Mind vs Heart

[biker]

Re: Re: my heart wins

I agree with you...I followed my heart recently and it got broke...I was told it was in good hands....but it was not...one thing about the heart..it repairs itself.....

But.............It leaves scars...

 

[Jewelz]

This will probably get me flamed from a zillion directions, but have you considered just keeping things as they are? Can you even do that? Some people can. I'm not saying it's right or wrong - I don't pass judgment on other people's behavior. My only concern is that the "innocent" people involved don't get hurt unneedlessly.

There has been a lot of great advice here. My only words of wisdom are that you need to somehow step back, look at the overall picture and decide what is best for you . The rest will fall into place no matter how difficult the road ahead may seem.

I am not trying to hurt anyone unneedlessly.....

I really am taking it as Angel said....one day at a time....no pushing.....just accepting....

I hope things work out for the best for all concerned parties! He knows for sure that I am not out to hurt him.....I love too much to hurt him!

 

[cutie pie]

you have a PM, sistah.

 

[Jewelz]

you have a PM, sistah.

hey babes......will answer soon!

 

[1sexylady]

Re: Re: Re: my heart wins

But.............It leaves scars...

Biker.....to me it leaves wisdom...not to let it happen again...

Scars are left after LOVE...this was not love...didn't get that far thank god....but the connection was there for deep caring....

 

[sortacurious]

I just happened upon this...



New Love and Old
by: Sarah Teasdale



In my heart the old love
Struggled with the new;
It was ghostly waking
All night through.

Dear things, kind things,
That my old love said,
Ranged themselves reproachfully
Round my bed.

But I could not heed them,
For I seemed to see
The eyes of my new love
Fixed on me.

Old love, old love,
How can I be true?
Shall I be faithless to myself
Or to you?




I thought of you when I read it.

 

[Jewelz]

Re: I just happened upon this...

New Love and Old
by: Sarah Teasdale



In my heart the old love
Struggled with the new;
It was ghostly waking
All night through.

Dear things, kind things,
That my old love said,
Ranged themselves reproachfully
Round my bed.

But I could not heed them,
For I seemed to see
The eyes of my new love
Fixed on me.

Old love, old love,
How can I be true?
Shall I be faithless to myself
Or to you?




I thought of you when I read it.

thank you sweetheart.....it brought me to tears......been a very bad night for me.......am i allowed to run away?? lol

 

[AzureAngel]

The mind and the heart. *Chuckles.* It'd be nice if they were that cleanly separated, woudln't it?

First, I would agree with following your instincts. For me, there's almost always a choice that feels intrinsically right and a choice that feels intrinsically wrong. But when in doubt...

The best choice for you will be made with your mind, I hate to say it. And that's only if you can be completely objective. That's a very difficult talent to acquire - being able to separate yourself FROM yourself to make the best choice. God knows I can't do it just yet... not where love is concerned. The best choice might not always feel the best.... but it IS the best.

Why? If you make a choice with your heart and it doesn't work out, you will look back at that choice and known you could've made a better choice. If you make the best rational choice, and THAT doesn't work out... when you look back, you can't say, "I could've made a better choice." You could've made a different choice, yes. But not a better one.

When I say rational choice... I don't mean, "Well, I'm married, that's rational. Raar." You ought to take into consideration everything. All of the pros and cons of everything.

It's painful to cut your heart out of the decision-making process, I know. My heart is incredibly powerful and I struggle to contain it enough as it is... but decisons based purely on passion are just weak.

 

[sortacurious]

Re: Re: I just happened upon this...

thank you sweetheart.....it brought me to tears......been a very bad night for me.......am i allowed to run away?? lol

Absolutely! Running away is allowed when it's too overwhelming, lol.
I'm sorry you're having a bad night. If I can help in any way, even if only through support...I am here. Wanna talk?

I just found another by the same author...she seems to have been torn, herself. Last one, I promise

The Flight
by: Sarah Teasdale

Look back with longing eyes and know that I will follow,
Lift me up in your love as a light wind lifts a swallow,
Let our flight be far in sun or blowing rain --
*But what if I heard my first love calling me again?*

Hold me on your heart as the brave sea holds the foam,
Take me far away to the hills that hide your home;
Peace shall thatch the roof and love shall latch the door --
*But what if I heard my first love calling me once more?*



Sounded appropriate as well. God, I wish I could write like this. Have you tried journal entries? Over a period of time and for immediate release it can help.

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: Re: I just happened upon this...

Absolutely! Running away is allowed when it's too overwhelming, lol.
I'm sorry you're having a bad night. If I can help in any way, even if only through support...I am here. Wanna talk?

