Medium grade dares

[Elaya]

So.. as I feared.. I tried posting this in the general section, as I wasn't quite sure it fit here.. but this is the only thread where anyone bothers to give serious answers!!!

So.. reposting...

Hey Forum.....

So I've been searching for an FWB.. and I think I've found someone. We've exchanged a number of emails, and I feel very comfortable meeting this person for a face to face. We both mentioned that the F part is as important as the B part..as much as this type of thing can be..


The game plan is to meet for a game of pool and beer. The pool game will have a "truth or dare" element to it.

I need help coming up with both truths and dares..

One dare obviously on my mind is.. do you/have you ever had any STDs,
/Are you (you must be) okay with safe sex, and hey btw.. do you have any non STD, aka bipolar.. that I should know about NOW?


Any thoughts on best ways to ask those questions?

Suggestions on other questions I should ask? Both serious and fun/sexy??

I suck at the dare part.. both doing and asking... I'd like to find some fun/break the ice, small risk dares.

It's suppose to be a fun "see if we're on the same page" night. Thoughts? Suggestions? TIA.
Thanks!

 

[SweetErika]

Better questions to ask regarding STIs are how often they get tested, when they were last tested, and what that testing included (sometimes a 'standard' STI panel does not include things like HSV). Also ask what 'safer sex' means to them.

These are serious questions and should be part of your initial screening process, rather than a game, IMO. And for any serious questions, you need to ask in a way that requires them to formulate an answer, rather than reply with a yes or no. Then watch the body language and time it takes them to respond, as well as listening to what they're really saying.

I've got nothing for you on the dares part. I'm not getting why you're not just meeting to suss out whether or not you have a RL connection and potential friendship with this person. Why add a game on top of it? If you're dying to play Truth or Dare, you could do that on any subsequent occasion and put a sexual spin on it or whatever.

 

[Elaya]

The truth or dare part is more of an ice breaker/get to know each other/ fun aspect.
I'll be sending him an email ahead of time.. or preferably chatting online.. for more serious questions... and I'll hit on the most important ones in person to see how he reacts.

However.. I am looking for our meeting together to be fun as well as serious..
I'm not going for the Sheldon/Amy degree of no playfullness when meeting..