Mind vs Heart

[Jewelz]

What do you do when your mind tells you one thing, but your heart is speaking a differently language? Do you listen to your hearts desires or do you think logically and practically? How long can you sit on those hearts desires until they drive you insane cuz you dont or cant act on them?? Or do you just get pissy with your mind for ruling your heart?? Please indulge me.........my mind and heart are at war right now.....I could use some good advice!!!! Thanks lit'ers!

 

[Gem_tiger]

What do you do when your mind tells you one thing, but your heart is speaking a differently language? Do you listen to your hearts desires or do you think logically and practically? How long can you sit on those hearts desires until they drive you insane cuz you dont or cant act on them?? Or do you just get pissy with your mind for ruling your heart?? Please indulge me.........my mind and heart are at war right now.....I could use some good advice!!!! Thanks lit'ers!

Hi Sweetheart.
Slow down there, do you want to tell your bro' Chris what this is all about? Although I can probably guess.
First off, you must listen to your heart but, you must run it by your head, that's why he is the Head (Head of Department).
Your heart will always say "You love it, you want it, let's go get it Mom." Hovever, what are the consequences, repercussions, problems??? I think I've mentioned before, my heart has almost got me in deep shit more than once. There are things in life that are best left - just dreamed about, others that you can have - with caution and other things you can have and be happy with.
You know where I am Honeybee if you need me to expand further.

Luv ya lots

 

[Dragon60]

What do you do when your mind tells you one thing, but your heart is speaking a differently language? Do you listen to your hearts desires or do you think logically and practically? How long can you sit on those hearts desires until they drive you insane cuz you dont or cant act on them?? Or do you just get pissy with your mind for ruling your heart?? Please indulge me.........my mind and heart are at war right now.....I could use some good advice!!!! Thanks lit'ers!

Go with your heart!!!

I'm in the same place right now, and have been letting my head rule. For 8 weeks I have been feeling terrible. If I had let my heart rule, I'm sure I would have lost any chance, but at least I would know. As it is, I'm suffering, but there's hope... or am I kidding myself?

Hope you get it sorted, and better than I managed.

 

[cherrylips_au]

What do you do when your mind tells you one thing, but your heart is speaking a differently language? Do you listen to your hearts desires or do you think logically and practically? How long can you sit on those hearts desires until they drive you insane cuz you dont or cant act on them?? Or do you just get pissy with your mind for ruling your heart?? Please indulge me.........my mind and heart are at war right now.....I could use some good advice!!!! Thanks lit'ers!

Not sure if this will help at all but when I'm unsure of what to decide I look at the options logically.
If I follow my heart will it satisfy me or is a risk to find out ?
Will anyone else be hurt if I follow my heart ?
Is my heart just lusting over someone and it could all disappear as soon as they becomes attainable?
Am I just looking for an escape?
Am I feeling this way because I'm not happy with my current situations ?
These questions might help you, just things I thought of after reading your post.

 

[MissTaken]

Jewelz,

Hugs and kisses for you in your dilemma.

Now, to make it rather simple. at least for me.

If I had had no children, I would follow my heart, wherever it lead and know that the price for poor judgement.

Now, with children, my head rules the roost!

I am not sure what you are troubled about, but I would offer that the grass isn't always greener.

Pm me if you likem hon.

*tender hugs*
Miss T

 

[Angelofsex]

What do you do when your mind tells you one thing, but your heart is speaking a differently language? Do you listen to your hearts desires or do you think logically and practically? How long can you sit on those hearts desires until they drive you insane cuz you dont or cant act on them?? Or do you just get pissy with your mind for ruling your heart?? Please indulge me.........my mind and heart are at war right now.....I could use some good advice!!!! Thanks lit'ers!

Jewelz,

For me it is with my feelings....What I feel on the inside........speaks to me more.........so I don't know if it is the heart or mind or both........but I found it tells me the truth.....Well good luck with it. Hope it all works out for you.

