he just took it all in and felt bad, this time he was blaming me as well. I was asking him what has he really done to make things better since we last talked. At first he kinda threw it in my face and was like "well what have YOU done". I said I have done a lot to try and improve things, plus what did I really need to change if he was happy with the way it was. I told him that I felt like I was putting in all this effort and he was not. When I talked about how little we have sex, he was said " what do you think I am a machine?" I said "we only have sex once a week!" But after a while he came around and hopefully saw what I was talking about. I told him that I CAN'T have this talk again. We have been through this too many times and he needs to really put in some effort. So hopefully he understands this time and things will improve. After the talk we had AMAZING sex. It was wonderful the way he touched me. Then later on that day we got freaky again and he pleasured me with my vibrator, then later again I gave him an awsome blow job. So it was pretty great day! God I hope it stays this way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[It'sasecret]

Sorry guys that was me!

 

[JUDO]

Woo-hoo!

~standing ovation and cat calls~

What to go, girl!

Now then, a couple of things and yes, it probably means communicating with your spouse once more.

1- Ask him how he liked yesterday. Then, ask what made it different. In other words, why did yesterday work so well for him? You need the "why," so that you can get better acquainted with the little things that trigger him.

2- A machine? And only once a week? Then, how often does he masturbate? Once a day? Twice a day? More? Believe me, masturbation will often leave any many lacking in the erection department because it is SO satisfying (no one does you like yourself). And to compound matters, if he's worried about an erection, he will not have one. Vitamin E is often a great boost to erections and wonderful for the skin as well. Have one with his daily vitamins.

"I'm not a Machine" in this case usually has one meaning "I can't get it up just because you want me to or whenever you want me to." And you can take offense at this or you can realize that there is a tricky truth to it.

A dick gets hard on two occasions and both can easily result in great sex:

a) He's turned on for whatever reason = easy sex. His dick is saying "I want to and right now."

b) He's got a morning erection from pressure against his prostate (for whatever reason) and his brain just needs a little push for his dick to realize "I want to and right now." In this case, whatever you do, keep him horizontal. If he stands or becomes more vertical, he might need to pee really badly (and lose the pressure and the moment is passed, no pun intended). Don't let him out of your sight to go pee. Blow him or climb on top or both. If he says "Gee, you're a madwoman!" Who cares? Just go for it. In the end, he will not care.

If he does masturbate a lot, then ask him to hold back once-a-week for you. Be sure he understands that he will get a "special treat", if he does.

What do I mean by "special treat?" Something unexpected, but highly pleasureable. Just think of the fun you can have planning these things - location, dress-up or down, position, new stuff, you get my drift. And if once a week works and he really likes it, then after a time, try twice a week. hehehe!

Good start. Now, build off of the positive energy!

- Judo

 

[It'sasecret]

Judo,

He masterbates once a day. We have discussed it. I don't have a problem with him masterbating, even if it was 20 times a day as long as he was also pleasuring me too. But that was not the case he was masterbating everyday and giving me nothing. Getting an erection was never an issue. He can easly get an erection, it just seemed he prefered masterbation to me. As for what made yesterday so great... Well he paid attention to MY body. He was never unhappy with our sex life, it was me. Infact he thinks we have a really awsome active sex life. Have you read the other threads I mentioned? I think you would get a better understanding. For example you suggest a "special treat". He would not be into it. He is into very "vanilla" sex. He does like to experiment or try new things. That was the whole problem in the 1st place, getting him to try new things, but he is very reluctant. We shall see if things improve. I hope so.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

IAS...IAS...IAS...IAS......RAH! RAH! RAH!!

Just a little cheer from me. Congratulations Girl!!!!!! I'm GLAD to have read your post today!!!!!!! Keep it up. Or should I say keep HIM up......NO, correction keep him down...(That is down on YOU!!!! He..He..He..LOL)

Anyway I'm glad to hear some good news. I haven't heard from you in a little bit and I was getting concerned. It seemed that "no news is good news" was in order. I was beginning to think that you were TEASING me for teasing you. You are a tricky one my dear. I once again want to say congratulations. I do have a question? If things continue to get better with you and your husband, does that mean our threesome with Sexxylady if off ???? (LOL ..LOVE YA')

kgboot

 

[JUDO]

Where are you?

IAS -

Where are you when he masturbates? Where is he? Is there any way for you to get the two locations together? Meet for lunch?

A little phone call for nooky in the middle of the day is a great way to make my morning go by.

As far as the vanilla aspect. What do you mean? Is vanilla missionary only? Or what? If he fantasizes away from you to masturbate, what gets him going?

Obviously, he is leaving the vanilla for you and claiming the adventureous for himself. A little selfish, if you ask me.

Is there any way you can find out why you can not be included in his time alone?

- Judo

 

[It'sasecret]

KGboot I am still up for that threesome. How about you sexxlylady? Thanks for the congratulations! It was an awsome night.

