Men, money, and relationships

[OhMissScarlett]

If I made more money than my SO, I wouldn't be able to hear his protests because I would be in Europe where he wouldn't bother to go looking for me.

 

[tolyk]

If I made more money than my SO, I wouldn't be able to hear his protests because I would be in Europe where he wouldn't bother to go looking for me.

See? My point exactly *grin*

 

[carsonshepherd]

If I made more money than my SO, I wouldn't be able to hear his protests because I would be in Europe where he wouldn't bother to go looking for me.

PMSL! I'd be there with you, too....

 

[LadyJeanne]

If I made more money than my SO, I wouldn't be able to hear his protests because I would be in Europe where he wouldn't bother to go looking for me.

PMSL!!!

My passport's been stamped in England, Greece, Mexico and Australia in the last year or so...I TERRIFY men even when I tell them it's all frequent flyer miles and hotel points and barely costs a thing.

 

[carsonshepherd]

PMSL!!!

My passport's been stamped in England, Greece, Mexico and Australia in the last year or so...I TERRIFY men even when I tell them it's all frequent flyer miles and hotel points and barely costs a thing.

Lady J, if I were into women I would be proposing to you right now.

 

[NoJo]

Hey, Carson and LJ both PTSL! How puddlicious!

 

[rgraham666]

I was chatting with a friend of mine and we got into an interesting discussion about men and money. My position is that virtually all men would hate it, or at least be uncomfortable if the woman in their lives made more money than they did, to the point where that relationship would likely end unless the financial circumstances changed.

He said that's likely, unless he had a lower-paying job that had something else going for it...defending the country on military pay, teaching, ministers...

Thoughts?

If I took that attitude, I'll be single forever. I'm poor, always have been. And unless I luck out on my writing and become a world renowned authour, I always will be. I have the wrong personality type to succeed in the modern working world.

So any woman I go out with will almost certainly make a lot more money than me.

I don't care how much she makes. I'll always be more interested in who she is than how wealthy she is.

There is the reverse problem as well. Many women won't go out with a guy unless he well off or likely to be.

I remember that being shoved home once. The last full time job I had there was a physically, by my standards, lovely lady working there.

So I tried chatting her up. At one point in the conversation, she said, "I won't go out with a guy unless he makes at least $60,000 a year and drives a late model Beamer or Mercedes."

"I know a guy like that," I remark.

Her eyes light up! "You do?"

"Yeah. He's a pimp and a crack dealer."

For some unfathomable reason, she never spoke to me again.

 

[NoJo]

Lady J, if I were into women I would be proposing to you right now.

That's how I feel about you too, Carson.

 

[tolyk]

Hey, Carson and LJ both PTSL! How puddlicious!

Huh..?

 

[LadyJeanne]

Lady J, if I were into women I would be proposing to you right now.

LOL!! Get in line with all my other gay male friends - three of them HAVE already proposed! I took one of them with me to London, though, so you don't actually even have to be straight, just look out for my cat while I'm on all those business trips.

 

[NoJo]

Huh..?

Pissed Themselves Laughing.

 

[LadyJeanne]

Huh..?

(both Peeing Them Selves Laughing)

 

[NoJo]

LOL!! Get in line with all my other gay male friends - three of them HAVE already proposed! I took one of them with me to London, though, so you don't actually even have to be straight, just look out for my cat while I'm on all those business trips.

You took a gay to London? Have you heard the expression "Coals to Newcastle?"

 

[tolyk]

Pissed Themselves Laughing.

Alrighty then

 

[OhMissScarlett]

PMSL!!!

My passport's been stamped in England, Greece, Mexico and Australia in the last year or so...I TERRIFY men even when I tell them it's all frequent flyer miles and hotel points and barely costs a thing.

I long for the days when I was single and could just leave town if someone pissed me off.
Now I the best I can do is to leave the room.

 

[NoJo]

I long for the days when I was single and could just leave town if someone pissed me off.
Now I the best I can do is to leave the room.

Patience, honey...

 

[LadyJeanne]

If I took that attitude, I'll be single forever. I'm poor, always have been. And unless I luck out on my writing and become a world renowned authour, I always will be. I have the wrong personality type to succeed in the modern working world.

So any woman I go out with will almost certainly make a lot more money than me.

I don't care how much she makes. I'll always be more interested in who she is than how wealthy she is.

There is the reverse problem as well. Many women won't go out with a guy unless he well off or likely to be.

I remember that being shoved home once. The last full time job I had there was a physically, by my standards, lovely lady working there.

So I tried chatting her up. At one point in the conversation, she said, "I won't go out with a guy unless he makes at least $60,000 a year and drives a late model Beamer or Mercedes."

"I know a guy like that," I remark.

Her eyes light up! "You do?"

"Yeah. He's a pimp and a crack dealer."

For some unfathomable reason, she never spoke to me again.

$60k a year gets someone a BMW? Maybe one of the little ones...

That's the sign of a gold digger who places more value on money than character. Sad, but it's more common among women than men, prolly because women in the past have had to rely on men's salaries. I don't have requirements like that because I don't need anyone else's money. I think that might be part of my problem.

 

[LadyJeanne]

You took a gay to London? Have you heard the expression "Coals to Newcastle?"

He takes really, really good care of my cat when I'm away.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Patience, honey...

it's getting better, the bathroom door has a lock on it now.

 

[NoJo]

$60k a year gets someone a BMW? Maybe one of the little ones...

That's the sign of a gold digger who places more value on money than character. Sad, but it's more common among women than men, prolly because women in the past have had to rely on men's salaries. I don't have requirements like that because I don't need anyone else's money. I think that might be part of my problem.

I don't think it's about money. I think men might think that if you're career minded, they see you as"manly" -- i.e. assertive and independent. And some (stoopid) men don't like that.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I long for the days when I was single and could just leave town if someone pissed me off.
Now I the best I can do is to leave the room.

Maybe a looong drive to the next town over? Even a weekend somewhere else is refreshing.

 

[mlady_france]

I remember that being shoved home once. The last full time job I had there was a physically, by my standards, lovely lady working there.

So I tried chatting her up. At one point in the conversation, she said, "I won't go out with a guy unless he makes at least $60,000 a year and drives a late model Beamer or Mercedes."

"I know a guy like that," I remark.

Her eyes light up! "You do?"

"Yeah. He's a pimp and a crack dealer."

For some unfathomable reason, she never spoke to me again.

How crude! I was acused of dating my current hubby for his money by his family. The funny thing about it was that I was making more than him at that time. Two months after the comment I got notice that I was going to be laid off in a month. That only made the comments worse when we got married and I still wasn't working.

 

[LadyJeanne]

I don't think it's about money. I think men might think that if you're career minded, they see you as"manly" -- i.e. assertive and independent. And some (stoopid) men don't like that.

That's an excellent point. People do make assumptions that I am career minded and prefer career to family when the truth is I have a career specifically because I don't have the family, which I'd prefer.

 

[NoJo]

He takes really, really good care of my cat when I'm away.

It means like "taking ice to Iceland". We have a surfeit of gay men here. We're all gay. we don't need any.

 

[NoJo]

That's an excellent point. People do make assumptions that I am career minded and prefer career to family when the truth is I have a career specifically because I don't have the family, which I'd prefer.

I used to envy women at work who got maternity leave. But they found it hard to progress their careers.