Men & Fingering ... how does that work?

[Aphrodisiac]

Hi all ,




Just recently my man asked me if I would mind exploring ... back there. I have never ever do such a thing so I have no idea how I would go about doing some thing like that ...

* do I use some sort of lube?
* how far do I go?
* will it hurt him when I insert my finger back there ?
* will I eventually hit his prostrate ... etc... ????

I have no experience what so ever when it comes to anything anal so any advice would be helpful , any tips from both men & women.

Thank you so much,

 

[SexyChele]

If you like pleasing your man, fingering him will drive him over the edge! Here are some things I do, I hope they help:

1. Make sure he is clean. I'm sure he probably already does this, and will probably be even more conscious of this if he knows you are willing to do this. A nice shower together first can help - and can be fun, too!

2. A little lube will make it easier, but saliva works just as well. Normally, a woman's fingers are much smaller than a man's, so while he gets the sensation, it doesn't always have the pain factor that women might have. Still, it doesn't hurt to put a little KY on your finger, or rub a little around his anus.

3. Try just running your finger around his entire ass - rake the skin lightly with your nails, lightly run your fingers around the anus. Tease him, make him think you might do it, and then move away. Before you know it, he'll be begging you to continue.

4. Insert just the tip of your finger (up to the first knuckle) very, very slowly. The muscles of his anus will have to stretch a little, and it will be a bit different feeling, so let him adjust. Plus, it offers just a bit more teasing. If you have longish nails (I don't have extremely long nails, but they are long), make sure there are no rough snags on them. Also, try place just the tip of the nail just inside the ring of muscles surrounding the anus first. Make small circles, letting him get used to you. Then SLOWLY and carefully slide you finger in up to the first knuckle. Keep it there, moving in small circles, moving back and forth slightly.

5. Slowly, slowly insert your finger to the second knuckle, making circles. pushing and pulling your finger in and out. Once you get past the tight ring of muscles, you will find the interior of his anus to be very soft and moist. This is normal.

6. Try to keep your finger going straight while going in. You should reach the prostate before your finger is fully inserted, but it depends on how he is built and how long your fingers are. The prostate feels like what it is - a gland. When you reach it, move just the tip of finger, sliding along it, flicking back and forth. You'll know if you've got it right! Keep stroking the prostate, and moving your finger back and forth, and in circles. You will drive him crazy!

7. As with anything anal, when you bring your finger out, be sure you wash it completely before you touch yourself or your man anywhere. And don't forget about getting under the nail. (Or nails, if you decide to use 2 fingers)

Good luck, and I hope you enjoy yourself! I know your man will be in for a treat!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Thank you so much SChele for the advice.

My man has been asking me a lot about this and honestly I had no idea ... but now ... ...

Thank you once again.

 

[lovetoread]

I'm a gonna try this out.

I too didnt know how to go about doing it.

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

I have to chime in and vouch for what Chele said.

That would do it for me!

 

[marksgirl]

I some times do this when I'm giving my guy a blow job and it alway blows him away!

 

[bharman4102]

I read your instructions -- can you come over and give my gf lessons?!

I had a gf who tried this one me...wow...she knew what she was doing, and like 3 years later i still think of her sometimes....we even got to the point where she put a vib in me, which was pretty hot!

 

[Tallfella]

Try doing it as a reciprocal if you are both gentle its wonderful

 

[gMan90]

6. Try to keep your finger going straight while going in. You should reach the prostate before your finger is fully inserted, but it depends on how he is built and how long your fingers are. The prostate feels like what it is - a gland. When you reach it, move just the tip of finger, sliding along it, flicking back and forth. You'll know if you've got it right! Keep stroking the prostate, and moving your finger back and forth, and in circles. You will drive him crazy!

SexyChele, your post was wonderful!! I've tried to finger myself before, but to no avail. The idea is SO appealing, and i want to try it SOOO badly. I've tried it with both my finger and a vibrator, and can't seem to find my prostrate. Could you possibly give me some advice?

Thank you so much!!!
gMan

 

[gMan90]

If anyone could provide me with some information here, i would be extremely grateful.

Thanks,
gMan

 

[SexyChele]

SexyChele, your post was wonderful!! I've tried to finger myself before, but to no avail. The idea is SO appealing, and i want to try it SOOO badly. I've tried it with both my finger and a vibrator, and can't seem to find my prostrate. Could you possibly give me some advice?

Thank you so much!!!
gMan

To be truthful, I've never met a man who could massage his own prostate - at least for any length of time. Let's face it. It's awkward to finger one's own ass. Although it can be highly erotic to watch!

I would think a dildo or maybe a vibrator might do it. Don't get use anything overly large, as you want to be able to control it. The trick is trying to keep things straight going in. Sometimes this might be best acheived if you are on your hands and knees, back straight, and try to reach around. Do it slowly, aim straight.

Beyond that, I'm afraid I really have no advice. That's why partners always make these things more fun!

 

[Amfig]

If anyone could provide me with some information here, i would be extremely grateful.

