Missionary Problems

[Machiavellian]

yep i agree........

if it feels good do it... and do it and do it.........

And if that doesn't work - do it again! lol

 

[PrincessHoney]

and once more for luck!

 

[Mskey]

I'd asy it's a back problem rather then anything else. I know that my husband often has back spasms after missionary sex which is why he likes me on top, but for me I simply don't orgasm in this position.
I'd suggest strengthening the back and as Coyote said, if the back is off wait until it's feeling better before you go at it.
The plus here is that experimenting with what works is going to be half the fun of reaching success!

 

[sheath]

Funny thing is that he's far fitter than me. (He's run up 13 floors before in less than five minutes without panting while I took longer to get on the elevator and get to the 13th floor). *sigh* Maybe he just needs to pace himself...I don't know.

Whoa...back this trolley up a bit. He's in THAT kind of physical condition? And he says it's too much of a workout on his abs? HUH?

Not being able to orgasm in a certain position is one thing...perfectly understandable. And really enjoying eye contact...hey, I can understand that, too. But to say it's too much of a WORKOUT?

Honey, this guy is lazy as fuck if he can sprint stairs up thirteen floors but can't keep up the pace in bed. Sorry. I don't buy his explanation, not in the least.

S.

 

[dollface007]

Whoa...back this trolley up a bit. He's in THAT kind of physical condition? And he says it's too much of a workout on his abs? HUH?

Not being able to orgasm in a certain position is one thing...perfectly understandable. And really enjoying eye contact...hey, I can understand that, too. But to say it's too much of a WORKOUT?

Honey, this guy is lazy as fuck if he can sprint stairs up thirteen floors but can't keep up the pace in bed. Sorry. I don't buy his explanation, not in the least.

S.

Ummm...I'm going to sheepishly second Sheath's statement (say that 5 times fast). I had this very same impression, but i didn't want to insult your boyfriend. The whole eye contact excuse sounds like a line too. I wonder if he would say that if you did a "reverse cowgirl" on him.

Hey, i like to be on the bottom too, but there has to be some compromise.

 

[midwestyankee]

Alright, let's put this back in perspective.

These two have only recently started up their sex life together. They are still learning how to move properly with each other.

He's probably not the most socially adept creature with a Y chromosome, so he may have explained himself poorly. And just because he can dash up a few flights of stairs (13 floors is the exercise equivalent of running a half mile) is no sure sign of ultimate fitness. I'm sure that SlvrTongueDevil will back me up on this: fitness from running has nothing to do with abdominal strength.

The strength and endurance needed for lovemaking tend to reside in the legs and lower back. But if you don't get a good purchase (i.e., a good gripping spot) for your feet, you won't be able to use your leg strength for much.

Others have recommended trying a semi-missionary position with the man standing at the side of the bed. That should alleviate any problems with leverage for the legs. If he still wears out tpp soon,then it's time to talk about how well he's using that gym membership. Then, and only then will I agree that maybe this guy is just a lazy fuck who won't work to give a good fuck.

 

[fulie57]

Lazy Guys

Well, I have been reading this (I'm a newbie) and just had to pipe in. My wife and I have been together for 10 years, never been with anyone else, and we are open to anything.

I, unfortunately, have three torn discs in my lower back from an accident in which a semi rear-ended me at 70MPH back in 1999.

It is very difficult for me to be on top, in the missionary position. But I can still do it for 5 minutes.... any more, literally, and I won't be able to stand up for a week, much less walk.

It is important to communicate and as was mentioned before - switch positions - often! There is no reason you can't use more than one position twice, either. I get on top as long as I can (I like that position) and when I'm starting to near my pain threshold, we move. Later in the session if I feel like I can, I will get on top again.

Mix it up, have fun, and do a lazy test with him. I love it when my wife is on top but feel terribly guilty because of my injury knowing I can't do it as long as she can.

Just my two.

 

[Alsharlan]

Missionary position

For my tuppence worth, the missionary position is much under rated.

Your b/f has the option to pump away, or rest by grinding his pubic bone against your clit, and enjoy the sensation of being buried deep inside his lover.