I just found another by the same author...she seems to have been torn, herself. Last one, I promise

The Flight
by: Sarah Teasdale

Look back with longing eyes and know that I will follow,
Lift me up in your love as a light wind lifts a swallow,
Let our flight be far in sun or blowing rain --
*But what if I heard my first love calling me again?*

Hold me on your heart as the brave sea holds the foam,
Take me far away to the hills that hide your home;
Peace shall thatch the roof and love shall latch the door --
*But what if I heard my first love calling me once more?*



Sounded appropriate as well. God, I wish I could write like this. Have you tried journal entries? Over a period of time and for immediate release it can help.

i love you honey! i can feel your genuine care....and i appreciate that. sure, im up for talking....not sure how much tonight....ive gotta get to bed......but maybe sometime in the morning....??? PM me if you wish sweetheart....there is soooo much i could say....lol

i write poetry......havent lately.....maybe i should....

hey, im smiling right now thru the tears tho.....its MY BABY'S BDAY!!!!!!! Everyone go wish him a happy birthday on his bday thread.......pleaseeeeeeeeee!!

SC.......please lets talk soon! .....ive gotta get some rest...im emotionally drained!

 

[Jewelz]

The mind and the heart. *Chuckles.* It'd be nice if they were that cleanly separated, woudln't it?

First, I would agree with following your instincts. For me, there's almost always a choice that feels intrinsically right and a choice that feels intrinsically wrong. But when in doubt...

The best choice for you will be made with your mind, I hate to say it. And that's only if you can be completely objective. That's a very difficult talent to acquire - being able to separate yourself FROM yourself to make the best choice. God knows I can't do it just yet... not where love is concerned. The best choice might not always feel the best.... but it IS the best.

Why? If you make a choice with your heart and it doesn't work out, you will look back at that choice and known you could've made a better choice. If you make the best rational choice, and THAT doesn't work out... when you look back, you can't say, "I could've made a better choice." You could've made a different choice, yes. But not a better one.

When I say rational choice... I don't mean, "Well, I'm married, that's rational. Raar." You ought to take into consideration everything. All of the pros and cons of everything.

It's painful to cut your heart out of the decision-making process, I know. My heart is incredibly powerful and I struggle to contain it enough as it is... but decisons based purely on passion are just weak.

thanks for your great advice AA! hugs!! lots to ponder over!!

 

[anneski]

What do you do when your mind tells you one thing, but your heart is speaking a differently language? Do you listen to your hearts desires or do you think logically and practically? How long can you sit on those hearts desires until they drive you insane cuz you dont or cant act on them?? Or do you just get pissy with your mind for ruling your heart?? Please indulge me.........my mind and heart are at war right now.....I could use some good advice!!!! Thanks lit'ers!

Hey honey, I don't have any good advice for you, I'm in exactly the self-same conflict... but I'll bump your thread for you


If you get any good advice - be sure 'n' let me know, 'k?

 

[Jewelz]

Re: Re: Mind vs Heart

Hey honey, I don't have any good advice for you, I'm in exactly the self-same conflict... but I'll bump your thread for you

If you get any good advice - be sure 'n' let me know, 'k?

Hi sugar. You know i will. its a heavy thing! I forgot about this thread *giggle*......but the mind/heart still is struggling.

 

[themystic1]

hey there sunshine,

I see that you have lots of friends, but if you ever need to talk to someone that is a total stranger, I would be more than willing to lend an ear.
Everyone has their bit of advice...here's mine(for now).

Yes, ppl will be hurt... to try and minimize this, if you are not happy. leave for you...not for someone else.
You need to be alone for a while to heal your soul.
Then and only then, can you begin to think about being with someone new.
You can be who or whatever you want to be on here.
Is this person truly what you think he is?
Is he the one for you??
If he is...He won't mind waiting while you take some time to clear your mind and heal your soul.

I could go on, but I do better when I have feedback.

Hopefully you will see the light and choose the right path.
take care...hugzzzzz
~Jim~

 

[twodogs]

what to do

Boy the heart thing i will have to say it does not work out more than it does.
The head , well i have went with it a time or two , was a bad call so here i ended up with a broken heart that did'nt make any kind of decision in the matter , now a head at a total loss .
People work on your head and heart with so much lip service both head or heart have no idea what to do .
And then there is love that is in the heart and head , so no matter the one you chose to go with if it does'nt work out the other one is going down also .
The heart is telling you hey i know everything that i'm told it's the way it's going to be i will be so happy nothing will go wrong.
The head say's now i got a bird in my hand but oh look at the pertty one in the bush.
Now the question now is what do i want and what do i have,do i let the bird go and go for the one in the bush that will be so much nicer and everything will be the way i want it .
Hell heart , head, love, or what ever it might be unless you realy know this person it won't a bit of difference what you chose from .
So i guess if you are not happy and nothing to loose, well blow and go , but keep a little of yourself tucked away , if it does'nt work then the fall is not so hard .

 

[RetroGrounder]

bumpitty bump

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

I am in a similar position and have been so before so i know to some extent what you feeling.

for me i have to say it comes down to listening to my head and my instincts. That is not to say i have not followed passions call, but i did so fully aware and accepting of the consequences.

As others have said step outside yourself for a moment, take some much needed alone time and then come back to the situation.

You must do what truely makes you happy, but you really need to know what that is to follow it and the alone time and your head will allow you to find the that truth.

I wish you all the best and may you find peace and happiness whatever your decision is.

 

[BigFatMeat]

I tend to always go with my mind. My heart is just as flawed as my mind is, sometimes, so there's no need to discriminate.