Married Posters

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by Pornofan420
Indeed it is. I guess I was thinking more in line with the dominant theme of this thread, where one spouse was into it and the other wasn't.

you mean they aren't into having pics of themselves posted or they aren't into their spouse posting pics of themselves?

 

[qantas]

Hi wicked woman....this is my first post on Lit. Please be gentle with me...lol. I'm not married, but I like to have fun. I used to be married. I like the picture you have on your site.

 

[JV in ME]

No, my wife doesn't know. She'd like to believe that I don't surf for porn at all, so I can't let her in on this little secret.

I don't think it's helped my marriage. We are at two different levels regarding sexual openness. I tend to just keep it to myself and get my release on the net.

I'm up for a little flirting. Ladies?

 

[wickedgirl]

I think thats why most people are on here is for innocent and not so innocent flirting......lol

 

[CUBANMALE]

Nothing wrong with flirting. I am married too and my wife does not know or would approve of my Lit adevntures; but they are sane fun. Even those that are really hot.

 

[wickedgirl]

I agree totally. My hubby has no clue. It's the joys of being a house wife.....lol

 

[CUBANMALE]

I agree totally. My hubby has no clue. It's the joys of being a house wife.....lol

Lucky you, I do it while I pretend to be working

And as a housewife, you only do it online or in RL too ????

 

[lancewannabe]

Marrage helped by Lit

Hi, I am a married male and my spouse has no clue I've been "lurking" on Lit.

I think the stories and photos here have helped me. My wife is very untrusting when it comes to the internet. We met online (I lived 4 states away) when we were both previously married. Our "harmless" flirtations led to meeting discreetly, and our love bloomed.

I never flirt online anymore, and make every effort to NOT do something that would lead to anything physical.

The erotic stories and pictures are a great turn on, and I take that sensuality into my own bedroom. I've always been somewhat un-romantic, and reading stories, and hearing other couple's tales of erotic encounters makes me want to do more for my marriage.

Thank you to all Lit members for your help whether you know it or not.

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by gwh


How are ya, hun? Been thinking of ya

Long time no see. Good to see you posting again...I think Me? I'm great.

 

[wicked woman]

Originally posted by qantas
Hi wicked woman....this is my first post on Lit. Please be gentle with me...lol. I'm not married, but I like to have fun. I used to be married. I like the picture you have on your site.

Thanks for the compliment on my AV...I love bras and this is my favourite one. Glad you like....and why on earth would I not be gentle?

 

[doppelbock22000]

new here

I agree totally. My hubby has no clue. It's the joys of being a house wife.....lol

And here I thought I was the only one in this boat. But does anyone have a spouse who is against this type of chatting and flirting. I could be a dead man here
take care henry

 

[qantas]

to wicked woman

I'm just not used to posting here. I'm glad that is your favourite bra...it's my favourite, too. Would like to see more of you sometime.

 

[wicked woman]

Re: to wicked woman

Originally posted by qantas
I'm just not used to posting here. I'm glad that is your favourite bra...it's my favourite, too. Would like to see more of you sometime.

Lit is pretty friendly ...especially if you stay clear of the General Board (although it's ok if you've got a tough skin)....

...as for seeing more of me...I'm a one pose kinda gal...but I do change the bra in my AV from time to time...but that's all you're going to see of me definitely not an exhibitionist here.

Hope you enjoy posting at Lit...the more you do the more comfortable it is.

 

[Treach]

I'm a young recently married man, and my wife doesn't know what I do online. I've done a lot of online stuff, from webcam shows to cam to cam stuff, to mic/phone stuff. Most of this was when we were engaged and not yet married, but there has been some stuff afterwards...

Anyways, I feel pretty darned guilty about it and I feel like I've cheated on my wife. I know for a fact that she would not approve and probably be pretty upset. She wouldn't leave me or anything, but she'd still be upset. It's not affecting our relationship or our sex life in any way. She's actually very experimental sexually and we do some freaky stuff. But I just can't seem to stop the online stuff, and I've tried to stop several times.

Is anyone else in this situation?

 

[BigGuyPA44]

like many of us

I'm a young recently married man, and my wife doesn't know what I do online. I've done a lot of online stuff, from webcam shows to cam to cam stuff, to mic/phone stuff. Most of this was when we were engaged and not yet married, but there has been some stuff afterwards...

Anyways, I feel pretty darned guilty about it and I feel like I've cheated on my wife. I know for a fact that she would not approve and probably be pretty upset. She wouldn't leave me or anything, but she'd still be upset. It's not affecting our relationship or our sex life in any way. She's actually very experimental sexually and we do some freaky stuff. But I just can't seem to stop the online stuff, and I've tried to stop several times.

Is anyone else in this situation?

Sure...don't worry about it too much...what she doen't know won't hurt!

