masturbation vs. sex

[mnwidrummer]

Does anyone sometimes prefer masturbation vs. having sex? like some nights, I just want to do it myself. obviously there are nights where the wife isn't in the mood and I am, so then masturbation is the answer. but I definitely have times where I don't even bother my wife with sex because I just want to do it myself.

 

[Photog1rl]

Does anyone sometimes prefer masturbation vs. having sex? like some nights, I just want to do it myself. obviously there are nights where the wife isn't in the mood and I am, so then masturbation is the answer. but I definitely have times where I don't even bother my wife with sex because I just want to do it myself.

I relate to this. Lately sex with my husband has not been that good. I don’t like to talk badly about him but he has stopped trying to give me an orgasm so I just do what I know will get him to finish and end it as soon as I can.
This has lead to me not wanting to bother with sex with him. I know what feels good and am often more fulfilled playing by myself.
It is sad but my reality right now.

 

[KenM77Florida]

Other than masturbating myself & fantasizing , I’ve had no sex life for over 15 yrs. I’m single & voluntarily not dating. I’ve come to the realization that, due to my age, finances, medical issues & reality, I’ll be masturbating by myself until I die. That’s ok. I’ve pretty much “unwatched” most, if not all threads here. I vicariously enjoy all your stories, real or imagined & use them as part of my masturbatory routine. Thank y’all.

 

[lil_jenni]

I wrote about this in a different thread today. For me, masturbation is different from sex with another person. It's time for me to be with my own thoughts, my own body, and my own pleasure.

I love my husband, and he is a great lover. I also like being with women. But the year before last, when I had both Hubby and a girlfriend, I still masturbated. It's the ultimate "me" time.

 

[MaxwellSmart86]

It's not that I prefer masturbation over sex, it's just masturbation is more convenient most days. After a long day (work, kids, house chores, etc.), I just don't have the energy or motivation to go the full dance with my wife. It's just less exhausting to masturbate.

 

[Deadbed1968]

I relate to this. Lately sex with my husband has not been that good. I don’t like to talk badly about him but he has stopped trying to give me an orgasm so I just do what I know will get him to finish and end it as soon as I can.
This has lead to me not wanting to bother with sex with him. I know what feels good and am often more fulfilled playing by myself.
It is sad but my reality right now.

I am so sorry to hear that !

 

[Not Normal]

I wrote about this in a different thread today. For me, masturbation is different from sex with another person. It's time for me to be with my own thoughts, my own body, and my own pleasure.

I love my husband, and he is a great lover. I also like being with women. But the year before last, when I had both Hubby and a girlfriend, I still masturbated. It's the ultimate "me" time.

I'm similar to this.

 

[womaneater58]

I enjoy sex very much but I don't get it as often as I would like so I masturbate almost daily. It's me time, I can enjoy it with or without toys as long as I care to and how I want. Edging makes the orgasm all the better. With a woman, I make it more about her pleasure than my own.

 

[Easyvirtue]

Wife isn’t on my same page as far as need for intimacy/sex.
So she’ll come and give me a handjob in the shower sometimes and she’ll just watch me jerk off. I hate to say it but at least I’m getting off. We will have sex occasionally.

 

[cruiser_2015]

Masturbation and sexual intercourse are two entirely different pleasures. When I masturbate I can enjoy erotic porn, I can control the pressure and rhythm of my stroking hand. I can edge to prolong and amplify the pleasure. I can get a better penis orgasm in masturbation. But in intercourse the explosion in my penis might not be so delicious as solo masturbation, but nothing equals the whole body experience of enjoying a woman’s naked body and giving her sexual pleasure at the same time. I definitely prefer sexual intercourse.

 

[Wonderer67]

A little bit of both.

My wife and I have a pretty active sex life. She loves to control my orgasms and keep me from cumming.

We have intercourse 2-3x a week right now. It’s our busiest time of year. When we have sex, it’s always great. She doesn’t allow me to cum and her orgasm and pleasure is my ultimate goal. When I get close, I back off and edge inside her and sometimes withdraw and then start again. Lots of positions and these sessions can go on for as long as 45 minutes.

Sometimes she likes to watch me edging and masturbating. It feels good. Different. I like being observed. She had me edge and edge but not cum.

She also handjobs and blows me really well. Long, intense and frustrating sessions.

This goes on for a few weeks typically. When she releases me, my ejaculations are huge. Lots of volume and they shoot very far!

