Men: What do you think of women who fake orgasms?

[MsQuote]

I wrote a post for my blog, Orgasms Part 1: Why Women Fake Orgasms. I'm curious to know what men think about women who fake the big "O".

 

[Sun Tan Guy]

I wrote a post for my blog, Orgasms Part 1: Why Women Fake Orgasms. I'm curious to know what men think about women who fake the big "O".

I dated a gal after college that couldn't orgasm through intercourse, but could orally. She was very open and honest about it to make my orgasms enjoyable even though I told her it wasn't necessary.... If a gal can't and she does thIs to enjoy it better with her partner... its fine with me...not all gals can easily achieve it.

 

[CBM514]

I think they should just be honest about what works for them and what doesn't...I love when she gets off, but me egomdoesnt depend on it...I would rather know what to do for her than have her fake it

 

[SR8771]

I think they are only cheating themselves.

I'd rather she put that same effort into teaching me what does work.

 

[hotblue17]

I hate it! Sex should be about both people and both people should enjoy it. If she's not having fun, then either stop or tell the guy (or girl) to do something differently. I (usually) can tell if she fakes it and it's kind of demoralizing... almost like i'm not doing my job, but she's too ashamed to say something.

 

[fade2blue]

I think they are only cheating themselves.

I'd rather she put that same effort into teaching me what does work.

My thoughts exactly.... Basically we're all responsible for our own orgasms - if she doesn't want to tell me (for whatever reasons she may have) how it's done.... It's her loss.

 

[suckonsimon]

I'm a one-woman guy so I have only that experience to go on. But while we were dating and before we had intercourse we talked about this, from what we had both read in magazines and her conversations with girlfriends. We agreed that she would promise never to fake, and that so would I [in that much less likely scenario]. I truly believe that my capacity to pleasure her really well springs primarily from her commitment to never faking. Otherwise, how on earth would I have ever learnt the oh-so-subtle art? The additional pleasure I have in taking her to bliss and keeping her in bliss, knowing that it is 100% genuine, is, frankly, the most supreme pleasure of my life, far more significant that the sexual pleasure I have within my own body and soul, great though that is.

By stark contrast, the odd time I see professional porn and those women doing the whimper thing to egg on the stud and the viewers, it seems so pathetically sad to me.

MsQuote, perhaps a bit left-field as an answer to your question, but I wanted to say it. Si.

 

[JudasIscariot]

I wrote a post for my blog, Orgasms Part 1: Why Women Fake Orgasms. I'm curious to know what men think about women who fake the big "O".

Ill go as far as saying I couldn't give two fucks

If she wants to fake an orgasm then let her get on with it, if she hasn't got the voice to speak up and say what she wants then that's her own problem

Ill still be firing my jizz inside her whatever happens

 

[suckonsimon]

Ill go as far as saying I couldn't give two fucks

If she wants to fake an orgasm then let her get on with it, if she hasn't got the voice to speak up and say what she wants then that's her own problem

Ill still be firing my jizz inside her whatever happens

Hey Shaun you and me here - the contrast is hilarious!

 

[klippert]

Your not hurting me...if you're faking it. Aren't you losing in the end... I fake mine too..

hehe

 

[boutrosboutros]

They never do with me.

No, seriously, the honest truth is that if we both still had a nice time what difference does it make? I'd rather she fake it than just lie there. And as a general rule I always make a partner cum before penetration anyway, so it's not as if anybody is getting short-changed.

I've faked orgasms for similar reasons too - sometimes you've had a nice time anyway but it's not working for you, and you don't want to disappoint your partner or make her feel inadequate. Yes, men can and do fake orgasms.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I understand some of the reasons why women might fake it. Wouldn't matter to me. I guaranty mine is real.

 

[bob53]

That would be just another form of a lie. Any type of deception is a deal breaker for me.
If my partner feels she needs to lie about this what else will she lie about in the future.
Facts are facts - learn to get past the ego and deal with them and life is so much more worthwhile for everyone involved.

I also have been there on occasion and initially she felt bad that I did not orgasm but I was not in that head space. I was just enjoying the intimacy - kind of at a tantric level. Being totally in the moment.
Once she understood where I was at mentally all was good.

 

[MsQuote]

Guys,

Thanks for the feedback. All of you said things that women need to hear about faking orgasms: 1. Don't fake; it's disingenuous, and 2. Tell you what you need to know and learn.

The follow-up post is here.

Again, thanks!!! xxxo

 

[Jani715]

Ive only done it when my boyfriend at the time would hurry ahead and finish before I was able to as well and so I just said I had as more of a politeness thing. Otherwise, there's not much need as long as you're satisfied at the end of it.

 

[Hans101]

This isn't a common problem for me, but there have been a few times when I suspected the woman I was with of faking it.

I don't like it.

If I'm making love to a woman, I'm there to give her as much pleasure as I possibly can. My enjoyment comes from my lover losing herself and drowning in a sea of sexual pleasure. This is what truly satisfies me sexually.

So for a girl to fake it is frustrating because its like I don't get to cum myself. I want her to totally lose control and just melt, and I'm willing to go to great lengths to make this happen. By faking it, she cheats me not only of the gratification that comes from watching her pop, but of the opportunity to even try to make it happen.

I would much rather spend a few hours in bed learning what she likes, learning how to bring her off.

 

[HeyAll]

Two things:

1) I think women are afraid of hurting the guys feelings

2) Some women might be ashamed for not cumming. It would be pretty awkward if the guy rolls off her sweating, while she's just laying there with no orgasm.

Personally, I'd want a woman to tell me if she didn't cum. I want her to tell me how she likes things, and what it takes for her to orgasm.

Faking an orgasm is equal to lying about something intimate as far as I'm concerned.

 

[Actualizer]

It's lying.

 

[CBM514]

There isn't a need for it...my ego won't be crushed if she don't get off during sex, there are plenty of ways to fix that for next time and/or when I'm done, doesn't mean it's over for both of us...besides, it should be about the whole experience, not just the orgasm...society puts the expectation out there that without orgasm, sexy is pointless...