The only difference I can see is that we have been married for 27 years

B

 

[jimbojonez]

I agree totally. My hubby has no clue. It's the joys of being a house wife.....lol

lol, too true...

 

[jimbojonez]

I agree totally. My hubby has no clue. It's the joys of being a house wife.....lol

plus you can get carried away and enjoy the time ...

 

[SweetErika]

I'm a young recently married man, and my wife doesn't know what I do online. I've done a lot of online stuff, from webcam shows to cam to cam stuff, to mic/phone stuff. Most of this was when we were engaged and not yet married, but there has been some stuff afterwards...

Anyways, I feel pretty darned guilty about it and I feel like I've cheated on my wife. I know for a fact that she would not approve and probably be pretty upset. She wouldn't leave me or anything, but she'd still be upset. It's not affecting our relationship or our sex life in any way. She's actually very experimental sexually and we do some freaky stuff. But I just can't seem to stop the online stuff, and I've tried to stop several times.

Is anyone else in this situation?

I can't say I'm in that situation because I just can't live with the guilt of hiding stuff from my husband. However, if I was, I would likely ask him to participate in the online stuff with me starting now, and perhaps just cut it down to visiting Lit and some of the milder sites together. That won't negate the fact that you've been going behind her back, but being honest with her from now on will probably help you feel better about the future. Good luck!

 

[Treach]

Thanks for everyone's input.

Sure...don't worry about it too much...what she doen't know won't hurt!

But if I operate under that priniciple, I might as well go have an affair...I'm not judging or bashing you, just bringing up a counter-point.

I can't say I'm in that situation because I just can't live with the guilt of hiding stuff from my husband. However, if I was, I would likely ask him to participate in the online stuff with me starting now, and perhaps just cut it down to visiting Lit and some of the milder sites together. That won't negate the fact that you've been going behind her back, but being honest with her from now on will probably help you feel better about the future. Good luck!

I sincerely doubt she'd be interested in joining me, she's just not all that into the Internet, she finds it to be too detached.

Just for clarification, I don't want to make it look like I am looking down on or bashing anyone who does this sort of thing, I just feel that for me, it feels dishonest, and I don't like lying to my wife...

 

[BigGuyPA44]

not lying

It is not lying to your wife to not talk about something. Some things are just done and not talked about....like masterbation, I choose not to discuss my online life with her, which suits her just fine...she doesn't ask and I don't tell.

B

 

[Treach]

I'm sorry, I just disagree with that viewpoint. Even if it's not "technically" lying, I still feel that it's dishonest, and I don't want to be dishonest in my marriage. My wife and I share every little dirty secret we have. We are completely open sexually, and masturbate together regularly, even.

This is just my opinion, though. I'm glad it works for you, it sounds like it hasn't affected your marriage and that your marriage has lasted all these years. That's really cool, I just don't think that is for me...

 

[SweetErika]

Treach, you sound like a real stand-up guy. Would it be possible to sit down with your wife and define some boundaries together? For example, when I first got on Lit, I asked my husband what he felt the limitations should be. He felt that cybering with other men was cheating, so we settled on just talking to men in a non-sexual way. In terms of looking at porn, we either do it together, or he gives me the opportunity to turn sex down before he looks at porn and masturbates. I find if we ask eachother how we feel about something beforehand, we both feel better and are more permissive than if someone waits until after the fact to ask.

The friendly and highly insightful folks in the How To forum will likely provide excellent advice and suggestions on the situation and how to talk to your wife if you so choose.

 

[Treach]

Thanks Erica!

When you set those boundaries with your husband, had you been cybering previously, and if so, did you tell him, and if so, how did he take it?

 

[SweetErika]

Thanks Erica!

When you set those boundaries with your husband, had you been cybering previously, and if so, did you tell him, and if so, how did he take it?

No, I hadn't been, but I discovered this board when he was away on business and I didn't tell him as soon as he got home. Ultimately, I was feeling guilty (irrational I know) and I just told him straight up that I found a forum that has to do with sex and other things and I really enjoyed it. I asked him if it bothered him, and he said no. He also saw that I was becoming more open again regarding sex, so that helped. I also asked if he wanted to get on here by himself or with me, and he didn't at that time. On this and other similar issues, the reaction I expected was far worse than it actually turned out to be.

I asked what he thought about cybering and online relationships because I saw a question about it on here. I was surprised he thought it was cheating, but I was also glad to have that boundary defined. Knowing where the lines are gives me more freedom because I'm not always wondering if I'm doing something that would hurt him. With us, it's not about rules, but respect for eachother's feelings.

 

[wickedgirl]

Lucky you, I do it while I pretend to be working

And as a housewife, you only do it online or in RL too ????

Only on line ....... No real life adventures here except with hubby