Mental bondage

[slvjenn]

I always feel awkward posting here. I guess being mostly new I feel like an outsider butting in. I hope my questions are ok.

There is something that I like that I rarely ever hear anything about. Since I never hear anything about it I can only call it by my own name, Mental Bondage.

I like physical bondage, don't get me wrong. But there is something about being told to hold onto the bedposts and not let go. Or being told to not make a sound, or to keep my hands behind my back or any other position that just excites me more.

I'd have to guess that it's because it takes an effort (both mental and physical) at all times to maintain it.

OK, enough about reasons I feel that way. Am I the only one that finds a liking to this? Are there others? Why does there seem to be no topics anywhere about this?

 

[Daddyslilpet]

While this is a difficult thing for me, it can also be quite exciting.

I also did a search on this topic for you, and the following thread has some good info on mental bondage.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=99107&highlight=mental+bondage

Sorry I don't have more info for ya. And btw, always feel free to ask your questions here that's what this place is for.


dixi

 

[MsWorthy]

I prefer mental to physical bondage. I find it much more satisfying to watch my partner fight her own resistance rather than fighting the physical bonds.

For me, it demonstrates her desire to do what I ask, even if that means fighting her own physical instincts.

This form of bondage is also something I can use to give each of us a secret thrill when the rugrat is around. I teasingly tell my partner not to move and then tickle her. It is funny and seems like a silly game to the rugrat but reinforces one part of our PE for my partner and myself.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I like both

However, my favorite is physical bondage.

I use mental bondage with new subs. I use it as a way to build trust leading up to physical bondage. I do not tie up new subs at first. I find that they are very capable of holding positions for as long as I need them to, and if they fail, well it is a grand opportunity to test some of those limits they have listed on their BDSM Checklists.


Ebony

 

[Ebonyfire]

Welcome slvjenn

Ebony

 

[zipman]

Why have one when you can have both!

I love both forms of bondage. It depends on the scene and what I want to do, but there is something about spanking someone or asking them to hold a position when there are no physical restraints. I believe it requires a lot more effort and is therefore, more satisfying for a sub when she completes it successfully. If not, it is an opportunity to adminster discipline.

Weclom aboard slvjenn!

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Why have one when you can have both!

If not, it is an opportunity to adminster discipline.

As if we NEED an excuse, right Zipman?

Eb

 

[zipman]

Re: Re: Why have one when you can have both!

As if we NEED an excuse, right Zipman?

Eb

Just a little bit of variety EB. Besides, sometimes it's a little more enjoyable for me when they require it, and it's not just my whim.

Then again, just on a whim is fun for me too!!!

 

[~Dream~]

I HAVE TO ADMIT..

I do like both also but..I need to be mentally psyched up to enjoy the physical bondage itself,I tell myself I HAVE to take it" annd it drives me wild with desire"Am I weird or what"?

 

[artful]

Re: I HAVE TO ADMIT..

I do like both also but..I need to be mentally psyched up to enjoy the physical bondage itself,I tell myself I HAVE to take it" annd it drives me wild with desire"Am I weird or what"?

I love your kinda *weird* baby. I use both. On a NEW sub, I proceed s-l-o-w-l-y with some physical bondage and restraint. Why? Because experience tells me, with a sub that is NEW to BDSM, they tend to try to PROVE themself too much when ONLY mental bondage is used. Often leading to points wayyyy past their emotional limits and it ends up being an UNsatisfactory experience for SOME of them. With physical bondage, and/or restraints, it tends to relieve them of anxieties and undue stress. (They have NOTHING to prove)

T0 ME,...it's a matter of control,...and I like being in control. Also, she may reach a point where she thinks it is the end for her, (orgasm having been attained, but I can read where there is MUCH more for her to experience before ending the play. I will add more later,...but my browser is fucking up and I need to change it.

 

[slvjenn]

Thanks for the link to that other thread. It was interesting.

I'm not really sure how to follow up my question. At least I know I'm not the only one out there. (i knew that already but it's still nice to hear/see)

I'm trying to figure out exactly why I like it. I guess it hightens (sp?) my awareness of what I'm doing. It's like having to contantly consent to what is going on. Over and over again you make the decision not to move, or to hold onto whatever it might be. Sometimes having to put all of your concentration into not making noise, not moaning, not crying out. Maybe as far as the not making noise for me, it is the objectification. I sometimes feel like I almost have to seperate myself from the (especially) pleasure to maintain that silence.

 

[morninggirl5]

I'm still working through the "why" this interests me so much. One aspect that seems to be included for me is the control. You're simultaneously giving up your control and exercising it in an extremely, shall we say, trying situation.

 

[artful]

Re: Re: I HAVE TO ADMIT..