Kisses and Hugs



Angel

 

[QuietHurricane]

tough choice

I've always been ruled by my head, and I don't like the results. I think that the head is wonderful, but I'm learning that the truth of a person's desires and values lies in the heart.

 

[Eric623]

Neither, go with your gut instincts. I know it sounds kind of smart ass, but your head is influenced by the rules and conventions of our society. Our hearts are ruled by emotions (and in a man's case, by his little head). Deep down you already know the right path. You may also not be looking at this the right way. Maybe you need to re-define the situation. One thing I always ask myself; somewhere down the road, years from now, will I regret not taking the chance? When I have taken the chance, it may not have turned out the way I thought it would, but I always learn from the experience, and discover yet another side of me. Always try to remember my signature line, "The journey is the destination", it's my personal mantra. Feel free to email or pm me.

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: Mind vs Heart

Hi Sweetheart.
Slow down there, do you want to tell your bro' Chris what this is all about? Although I can probably guess.
First off, you must listen to your heart but, you must run it by your head, that's why he is the Head (Head of Department).
Your heart will always say "You love it, you want it, let's go get it Mom." Hovever, what are the consequences, repercussions, problems??? I think I've mentioned before, my heart has almost got me in deep shit more than once. There are things in life that are best left - just dreamed about, others that you can have - with caution and other things you can have and be happy with.
You know where I am Honeybee if you need me to expand further.

Luv ya lots

Gemmy, I can always count on you! Yes, I think you can guess what it is about. And I have run those questions through my head a thousand times. Thus my tug o war! Dreams are plenty with this situation. I know the consequences and they really arent that pleasant.....sigh.....

Thanks for being there Chris.. Love you tons!!!!

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: Mind vs Heart

Go with your heart!!!

I'm in the same place right now, and have been letting my head rule. For 8 weeks I have been feeling terrible. If I had let my heart rule, I'm sure I would have lost any chance, but at least I would know. As it is, I'm suffering, but there's hope... or am I kidding myself?

Hope you get it sorted, and better than I managed.

Im actually scared to go with my heart!! But at night, especially that is all I think about. My heart rules my head then! Im so sorry you are feeling miserable! Hopefully we can both get the war settled. sigh.......HUGS

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: Mind vs Heart

Not sure if this will help at all but when I'm unsure of what to decide I look at the options logically.
If I follow my heart will it satisfy me or is a risk to find out ?
Will anyone else be hurt if I follow my heart ?
Is my heart just lusting over someone and it could all disappear as soon as they becomes attainable?
Am I just looking for an escape?
Am I feeling this way because I'm not happy with my current situations ?
These questions might help you, just things I thought of after reading your post.

Oh Cherry! Those questions are soo good and I have run most of them over and over in my head. I am battling with the answers. Actually, I think I know most of the answers.....but I cant help but just wanna run away.......with my hearts desires. Not worrying about the outcome. But that isnt feasible right now.

If I follow my heart will it satisfy me or is it a risk to find out......the answer is both!!! sigh...

Will anyone else be hurt if I follow my heart.........YES very much so

Is my heart just lusting over someone and it could all disappear as soon as they becomes attainable.......My heart is lusting over someone but its more than lust.....its love.....i dont think i could lose my love for them once its attainable.

Am I just looking for an escape........yes but that is not the main recourse of the war......i find alot of peace with this "escape".....Im looking to be loved....although, I know I am loved in the current standing...but there is still a huge part that is missing and needing more...and I bounce around the "what ifs" all the time!

Am I feeling this way because I'm not happy with my current situations ...yes, most likely. I didnt go looking for love. it was placed in my path, my journey. needs met as much as they can be unlike they are now...

I really dont know what it is I am looking for.....

 

[Jewelz]

Jewelz,

Hugs and kisses for you in your dilemma.

Now, to make it rather simple. at least for me.

If I had had no children, I would follow my heart, wherever it lead and know that the price for poor judgement.

Now, with children, my head rules the roost!

I am not sure what you are troubled about, but I would offer that the grass isn't always greener.

Pm me if you likem hon.

