Methods of proper punishment and aftercare ??

[SassyKatz71]

OK,first attempt at a thread so bear with me..

What ones have you used or have heard of that are The norm across the bdsm lifestyle.I know the punishment should fit the crime. Are there ones that you prefer to use over others when it comes to punishment ? Even if you do not use punishment. Examples and all opinions are welcome.

Also opinions on proper aftercare.This goes for both aftercare for the Doms as well as the Subs.

 

[monak4u]

generally, a list of crimes are committed. A number is assigned to each crime. The total is given once a week. A number of strokes are given equal to the total.

The strokes can be given on the breasts, pussy or ass.......

I love it.

 

[Sienna]

OK,first attempt at a thread so bear with me..

What ones have you used or have heard of that are The norm across the bdsm lifestyle.I know the punishment should fit the crime. Are there ones that you prefer to use over others when it comes to punishment ? Even if you do not use punishment. Examples and all opinions are welcome.

Also opinions on proper aftercare.This goes for both aftercare for the Doms as well as the Subs.

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generally, a list of crimes are committed. A number is assigned to each crime. The total is given once a week. A number of strokes are given equal to the total.

The strokes can be given on the breasts, pussy or ass.......

I love it.

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Interesting But I'm not into BDSM big style. But will play sometimes if both my hubby and I fancy experimenting He likes tying my ankles to the bed posts to keep my legs apart and giving me oral sex when I have the "giggles" and want to close my legs. Once I succumb to the pleasures he is giving me, my resistance obviously subsides. However, he still keeps my ankles spread apart to enjoy watching me tremble in ecstasy during orgasmic climax and keeps it going until I am on the verge of passing out with orgasmic seizure. In a way, I love it

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[SpunThings]

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Interesting But I'm not into BDSM big style. But will play sometimes if both my hubby and I fancy experimenting He likes tying my ankles to the bed posts to keep my legs apart and giving me oral sex when I have the "giggles" and want to close my legs. Once I succumb to the pleasures he is giving me, my resistance obviously subsides. However, he still keeps my ankles spread apart to enjoy watching me tremble in ecstasy during orgasmic climax and keeps it going until I am on the verge of passing out with orgasmic seizure. In a way, I love it

But what does this have to do with punishment and aftercare?

 

[SassyKatz71]

I know not everyone does punishment. but for those that have done it,tried it or incorporate it into their agreement. I know of some methods used. just wanted more input on the subject. Especially the aftercare of doms and subs.

 

[desertslave]

We don't do punishment in the sense of some physical reprisal for an infraction. Since I enjoy most forms of pain-play it would either make me into a total nuisance, or make the punishment pretty useless.

Occasionally there have been consequences for improper or undesirable behavior. We are both responsible adults so it doesn't happen often...we just talk about whatever issues come up. But for adjusting thoughtless behavior on my part, there have been times when orgasm denial has been godawful effective

 

[SassyKatz71]

We don't do punishment in the sense of some physical reprisal for an infraction. Since I enjoy most forms of pain-play it would either make me into a total nuisance, or make the punishment pretty useless.

Occasionally there have been consequences for improper or undesirable behavior. We are both responsible adults so it doesn't happen often...we just talk about whatever issues come up. But for adjusting thoughtless behavior on my part, there have been times when orgasm denial has been godawful effective

I can see why is right. Would definitely be affective in getting me to remember lmao

 

[Sienna]

But what does this have to do with punishment and aftercare?

Absolutely nothing

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[Tigersman]

Punishment

I'm currently close to submitting a story that has discipline training as part of the plot. I'm using ideas I got when I watched the movie "The Story of O." in the movie as well as the book, O is caned on the back and maybe the butt. She is tied up, spread eagle between two columns. I'm using the same scenario. Personally, I have spanked my wife and tied her up. I also poured hot wax on her all over. I would have preferred to have a room with columns so I could tie her up then whip her with a cane, a flogger or riding crop.

 

[seela]

When I've done the punishment dynamic in the past, the only thing that's worked has been taking away something that I enjoy but don't think of as a luxury or as anything special.

No internet, no chocolate, no movies, no books, eating the same crappy dinner every day for a week etc. Possibly canceling an outing with friends. That together with having to write a letter in which I described what I had done wrong and what would have been the right thing to do was effective. The best part was that it took very little effort on his part so he didn't have to go out of his way because of my screw up.

 

[Malich]

Since I generally have subs who are masochistic, I can't use physical forms of punishment. To be fair i do not consider them to be suitable learning tools anyway.

Generally I find short time outs to be the best. just a couple of minutes, enough to focus the mind and think about what has been done. Lines work too but generally take too long. I'd prefer something to be short, useful and then moved on from so the sub doesn't feel like she is being overly punished for something minor.