I love your kinda *weird* baby. I use both. On a NEW sub, I proceed s-l-o-w-l-y with some physical bondage and restraint. Why? Because experience tells me, with a sub that is NEW to BDSM, they tend to try to PROVE themself too much when ONLY mental bondage is used. Often leading to points wayyyy past their emotional limits and it ends up being an UNsatisfactory experience for SOME of them. With physical bondage, and/or restraints, it tends to relieve them of anxieties and undue stress. (They have NOTHING to prove)

T0 ME,...it's a matter of control,...and I like being in control. Also, she may reach a point where she thinks it is the end for her, (orgasm having been attained, but I can read where there is MUCH more for her to experience before ending the play. I will add more later,...but my browser is fucking up and I need to change it.

ADDENDOM:

Well,...back again. To continue,...mental bondage is the BEST bondage. I play with it some in the beginning to get the feel of where endurance levels MAY be with a NEW sub.

Later on,...it becomes developed to a fine art, (no pun intended). One of my favorite plays is to insert a dildo in her pussy, ordering her to NOT touch it, as I "Talk the Talk" to her.

Oh yes,...it will FINALLY come out, of its own accord,...no matter how she tries to keep it in.

Another *Mental Bondage* play I like is,...for her to be talking on the telephone to a friend, I access her pussy,...ORDERING her to continue the conversation while I build the *FIRE*.

I have never had a woman who has been able to do this through to her climax. Hmmm,...maybe Dream will be the first. (We will see)

 

[slvjenn]

Another *Mental Bondage* play I like is,...for her to be talking on the telephone to a friend, I access her pussy,...ORDERING her to continue the conversation while I build the *FIRE*.

I've had that done to me, but not in a D/s relationship to the point that my father asked if I was ok I've always seen that as just "fun stuff" hehe.

 

[artful]

I quite agree on,...

I've had that done to me, but not in a D/s relationship to the point that my father asked if I was ok I've always seen that as just "fun stuff" hehe.

...the *FUN STUFF*,...lol

 

[artful]

BTW:

I've had that done to me, but not in a D/s relationship to the point that my father asked if I was ok I've always seen that as just "fun stuff" hehe.

Did you reach orgasm while you were talking to your Dad?

 

[slvjenn]

no no...but i guess i let out a few moans..and was breathing heavy enough that he noticed "something" hehe...

 

[Desdemona]

I like bondage any way I can get it.

 

[artful]

slv

no no...but i guess i let out a few moans..and was breathing heavy enough that he noticed "something" hehe...

Thanks for the reply. I am sure it has been accomplished somewhere by someone,...but I have YET to have ANY of MY subs attain it. For SOME reason,...they have to QUIT the conversation.

Now ME,...hell,...I can cum easily while being orally done, or even a hand job while talking to someone ELSE on the phone,...no problem.

 

[~Dream~]

Re: Re: Re: I HAVE TO ADMIT..

ADDENDOM:

Well,...back again. To continue,...mental bondage is the BEST bondage. I play with it some in the beginning to get the feel of where endurance levels MAY be with a NEW sub.

Later on,...it becomes developed to a fine art, (no pun intended). One of my favorite plays is to insert a dildo in her pussy, ordering her to NOT touch it, as I "Talk the Talk" to her.

Oh yes,...it will FINALLY come out, of its own accord,...no matter how she tries to keep it in.

Another *Mental Bondage* play I like is,...for her to be talking on the telephone to a friend, I access her pussy,...ORDERING her to continue the conversation while I build the *FIRE*.

I have never had a woman who has been able to do this through to her climax. Hmmm,...maybe Dream will be the first. (We will see)

maybe I will MASTER ..MAYBE I will however the dildo thing was quite torturous(but fun) in itself

 

[A Desert Rose]

I like bondage any way I can get it.

~~~~~~~~~I agree with Des, and by the way, welcome to the board slvjenn.
Rose

 

[artful]

Re: Re: Re: Re: I HAVE TO ADMIT..

maybe I will MASTER ..MAYBE I will

We will see! Anyone wanna lay odds on how many times it will be attempted before she is able to orgasm by me playing with her while she is talking to a friend on the telephone?

ONE time won't win,...we done been THROUGH that,...LMAO

 

[~Dream~]

UH ERR WELL..

I'VE GOT $5 ON DREAM (ME) MASTER ..
WAVES MY $$$ IN THE AIR lol

 

[Shadowsdream]

Mental bondage is being continuously fine tuned in a long term TPE relationship if all goes well.

A simple look across My desk will stop My toy from all his thoughts. Once he catches My silent eye he can no longer type at his computer. his eyes widen in a question and as I continue to look deeply into them they begin to go dull and quiet. sub space without a word. he can't move until I drop My eyes.

I enjoy using mental bondage as much in the non sexual moments as I do in sexual moments or play.

It is important to him because he feels vulnerable in a way he never expected.

 

[artful]

EXACTLY

Mental bondage is being continuously fine tuned in a long term TPE relationship if all goes well.

A simple look across My desk will stop My toy from all his thoughts. Once he catches My silent eye he can no longer type at his computer. his eyes widen in a question and as I continue to look deeply into them they begin to go dull and quiet. sub space without a word. he can't move until I drop My eyes.

I enjoy using mental bondage as much in the non sexual moments as I do in sexual moments or play.

It is important to him because he feels vulnerable in a way he never expected.

This is what I am shooting for with Dream.