Men: A serious and personal question

[MissTaken]

At what point do you become erect when with your Domme or submissive?

I really wanna know, what does it for you?

If I want to know that I am pleasing a Dominant, while he may say so over and again, the proof is in the pudding? *giggles*

When He become erect and seems pleasantly surprised to the degree to which it changes the plan, well, then I know I have done well.

So what makes you hard?

Come on, I dare ya !

 

[zipman]

At what point do you become erect when with your Domme or submissive?

I really wanna know, what does it for you?

If I want to know that I am pleasing a Dominant, while he may say so over and again, the proof is in the pudding? *giggles*

When He become erect and seems pleasantly surprised to the degree to which it changes the plan, well, then I know I have done well.

So what makes you hard?

Come on, I dare ya !

As far as what makes a man hard, I would say that it varies from man to man. However, I think that as a Dom, the things that "please" me most might not be the things that make me the hardest.

For example, let's say my sub does something that I know is a difficult task for her. Her demonstration of the task and her submission to my will would please me greatly. It might not make me hard at all.

Similarly, she might do something that doesn't please me and I might get hard as a rock.

If your Dom tells you he is pleased, just believe him. It's much easier and more accurate than trying to read his mind and analyze his actions.

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you for your response, zip.

I chat with a local Dominant who loves to tell me about his submissive. The first time he shared something that they had done that was a bit more than the norm, he was full of pride. It was lovely.

So, I still wonder, what makes your body react to her?



I have dated men, BDSM or not, who found themselves erect just by my showing up! Some, by what I wore or my perfume. Some, by a certain tone of voice or sassy, sensual look and Dominants, during inspection, find their body reacting. That works, as my own body does the same....reacts, I mean! Not becomes erect!

 

[Richard49]

I can not speak for any man or Dom but me
I am up early and am drinking ice tea not coffee
so I may not be speaking even for me

My beliefs and physical reactions "seem" to be different from many

1) the climax is part of the journey not the destination
2) I can climax without ejaculation
3) Taking a submissive to subspace gives me a sence of power like no other
4) Pride in my submisssive and erection do not nescarly go hand and hand

So what gives me an erection?

The sounds and body movements of ectasy given off my submissive I am with ...... or behavor from her that says she is pleasing me out of her surrender and willingness

 

[psiberzerker]

In a nutshell, sex, and nudity arouse me as much as the next guy. The pain, and domination aspects are more a mental, and emotional attraction. There's lots of different stimulations.

 

[P. B. Walker]

Varies greatly for me. Sometimes I'm hard before I even see the person I'm going to be with. Sometimes I'm more subdued and don't get hard until I'm almost ready to penetrate. For me it's very much a matter of the circumstances and where I am mentally. I have gotten hard just having my neck kissed. I've gotten hard while flogging. I've gotten hard just whispering naughty things to a naughty little girl. And once I didn't get hard until I was about to fuck her, but I'd been eating and fingering her for a very long time. Shrug. I guess that doesn't answer your question, but I guess I gotta reiterate something Zipman said... it's different for every guy.

I wouldn't use a man's erection as your compass or barometer to his level of excitement. It's very mental. I know sometimes, if I think too much, I don't get hard so much because I'm concentrating on doing other things and not so concerned about my own excitement... but that is what I want at the time.



PBW

 

[Richard49]

Varies greatly for me. Sometimes I'm hard before I even see the person I'm going to be with. Sometimes I'm more subdued and don't get hard until I'm almost ready to penetrate. For me it's very much a matter of the circumstances and where I am mentally. I have gotten hard just having my neck kissed. I've gotten hard while flogging. I've gotten hard just whispering naughty things to a naughty little girl. And once I didn't get hard until I was about to fuck her, but I'd been eating and fingering her for a very long time. Shrug. I guess that doesn't answer your question, but I guess I gotta reiterate something Zipman said... it's different for every guy.

I wouldn't use a man's erection as your compass or barometer to his level of excitement. It's very mental. I know sometimes, if I think too much, I don't get hard so much because I'm concentrating on doing other things and not so concerned about my own excitement... but that is what I want at the time.




well stated PB



PBW

 

[pierced_boy]

What they said Miss T

Once a guy gets beyond just needing to fuck in his sexual repetoire he gets into the mind fuck space of sexual enjoyment which is what PB and Zip have said. This is particulary the case with bdsm.

Pleasure and arousal can be there without erection athough you can be pretty sure that an erect, wet, dripping cock means that things are going pretty well arousal wise.

What gets me there, how long a post do you want? It is a shorter list of what turns me off (in this context only).

Yesterday we started a to play in the early morning quiet. The clock radio came on just after we started some really fun stuff. Talk about mind fuck. It is hard to stay aroused with the radio announcer talking of carpet bombing and the like. I wish it wasn't happening.


H

 

[MissTaken]

Okay.

So, I promise not to use a man's penis as a barometer.

Really

But now, will you tell me what has that little physical affect on you?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I'm hard now...and pretty much constantly.



What was the question again?

 

[gomeade]

The erection appears . . .

when the blindfold goes on and all hecan feel is the tips of her fingers tracing hisrestrained body while She whispers slow and ominous in his ear about all the nasty hot things She's gonna do and make him do . . . .

Just a guess.

 

[pierced_boy]

Its all too simple Miss T

Stimulate the brain and up he comes


it is as gomeade says and when he is the dominant well it is the submissives respones and the thrill of the power that does it, it is all in the mind fuck no matter which side of the transaction you are on

H

 

[Richard49]

Okay.

So, I promise not to use a man's penis as a barometer.

Really

But now, will you tell me what has that little physical affect on you?

Could you rephrase your question?

 

[MissTaken]

Could you rephrase your question?

*giggles*

I didn't think before posting, perhaps.

So,
tell me,

What has that Big, Enormous, Huge physical effect on you?

 

[Richard49]

*giggles*

I didn't think before posting, perhaps.

So,
tell me,

What has that Big, Enormous, Huge physical effect on you?

for me
a lot of things can
but the for sure one
is the power I feel with her surrender espcally if she goes to sub space


I finally came to understand that the other night

 

[P. B. Walker]

Uhm... breasts?

 

[gmanc38]

A serious question

Boy Miss T, you sure know how to ask em dont you. I can only speak for myself because I am sure it is different for everyone. I believe what gets me most is anticipation, knowing what my dom is or isnt going to do next. Also I have found that verbal communication is also a big factor for me. That and I get hard when she tells me too.
Hope this helps you out