Judo -- He does it when I am not home. I am pretty nosy and I check out his history trail. Even what he looks at online is pretty boring. Hopefully things are changing though! We shall see.

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Phew!!!! I was worried!!!

You had me going IAS. Where is SexxyLady? Have you heard from her?

kgboot

 

[SexxyLady]

Okay, I'm here, I'm here

I'm sorry my friends I haven't run away. I've been busy. Woman can not live on sex boards alone. I've been living life for a while. I tried putting some sexual action on the boards. I scored atleast 10 points this weekend, and I got a date out of it too (with hubby of course). Were closer emotionally as well as physically, so all has been good these last couple of days. But I have also been busy at work, so you guys got left out. My deepest apologies.

Hopefully, you all will forgive me. But 12 hour work days, a little one and hot sex at night has left me little time for my friends this week.

Speeking of work, I'm headed back now. I just slept in this morning...went to see Pat Benatar in concert last night...great concert, but too tired to get up this morning.

Talk to you all, tonight or tommorow night.

Love ya,
SL

P.S. I'm still up for our 3-way IAS and KG. I'm never satisfied.

 

[It'sasecret]

I am so glad to hear it Sexxylady. My sex life has been improving too! We had an awsome night again last night! I am so happy. Not only has our sex life been really good the past few days, but emotionally as well.

As for not being around....... I think you may need to make it up to us. Hehehehe KG boot you have any ideas on how she can repay us???? lol

 

[Mr. Bootie]

Ahh... But, of course!!!!

The Question is do we want her to receive her punishment?, or do we want her to give us pleasure?

If punishment, I say that we blinfold her, tie her up the bed with both her feet and hands bound. Another option would be to gag her. (I'll leave that up to you) Then we begin by tickling her feet with feathers and hands. She is not allowed to squirm or we will continue to tickle. Once, we are satisfied that she has had enough, we begin to lightly caress her body with the feathers. Paying close attention to NOT caress her most sensitive areas. We begin TEASING those areas. We pretend that we are going to touch those areas,... but then we don't. Her body should be really squirming by now. She should also be sooo HOT and to the point where she is begging us to touch areas. However, this is punishment. So now we begin by touching her breasts. We each have one, and we slowly caress and fondle it. Again we DO NOT touch the nipple or the nipple areas. We are just stroking and fondling. After several minutes of this , we look into each others eyes and we both nod. Simultaneosly, we both begin to move our mouths to her breasts as if we were going to suck them.
Instead of sucking, we both apply nipple clamps to her nipples.
(He..HE..He..) She yelps!, as we smile to each other. You will have to learn not to ignore us, we say together. (LOL)

Then the spanking begins. Do you prefer to use whips, or hands IAS? Either way, you smack one cheek and I spank the other. Then as I spank one cheek, you begin teasing her inner thighs with the feathers. What do you think so far........

I have ideas about the pleasure part for us, but I want you to give your ideas as well. So I'll stop for now.


Your Friend and Adversary,

kgboot

 

[It'sasecret]

Hmmmmmm No gagging, b/c I want to be able to hear her beg for more and her moan....... I never tried a whip before but as you know I am always up for new things. Although I must say I love the sound of a hand across someones ass. I want to tease her thighs, lightly running the feather across them, until she begs for more. Then I will run my finger under the edge of her panties, not yet touching her pussy but just the outline of her panties. Bringing my mouth close to hot pussy and tease some more. Just breathing over her letting her feel my hot breathe. Maybe licking her wet panties just a bit....

 

[Mr. Bootie]

I love your style!!!

You know, I love the way you think!! I believe that we would make a great team. Great minds DO think alike!!! You certainly have one. I don't think SL has any idea of what she's in for? One thing is for sure, She'll know not to get on our bad sides (LMAO)

Well Dear Heart..... I have to go for now. Yeah, I must go to work, I really didn't mean to stop by, It's just that I had to check in on my girls and see how they are doing? I see all is well. So I'm off.....Don't worry I'll Be Back. Untill then keep those Ideas coming!!!!

Man!!!! Did I ever miss You Two (Hugs and Kisses)

kgboot

 

[SexxyLady]

Oh my....I'm very ticklish

Okay you guys this would not be fair because I am extremely ticklish. As for the rest....mmmm, it may be punishment but it does sound heavenly. Are you sure it's not an award.

 

[Guest]

Ok not only am I begining to think our husbands are one and the same, but we are as well. I to am VERY ticklish. I swear we are so similar.

 

[It'sasecret]

aughhhhhh sorry that was me again!

 

[Mr. Bootie]

WooHooo!!!

Two for the price of one!!! I guess I'm going to have to put in double duty. That's perfectly fine with me. I am looking forward to the challenge. I guess it works out O.K. , besides, I am a Gemini. You know , the "twins" so be very AWARE.....(SMILE)

kgboot

 

[It'sasecret]

I have not seen you on the boards in a while sexxylady. Can I assume that means you are getting attention from your husband? I hope so. We have been doing great! Now we have to make sure they keep it up.