menopause

[A Fireman]

I need the help of some older women.My wife is in the begining of menopause and has lost all sexual drive.She has started estrogen therapy,and has been on it more than a month and still has no desire.
Please any helpful advice I love her very much and would never wander from her but boy do I want it. Is there anything I can do to help or sugest anything for her to try

 

[Closet Desire]

my two pence...

As a man you may not think I have anything useful to say, but my wife is on again/off again menopausal and on HRT. She's rather young, but then again she started early. The loss of desire doesn't necessarily have as much to do with menopause as you think. For most women it is a major milestone in life and at these milestones we all stop and think about where we've been and where we're going. Sometimes we do crazy things like leave our partners and buy Harleys...I didn't buy a Harley...but the rest applies.

Talk with your wife and, more than anything, listen to what she says. Don't solve her problems or suggest solutions. Find out what is causing her stress. She may not even know, but starting to talk often gets it going. Be prepared to be very surprised by some of the things she may be thinking.

Love her, cherish her, and let her know she's still the one who does it for you.

 

[Bastet]

i thought women hit their sexual peak around that time and got really horny?

 

[Closet Desire]

No...

...they start at thirty and are still getting up a head of steam at 40...50...???

 

[Cheyenne]

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=32153

Check out the thread above. I tried to post info about a site that specializes in peri-menopause and menopause, but it didn't get too far on the general board. It should help you with the info you are looking for.

Look up testoesterone (sp?) at the site. Women need it, too, to have sexual desire.

 

[Juliet]

I am 34 and was thrown head over heels into surgical meonopause about a year ago. My sex drive before my surgery was little to brag about! Now after almost a year of HRT and a lot of talking i.e. sharing fantasies, desires etc...our sex life has never been better! Just after my surgery my drive increased so much that my husband thought that my doctor had my hormones too high. What would he think though??? We went from having sex once or twice per month to two and three times per day! After discussing this (with red face) with my doctor I was quickly informed that I was taking a combination of Estorgen & Testosterone, which until that time I had no idea a woman produced testosterone! Anyway, it was his opinion that I was not producing the level that I should have prior to my surgery and once I started taking the medication it brought the levels of each to the place they should have been to begin with.

There are a number of medications to help women get through menopause and until your wife finds the right one for her you may be in for a tremendous roller coaster ride. Try and be as supportive as possible and know this emotional battle is not something she can control.

 

[willywanker]

Maybe your wife is taking the word itself to seriously.

Men--o--pause

Change it to menokay or menoplay maybe.

Sorry, ladies. Not really trying to minimize the problem, just bring a little humor to the situation.

 

[ChaoticLil]

I'm in the beginnings of menopause, and I'm only 42. Being that I DO NOT believe in artificial medicine, I take only natural suppliments. The two that I find very useful is Phytoestrogen and Maca Maca. Phytoestrogen is plant derived and Maca Maca is a tropical herb/plant that is traditionally used for female complaints. Both of these herbs help level out the hormones.

A few others that you may want to look into is Black Cohosh, Red Raspberry, and possibly St. John's Wort and Valerian/Kava Kava (if she has nervous/anxiety problems along with the menopause).

By the way, since I've been taking the Phytoestrogen and Maca Maca, my sex drive has gone through the roof (which my men are VERY happy to see)