So I really enjoy both.

 

[FitMary]

I get plenty of sex but it's always good to find time to masturbate. There's something really cool about being able to give yourself sexual pleasure and it's the one truly good thing in life that's completely free and readily available. I know where to touch to get the maximum effect.

 

[TripleAFun]

I chose sex with my partner over masturbation but her almost total lack of interest in our sex life has left me with a very active sex life with myself. Which can be fine but I very much miss pleasuring her to orgasm and sharing intimate moments together. I miss it so much it hurts.

 

[Paguy8641]

I do enjoy masturbating both by myself and with my wife. Sometimes it’s fun to watch and be watched.

 

[Peppadance]

I get plenty of sex but it's always good to find time to masturbate. There's something really cool about being able to give yourself sexual pleasure and it's the one truly good thing in life that's completely free and readily available. I know where to touch to get the maximum effect.

You horny today Mary?

 

[Gambit33]

I relate to this. Lately sex with my husband has not been that good. I don’t like to talk badly about him but he has stopped trying to give me an orgasm so I just do what I know will get him to finish and end it as soon as I can.
This has lead to me not wanting to bother with sex with him. I know what feels good and am often more fulfilled playing by myself.
It is sad but my reality right now.

I feel with you there. My wife is the same as your husband and wants to stop as soon as she has her orgasm. She doesn't put any effort in to trying to make about us. I do enjoy going into the living room afterwards and having a nice session with myself afterwards though.

 

[jenni_bean]

I'll take sex over masturbation any day but it's seldom an option so masturbation is my normal go to outlet.

 

[womaneater58]

I'll take sex over masturbation any day but it's seldom an option so masturbation is my normal go to outlet.

I would volunteer to fill the gap and help you out.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

I'll take sex over masturbation any day but it's seldom an option so masturbation is my normal go to outlet.

Cum to daddy!

 

[BiWifeMyrtleBeach]

As much as I love sex with my husband or our partners, I value my self-pleasure time very much. Several times a month, my naked ass is alone in my bedroom, usually feeling the strong buzz of marijuana heightening the sensations in my body, naked, with toys within hand reach to engage in whatever nasty "porn theater in my mind" I am mentally compelled too. Taking my time, pleasing myself, and often watching it all in a large mirror opposite our bed.

 

[CuriousinPennsylvania]

I have always loved masturbating from when I first noticed that my cock could get hard. Wrapping my hand around it and squeezing and stroking it and feeling my balls pull up until I would cum on my flat belly has always been a staple of sexual activity for me - and I developed and perfected my own pleasure techniques.

When I got married, I slowed down a lot, but never stopped and soon found myself masturbating regularly again. I would have loved to incorporate masturbation into my sex routine with my wife, but I knew she was just too vanilla to enjoy mutual masturbation even after I helped and encouraged her to masturbate in front of me.

Unfortunately now, for me, it's not Masturbation vs. Sex - it's masturbation or no sex. As such, I enjoy masturbating to porn or when I get involved in a chat with someone of either sex who is doing the same.

Yes, I still crave the joy of sex with another live person, but masturbation is all that I've got at home. It still love masturbating.

 

[LostHorizon]

Masturbation and sex are two different experiences for me. I don’t have a preference of one over the other, I love them both for completely different reasons.

I also love masturbating for others which takes it to a whole new level.

 

[MarkBi34]

I relate to this. Lately sex with my husband has not been that good. I don’t like to talk badly about him but he has stopped trying to give me an orgasm so I just do what I know will get him to finish and end it as soon as I can.
This has lead to me not wanting to bother with sex with him. I know what feels good and am often more fulfilled playing by myself.
It is sad but my reality right now.

Thanks for the really honest share.

 

[Cuddlycarebear]

I relate to this. Lately sex with my husband has not been that good. I don’t like to talk badly about him but he has stopped trying to give me an orgasm so I just do what I know will get him to finish and end it as soon as I can.
This has lead to me not wanting to bother with sex with him. I know what feels good and am often more fulfilled playing by myself.
It is sad but my reality right now.

I can relate though i am the male for my wife has little desire for sex. She sometimes even suggests that i go chat with others. She doesn't mind me chatting and flirting though if i mention about meeting others she doesn't respond.

 

[RoanMtn]

Does anyone sometimes prefer masturbation vs. having sex?

Well, I haven't had sex in over 20 years, so masturbation it is.