Or something in between.... gently sliding in and out is also a wonderful feeling. Get him to slow down, and squeeze and unsqueeze your vaginal muscles as he slowly moves in and out.

But, hey, I am just a man, what do I know!!!!

Good luck

Al

 

[sheath]

Alright, let's put this back in perspective.

These two have only recently started up their sex life together. They are still learning how to move properly with each other.

He's probably not the most socially adept creature with a Y chromosome, so he may have explained himself poorly. And just because he can dash up a few flights of stairs (13 floors is the exercise equivalent of running a half mile) is no sure sign of ultimate fitness. I'm sure that SlvrTongueDevil will back me up on this: fitness from running has nothing to do with abdominal strength.

The strength and endurance needed for lovemaking tend to reside in the legs and lower back. But if you don't get a good purchase (i.e., a good gripping spot) for your feet, you won't be able to use your leg strength for much.

Others have recommended trying a semi-missionary position with the man standing at the side of the bed. That should alleviate any problems with leverage for the legs. If he still wears out tpp soon,then it's time to talk about how well he's using that gym membership. Then, and only then will I agree that maybe this guy is just a lazy fuck who won't work to give a good fuck.

I would agree with you, if not for this:

"...he has an odd back that seizes up sometimes..."

If the guy has a back that is hurting bad enough to keep him from performing in the missionary position, then what the hell is he doing sprinting up stairs?

Something about the whole thing just doesn't seem to fit. *shrugs*

S.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

I would agree with you, if not for this:

"...he has an odd back that seizes up sometimes..."

If the guy has a back that is hurting bad enough to keep him from performing in the missionary position, then what the hell is he doing sprinting up stairs?

Something about the whole thing just doesn't seem to fit. *shrugs*

S.

Gotta agree. Sounds some passive/aggressive attempt to lay back and have you do all the work. <not saying that's a bad thing >

 

[Bobmi357]

Can we please let this thread die?

Everytime I see the "Missionary Problems" title my fingers itch to ask "What kind of Missionary problems? Cannibals? Headhunters? Restless Natives? Bibles printed in Arabic and the country you're in speaks spanish?"

Argh!

Sometimes I just hate myself...

 

[SXCRgirl]

Can we please let this thread die?

NO! We can't!!!

LOL! Just kidding!

 

[crazybbwgirl]

Can we please let this thread die?

Everytime I see the "Missionary Problems" title my fingers itch to ask "What kind of Missionary problems? Cannibals? Headhunters? Restless Natives? Bibles printed in Arabic and the country you're in speaks spanish?"
Argh!
Sometimes I just hate myself...

hahahaha! Now all I can think about was when Homer Simpson had to be a missionary (can't remember why now?) and he built a casino instead of a church..... doh!

 

[Cardinal]

Maybe he's just out of shape or fat?
When I was fat and out of shape being on top was a lot of work and I would last a lot longer just because I had to concentrate on the "workout" that I was getting, hoping not to have a heart attack (I think the heart attack would have ruined the mood) Now that I am 30 pounds lighter and in better shape I can concentrate on the sex at hand and I do have to say that it is better for both of us.
Sex can be a very good motivator for weight loss! This may sound funny but my wife bought me a thong because I love her in them and always begged her to wear them, anyway, I obviously look better in the thong when I am thinner. So now as a continued motivator I only wear a thong if I am below a certain weight.
We all have to find our own motivation I guess

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

On the off chance that it's not laziness, lack of fitness, or he just doesn't want to do it, but needs an excuse ... a suggestion.
Missionary doesn't have to be simply him between your legs and pounding (romantic, eh?). When we do it, we re-arrange her legs, I'll put one of mine outside hers, we'll rock a little, etc. Helps work different muscles.

 

[Savvy]

Tried the me sitting on a table and him standing and that worked MUCH better for us! And yup, he has a weird back but he can sprint up stairs. He goes to a chiropractor every week to try and get his spine back into line.

Oh, and I might have given the impression that he's selfish when it comes to sex but he's not. He loves making me squirm and going down on me till I'm begging him to fuck me. Ah, I adore him...it's just that missionary is one of the things that doesn't work for us.

 

[SlickTony]

Let me put in a good word for the Starfish position...both can be bone-lazy and still manage to have a good time.