Men- explain yourselves

[NoJo]

My Ketubah (marriage contract) was written in Aramaic, and it stipulated I had to satisfy my wife once a week. Thank God she likes spaghetti al pesto Genovese.

 

[shereads]

My Ketubah (marriage contract) was written in Aramaic, and it stipulated I had to satisfy my wife once a week. Thank God she likes spaghetti al pesto Genovese.

Wait a second...Are you sure the name was al pesto Genovese?

That philandering bastard!

 

[impressive]

What I focus on, is the kids, on a related vow by a pair intending to have one or more.
I have in mind, as a workable vow--a Partnership for Childrearing Vow [PCV]--as follows:

1. Property split and what each brings into the arrangement is defined.


2. The pair(partners) vow to live *together* in their best effort at 'harmony' for 15 years (first 15 years of each kid's life--i.e., till the youngest's 15th birthday.)


3. The object of care for the kids, loving them, guiding them, is paramount, and therefore the maintenance of a peaceful, respectful 'atmosphere' in the home. The that end--

a) There will be amicable, considerate relations and care for the kid(s), and this is an unbreakable promise to kids (PTK).

b) There will be respect for partner shown at all times

c) Hostilities will not be carried out in front of the kids

d) Backbiting will not be carried with the kids.

e) The presence or diminishment or end of 'love' is irrelevant. Same for sex.

f) Longterm, but not short-term, lovers of one party may move in provided they subscribe to a) to e).

g) Longterm lovers who become involved with the kids will have the option of joining the PCV vow, subject to the consent each of the existing pair. (In other words, this would entail staying, regardless of the diminishmemt or end of 'love.')

4. The pair agree to mediation and counselling to preserve the pair. As a last resort, the pair will separate, without drawing in of the children (to take sides), and without breaching the PTK, and remain both available to the children, say, living within a five minute walk of one another for the duration of the period.

Sounds like Heinlein. I could live in that world.

 

[shereads]

This is so strongly something I believe that it could have been pulled directly from my own head...

sher

Honey, I'm sorry. I meant to put it back before you missed it.

 

[shereads]

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[shereads]

Heehee. I just realized how odd it is to be taking an anti-monogamy stance when I've probably had fewer sexual partners than most high school students.



I also noticed that only one mention in the thread of STDs.

So before I head over to the Miami Heat locker room to have anonymous sex with multiple partners, one more point:

Until the fail-proof condom is invented and universally accepted, monogamy is the only way to be certain you aren't bringing home something deadly. There's no excuse for making your partner share a risk you've chosen to accept for yourself, but he knows nothing about.

That's the practical argument for a vow of total honesty. It can't prevent the spread of STDs but it gives your partner the right to decide he'd rather not share your risk by continuing to share your bed.