Thanks,
gMan

Schele has written a wonderful primer on the subject. I'd disagree with her slightly on this last point. Your prostate is slightly behind the pubic bone. A slightly curved vibrator, bent forward (toward the front of your body) would most likey hit your prostate.

 

[DuckLover]

I've been successful fingering my own on several occasions, and they're right that it feels great. (I got curious after fingering a woman's ass. If it felt good for her...)

After inserting, angle toward the navel. I find the prostate to be about walnut-sized, smooth and round, and very firm. When you start to touch it, you'll know. The position is similar to that of a woman's G-spot.

Oddly enough, I find it much more stimulating with my own finger than when using any object or someone else's finger. <shrug> Stimulating it definitely makes for a harder erection (or generates one) and can even cause ejaculation without touching the cock.

WARNING: Being sensitive, you can hurt it. Too much contact can result in a "bruise" -like feeling.

Have fun!

 

[New2UK]

Provided everything is spic n' span back there I highly recommend a good ass licking as a primer. It is a spectacular sensation which if done properly will have him begging you to do anything you want (and everything you can dream up) to him!

 

[Belilica]

Actually, last night I tried it for the first time on my partner. I was a little uneasy about the idea of touching him there so I used a rubber glove, and also lots of lube. I started off slowly and softly using just the tip of my finger and eventually worked up to all four, asking him how it felt every time I put in another. I was also giving him head at the same time. We talked about it afterward and apparently the sensations were so intense that he almost forgot I was giving him a blowjob. It was incredibly pleasurable for him, but even after a half hour of both, he didn't cum. I guess I'll have to take the advice from this thread about finding his prostate.

Bel

 

[susan__32]

lightly tease his anus with your fingertip while giving head.. as he responds... give him more and more

 

[His Whimsicality]

To be truthful, I've never met a man who could massage his own prostate

Well, you haven´t met me then! A little ass-fingering makes for faster and harder orgasms and I like it from time to time.

 

[someplace]

I agree with several of you here. If given in conjunction with a blowjob you can risk "over stimulating" to the point where he might not be able to come. You might wish to save the insertion for nearer the ending and create a spectacular finish.

I listened to complaints about my long nails and have since cut (some of) them down for this very reason. Also, I agree to curl your finger(s) back to the front of the body for the best effect.

Have fun experimenting with this!

 

[ntp]

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[gMan90]

I tried taking the advice on this thread, but couldn't seem to reach my prostate. Like SexyChele said, the angle is no good 8-(. Can anyone reccomend a good toy that i might use to assist myself?

Thank you again,
gMan

 

[dkrazy1]

The male G-spot can only be optained analy. (so ive read)
just remember when rubbing inside him, and giving head, although he's going to get off like KRAZY it's going to happend quickly, and after which he will be pretty worn out (especialy if new to the whole idea). just food for thought.

 

[Amfig]

I tried taking the advice on this thread, but couldn't seem to reach my prostate. Like SexyChele said, the angle is no good 8-(. Can anyone reccomend a good toy that i might use to assist myself?

Thank you again,
gMan

From any toy store or online seller, a G-Spot vibrator.

 

[ApplesMcgee]

interesting feeling

I'm not exactly sure why a finger or toy can feel good during a blow job or sex. It generally doesn't have a great effect, but feels pleasant.

But, when I get close to completion that's when it really feels good. I woul dhave to say that maybe there is some truth to the whole anal g-spot thing, but who knows.

PowrDragn

 

[DuckLover]

Methodology

I tried taking the advice on this thread, but couldn't seem to reach my prostate. Like SexyChele said, the angle is no good 8-(. Can anyone reccomend a good toy that i might use to assist myself?

Thank you again,
gMan

I haven't found a toy necessary at all. Two methods seem to work well, the second better than the first.

1) In the shower, soap up the anal area extensively. Put one foot on the edge of the tub and then reach between your legs, using the middle finger to probe. (It's typically longest.) Gently rimming yourself is a nice warm-up and helps overcome the natural clenching reaction. Slowing insert your finger, hooking it forward toward the navel. You probably won't have to go much deeper than the second knuckle, but it's ok if you do. Whether you rub the prostate or not, it can still feel really good. Just go slowly.

2) In bed (or in the tub), lean way back so all your weight is on your shoulderblades. Curl your body so your butt is up in the air. If you can hook your legs around your shoulders or upper arms, even partially, that can help. The anus should now be exposed. Be sure to apply lots of lube (or soap) and follow the directions above. Go slow and let your body adjust to the feeling. In this position, some REALLY flexible guys can actually suck themselves off.

Once you find the prostate and get used to stimulating it, you'll find it easier locate. I can now hit it while seated! (Often while masturbating to something great on Lit!!)

 

[TallOne]

My fiancee and I love this so much we went a little overboard. Started off with fingers, then a candle, then a vibe, then a slip on, and now a strap on.

But still a simple finger during a blowjob is an amazing feeling. Second only to when she has one of her friends over and get a blowjob while being done with a strap on.