*tender hugs*
Miss T

My sweet Miss T!! Thanks for those hugs and kisses! Yes, I think I am very much following your simplicity tactic...because had I no children...I think I know what the answer would be....But I have to think of them....and I guess that means sacrificing my own total happiness or desires. Until I can explore. I know that the grass isnt always greener....but how would I know it unless I acted on it? But then, at what price do I pay for those actions? And its not just my children, my husband, myself that I have to be concerned with...."the other side" means soooooo much to me and I couldnt bare to hurt him with the possiblities that might be unattainable ...but will they always be unattainable?? In the meantime, where do I place my desires? My love for him (the other side)?? I know I sound horrible for having feelings for someone outside my marriage...but I cant lie and say that I am being totally fulfilled in my marriage. Yes, I love my husband, enough not to hurt him. This would kill him. But, at what point to I ever care enough to take care of me and my heart?? sigh!!
Thanks for your advice miss t!!
Hugs n lotsa love!

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: Mind vs Heart

Jewelz,

For me it is with my feelings....What I feel on the inside........speaks to me more.........so I don't know if it is the heart or mind or both........but I found it tells me the truth.....Well good luck with it. Hope it all works out for you.

Kisses and Hugs



Angel

Thank you darling. Thats where I am confused. my feelings are deepened every night. How am I spose to push that away and "make my marriage work".....when I am the only one doing so.

This isnt the first person that has captured my heart......but what i do about that isnt clear to me. I wish it were cut and dry. Its not. It SHOULD be. I know I should make my marriage work, but its tiring to be the only one.

Kisses and hugs honey! thank you again!

 

[Jewelz]

Re: tough choice

I've always been ruled by my head, and I don't like the results. I think that the head is wonderful, but I'm learning that the truth of a person's desires and values lies in the heart.

Yes, I do agree with you! Thats what makes it sooo tough to obtain a balance of maybe the right thing, or the real thing...yanno??

And i dont know what lies ahead if i were to cross that line and follow my heart.....is it, the desire, mutual?? those types of questions!

 

[Jewelz]

Neither, go with your gut instincts. I know it sounds kind of smart ass, but your head is influenced by the rules and conventions of our society. Our hearts are ruled by emotions (and in a man's case, by his little head). Deep down you already know the right path. You may also not be looking at this the right way. Maybe you need to re-define the situation. One thing I always ask myself; somewhere down the road, years from now, will I regret not taking the chance? When I have taken the chance, it may not have turned out the way I thought it would, but I always learn from the experience, and discover yet another side of me. Always try to remember my signature line, "The journey is the destination", it's my personal mantra. Feel free to email or pm me.

No you dont sound smart assed....it sounds very true to me. yes, deep down I know the PATH, but am not sure its the right one for now. Meaning, I KNOW I should and have to stay in this marriage.....but that does that mean it is what i want in the long run? i dont know. what if i missed the chance of happiness ive never known?? would i be fulfilled if i left? what would the risks, the outcome of it be?? does the "other side" even WANT or desire the same things...yanno?? Im so confused. I wish I had tougher skin!

Thanks for everything darling!

 

[cherrylips_au]

Jewelz your torment is obvious in your replies I do wish you the best. It's always difficult to make decisions not knowing the circumstances, maybe the best thing for now is not to make a decision just let things flow.

If you ever want to talk to someone feel free to pm me.
Big hugs for you and sending good wishes your way.

 

[Jewelz]

Jewelz your torment is obvious in your replies I do wish you the best. It's always difficult to make decisions not knowing the circumstances, maybe the best thing for now is not to make a decision just let things flow.

If you ever want to talk to someone feel free to pm me.
Big hugs for you and sending good wishes your way.

That is another great piece of advice...stop making it difficult and just live the moment, live day by day and maybe my decisions will be made more clearly with time?? Thanks so much for the offer of friendship! I really appreciate so many of you being so kind and wonderful!!

HUGS!!!!!

 

[Gem_tiger]

Jewelz your torment is obvious in your replies I do wish you the best. It's always difficult to make decisions not knowing the circumstances, maybe the best thing for now is not to make a decision just let things flow.

