Masochism/Sadism

[Kajira Callista]

Is it something that is part of us and can never be ignored?
What if you decided...i dunwanna be a masochist or a sadist anymore?
Could you just turn it off and walk away?
Can you stop being Dominant or submissive and walk away from that?

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, I used to wish I could switch it off, but I don't anymore.

Catalina

 

[crazybbwgirl]

I ignored it for 20 years. But it never really went away. Now that I've let the cat out of the bad - so to speak - there's no way it's gonna just go away! (yippeee)

 

[Quint]

I don't think I would be happy in comfy easy sex anymore. Especially since it's so freakin hard for me to come, pleasure alone would not motivate me to stay interested. Now, I could probably be happy with psychological fuckery, but to me that's still masochism. So nah, even in my current wimpy state of pain threshold, I can't imagine being sexual on a long-term basis without it.

 

[graceanne]

lol You wish.

 

[sincerely_helene]

I could probably ease myself away from physical masochism, but only because it's not a real important thing to me.

Submission, on the other, can't be just be shut off for me. It's a part of who I am, not something I do. I'm just grateful to have learned to control it in social settings so that people don't walk all over me anymore.

 

[Marquis]

I am considering being more flexible as to my D/s orientation and what it means to me in future relationships. I think I'll always be what I am deep down though.

 

[ThorkelGriersen]

Not possible

Is it something that is part of us and can never be ignored?
What if you decided...i dunwanna be a masochist or a sadist anymore?
Could you just turn it off and walk away?
Can you stop being Dominant or submissive and walk away from that?

As I said in another thread (Ask a Dom) there is no going back because I was never back. Masochism has been a part of me from the first day of my life. I wouldn't know how any other way is possible. I gave a much longer answer in the "Ask a Dom" thread. I would do a link to that; but, I am technically challenged.

 

[esclave_PP]

Nope I don't think I can or would want to switch it off. I enjoy it way too much. And well, so does Master.

 

[Xelebes]

Been doing what I've been doing before I knew what I was doing and I'm not sure if my doing will undo itself to not be doing what I was doing.

 

[LadyAria]

Is it something that is part of us and can never be ignored?
What if you decided...i dunwanna be a masochist or a sadist anymore?
Could you just turn it off and walk away?
Can you stop being Dominant or submissive and walk away from that?

It really depends on who you are and how deep it runs...

For me,
No, I talked to the doctors. I took the fucking pills. It doesn't stop it. It's a complusion that must be indulged or it will consume me. I can't function without the violence. I do well to control it.

 

[graceanne]

Been doing what I've been doing before I knew what I was doing and I'm not sure if my doing will undo itself to not be doing what I was doing.

Honey. Get help. *pats head*

 

[Xelebes]

Honey. Get help. *pats head*

Help? What helping of help do I need for my doing? Is my doing my undoing or my undoing my doing - so that I must undo my doing? Help me or do I need to help you help me undo my doing?

 

[Iron Bear]

Wow, I never really thought about that one.

This... thing resides in me. It's like vampire hunger. I feed it and it is satisfied for a few hours. Then it's hungry again, and the longer I go without feeding it, the hungrier it gets.

Stop it? No, I don't think I can.

 

[Kierae]

I know I couldn't just walk away from the life. It would mean turning off/shutting down an integral part of my personality and sexuality which I am not willing to do. I know if I shut down my masochistic side, it would come out sideways and that usually gets me in more trouble.

 

[HawkEye38]

It is a frustrating thing at times, and sometimes I do wish I could turn it off and be "normal". The government's agenda of shutting down BDSM sites doesn't help much with this perception.

I don't know, sometimes if I'm trying to get into a relationship with a woman I feel like I'm decieving her if I don't tell her about my "nature". That's definetly an instance (and one that I happen to be in right now ) where I'd like to be able to just switch it off and forget about it.

Oh well, we all have our crosses to bear I suppose...

- Nate

 

[Blushing Bottom]

The off switch is broken. The need is like liquid fire in my veins. I ignored my calling for far too many years and now that I'm finally experiencing what I have craved for years I see no end to it.
Though not collared or submissive to any one man I have bottomed to a few and don't feel complete without the knowledge that I WILL be held accountable for all of my behaviors. Held accountable and corrected when necessary.

 

[Chicklet]

Is it something that is part of us and can never be ignored?
What if you decided...i dunwanna be a masochist or a sadist anymore?
Could you just turn it off and walk away?
Can you stop being Dominant or submissive and walk away from that?

I could, and have, ignored it before. Would I be happy ignoring it? Definitely not. I truly define myself with parts of my sexuality, and without them, what does that make me? Just a shell of myself, hiding my true nature?