 

[monak4u]

My boyfriend caned me the other day. The welts were hot!

 

[MaddysSecret]

For me pain and pleasure mix, but in my experience the Dom finds the one or two things the individual sub is afraid of and uses those for punishment, or finds the point beyond which it's punishment for the sub. But mental discipline works well on me because I feel bad failing. Corrections for my improper behavior usually work because I've been made to understand and be embarrassed and regretful of my error.

 

[monak4u]

I am spanked. Sometime he ties me up. It makes me wet.

 

[MaddysSecret]

I am spanked. Sometime he ties me up. It makes me wet.

That's totally me. The right kind of spanking and I soak.

 

[monak4u]

Does he tie you up? My bf uses a vibrator on me sometimes.

 

[Chachi23]

Punishment is only involved during play sessions such as me being told to not move and I do. I love pain therefore anything involving that wouldn't work but the biggest punishment for me is to not be able to periodically touch/taste/kiss my master when we're playing.

As far as aftercare, I don't think anyone can specifically say what is "proper" as it will be completely different from person to person as well as what happened during a play session. With my last master I would curl up against his chest while he held and stroked me. He would ask how I was doing and what, if anything, I needed.

 

[midwestyankee]

I don't do the live-by-these-explicit-rules-or-there-will-be-hell-to-pay dynamic. We're adults and solve problems without such measures. However, just because my mind travels along these roads sometimes, here's an idea:

In a live-in situation, when there's a bad infraction, take away the miscreant's phone charger. Watching the panic as the battery power slowly fades to black will be exquisitely pleasurable.

 

[SpunThings]

I don't do the live-by-these-explicit-rules-or-there-will-be-hell-to-pay dynamic. We're adults and solve problems without such measures. However, just because my mind travels along these roads sometimes, here's an idea:

In a live-in situation, when there's a bad infraction, take away the miscreant's phone charger. Watching the panic as the battery power slowly fades to black will be exquisitely pleasurable.

Why do I think this is the sadist talking, and not the disciplinarian?

 

[midwestyankee]

Why do I think this is the sadist talking, and not the disciplinarian?

Perhaps because, as I said, I don't do the disciplinarian thing. Still, I think that my suggestion would work pretty well as an incentive to refrain from repeating the infraction.

 

[SpunThings]

Perhaps because, as I said, I don't do the disciplinarian thing. Still, I think that my suggestion would work pretty well as an incentive to refrain from repeating the infraction.

Your idea intrigues me much more as a sadistic exploit than any kind of punishment. I guess that's how I know I'm definitely in the non-punishment camp ha!

 

[SassyKatz71]

Not into pain much.At least not a lot of it lol Then I'd perhaps,I'd baulk at it. But idk.I think O denial after repetitive edging works wonders when it comes to the more serious infractions.At least for me, it's something I would not forget any time soon

 

[switchersm]

sunday spanking

I get a spanking every sunday by my lovely wife. she uses a riding crop and a woodden stick on my bare ass. the basis are 50 strikes on each cheak. she adds more strikes because of mistakes I have made during the week. so I normally get about 65-70. big mistakes like begging for release count 50 on top. then I get about 120, it has been sometimes around 160. remember on every buttock. during the spanking she says"oh your ass is becoming red. let's see if I can make it purple." afterwards she tells me how nice the deep red colour and the welts are in contrast to my pale skin. when I get a spanking with more then 100 strokes, it happens occasionally that my wife remarks a little bleeding. that doesn't stop the spanking. she goes further on until the total number is done. after this she gets a cream and pampers my ass. this punishment is to remember me, who is the boss in our erotic relationship and whom I have to pamper always. It functions very well.

 

[SassyKatz71]

I get a spanking every sunday by my lovely wife. she uses a riding crop and a woodden stick on my bare ass. the basis are 50 strikes on each cheak. she adds more strikes because of mistakes I have made during the week. so I normally get about 65-70. big mistakes like begging for release count 50 on top. then I get about 120, it has been sometimes around 160. remember on every buttock. during the spanking she says"oh your ass is becoming red. let's see if I can make it purple." afterwards she tells me how nice the deep red colour and the welts are in contrast to my pale skin. when I get a spanking with more then 100 strokes, it happens occasionally that my wife remarks a little bleeding. that doesn't stop the spanking. she goes further on until the total number is done. after this she gets a cream and pampers my ass. this punishment is to remember me, who is the boss in our erotic relationship and whom I have to pamper always. It functions very well.

Definitely erotic. That is a lot whew..I don't think I'd like that at all though.

 

[monak4u]

mmmm....sometimes my bf spanks me like that.......he then makes me walk around the house naked......my ass is so red and sore.