If you ever want to talk to someone feel free to pm me.
Big hugs for you and sending good wishes your way.

J, I have to go with Cherrylips. Your torment is breaking my heart, so God only knows how you feel but, best not too make sudden or rash decisions.
Your are a ship that has become lost in the fog, a wrong decision could cause you to founder on the rocks.

Sit back and take lots of deep breaths.

Chris

 

[warmlips]

Neither, go with your gut instincts. I know it sounds kind of smart ass, but your head is influenced by the rules and conventions of our society. Our hearts are ruled by emotions (and in a man's case, by his little head). Deep down you already know the right path. You may also not be looking at this the right way. Maybe you need to re-define the situation. One thing I always ask myself; somewhere down the road, years from now, will I regret not taking the chance? When I have taken the chance, it may not have turned out the way I thought it would, but I always learn from the experience, and discover yet another side of me. Always try to remember my signature line, "The journey is the destination", it's my personal mantra. Feel free to email or pm me.

I agree with this guy, Jewelz.
You are spending a lot of time thinking I don't know what to do, I don't know what to do . . . this could carry on for a very long time, the more we put these kind of thoughts in our mind, the more we get the same response, nothing changes or gets better. I feel that maybe you need to look at things differently, in a "I DO know what to do, I DO know what's best for everyone" way. This probably sounds simplistic, but in order to find a solution to anything, including, and especially something emotional, relaxing as much as possible and letting the answers arise, is always the best way. I am thinking about you Jewelz, I hope you take care of yourself and your happiness, if whoever has touched your heart has made you feel like this, is that helping you? I don't know. I have no idea what your situation is like, I just know I care, and would like to help if I can, but ultimately, this is YOUR decision Jewelz, no one can decide for you what you do, and you can do it, and you must do whatever will be the best for everyone in your family, as well as you, children are precious, they are the future. take care sweetheart, you are in my prayers,
warmlips

 

[Jewelz]

J, I have to go with Cherrylips. Your torment is breaking my heart, so God only knows how you feel but, best not too make sudden or rash decisions.
Your are a ship that has become lost in the fog, a wrong decision could cause you to founder on the rocks.

Sit back and take lots of deep breaths.

Chris

thanks my dear sweet friend....i love ya chris!! will you hold my hand thru this?? silly question....i know you will!

 

[warmlips]

And also...

No you dont sound smart assed....it sounds very true to me. yes, deep down I know the PATH, but am not sure its the right one for now. Meaning, I KNOW I should and have to stay in this marriage.....but that does that mean it is what i want in the long run? i dont know. what if i missed the chance of happiness ive never known?? would i be fulfilled if i left? what would the risks, the outcome of it be?? does the "other side" even WANT or desire the same things...yanno?? Im so confused. I wish I had tougher skin!

Thanks for everything darling!

the whole missing the change of happiness thing, I think it's a myth, honey, happiness ONLY comes from within . . .never from another person, maybe another person can ENCOURAGE that happiness, but each individual is the only one who can let themselves be happy, and it is like that, we let ourselves be happy, so soon I hope you can, inspired by yourself or by others, you are so special, you are one of the most beautiful women I have ever met . . .

 

[warmlips]

DOH!

chance of happiness I meant!

 

[mayi]

as much as i want to follow my heart.........the head knows what is around the corner........the heart will get broken, can you face the let down?

mayi

 

[Gem_tiger]

100%

thanks my dear sweet friend....i love ya chris!! will you hold my hand thru this?? silly question....i know you will!

You got it Jewelz, I am with you, take my hand whenever you wish, it will be there to pick you up and guide you through whatever troubles befall you.

 

[Angelofsex]

Jewelz you have alot of goodfriends here giving answers that comes from their heart. It is very confusing life itself, but you will see the light of what you will do. Stop looking so much and the door will open in the right direction. I am waiting for a door to, so hon you are not alone.

Someday I will tell you my story, but now it is for you.

((((((Jewelz)))))) Love you.