Misplaced vitriol

steve w

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I've just posted a story under the category of "Erotic Couplings". While the story does contain a man and a married woman, I've deliberately not placed it in "Loving Wives" because it is not primarily about cheating. Nor is the wife a habitual cheater or having sex with multiple partners. It is part of a series of chapters, which is itself part of a longer novel (which again, is not about cheating on husbands).

http://www.literotica.com/stories/showstory.php?id=165333

Despite this, I've now got a (anonymous) comment about how this "a cheating wife story and they're all sluts" yada, yada. I'm always loathe to wipe any public comments unless they're demonstrably not making any sense and I figure someone got confused/clicked the wrong thing.

My questions are these -

1 If you write about a married woman but place it in another category, why do you still get these kinds of comments?

2 What makes these people so angry/bitter in the first place (I could guess but might be wrong)? The toplist for "Loving Wives" has far lower scores than other categories. Even Non-Consent or Incest doesn't seem to bring forth the same vitriol.

Can anyone explain?
 
I don't know the source of it, but I do know that it seems to be extremely common. I am sorry that it has injured an otherwise no doubt excellent story, but it seems to be the cost of doing business. I simply can't imagine who has the time to go around posting these things, and apparently doing nothing else from the quantity of them, but you have my sympathy.

Shanglan
 
I have only posted two stories in the "Loving Wives" category. One was about, of all things, a wife and husband making love together. The other was about a married woman fooling around.

I have written quite a few stories about women who are cheating on their husbands (always justifiable) and have posted them in E/C or anal or wherever I thought they belonged and they have always been posted where I directed them.
 
I have had the same experience.

Part of the problem could be that people expect "Loving Wives" to be vanilla love stories, no cheating and therefore feel "cheated." <g>

A more basic problem is the whole "Category" approach. I think it would be better not to have categires but to have a larger number of story codes with at least one being mandatory.

Of course the fundamental problem is some people are too stupid to unestand that fiction is not real life.
 
Vargas,

I can only agree, agree and agree!

I think that most people probably understand that Loving Wives can include cheating wives, but just don't like the idea of wives cheating. Whether it resonates with their own lives I couldn't say, but I rarely see a public comment from a woman, complaining that all men are dogs and liars. Only from men about women.

Yes, I dislike having to categorise my stories. I think if you know and like a particular author's work you'll read it anyway, but categorisation makes finding new authors to enjoy more difficult.

I think we'll always have people who can't separate fiction and life, but hey, at least it prompts an emotional reaction, so we must be achieving something!
 
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but categorisation makes finding new authors to enjoy more difficult.

Yeah, verily. Unless your in a particular mood your have to find stuff through New, Top or Feedback Portal which doesn't necessarily mean your getting the best out there. I have two stories in EC which haven't gotten much response I'm pretty sure because people got more than they were after (God forbid a threesome or anal or shit just talking about sex should be Erotic Coupling) I used that category because it seemed the most all inclusive.

The whole category thing is numbing and makes us tend to check out authors we already know.

eric shawn

PS: that story spinner thing is kind of a waste. :rolleyes:
 
:) I think the main thing to remembger about categorization is that it is for the benefit of the readers, not the writers. Some persons especially like anal stories or incest or lesbian, etc. and they can go to the specific category and find them without reading a lot of other stuff.

An exception to this is Loving Wives. When I first saw this category, I said sometjhing like "That's nice. A category for husbands and wives who like to make love together." The first story I wrotre for the category was just that, a newlywed couple. I was quite shocked when I got feedback telling me how much some readers liked what I had written and how it was so much different from the usual story in the category. The feedback was all complimentary but the voting was not all that great. I think the story stands at about 4.3 which is okay but lower than my overall average.

As I have said before, I think the category should be named "Cheating Wives" because that is what it is about. Maybe there should be another category about loving couples but that is already a division of E/C and there probably aren't enough stories to make a whole category. Probably not enough interest either because I think more persons would rather read about cheating wives and husbands or erotic chance encounters.

:)
 
You can't win with the "Loving Wives" category. I've posted cheeting wife stories ther and ge vitrol about what terrible person I am. As someone said, we should be happy that our words are powerful enough to cause strong emotion. <g>
 
I think the nasty comments result when the wife is not justified in cheating. :cool: In the only story about a cheating wife that I have in that catgory, the husband is cheating at the same time. In the other stories I have written about cheating wives, which are in various categories, the husband is either a world-class asshole or he is also cheating, or both. In some of the stories, the husband and wife have what is sometimes called an "open marriage" so nobody is not really cheating.
 
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