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_pebbles said:
Ahhh, were life so static as for that elusive happy middle ground to exist.
I think it depends on the number of desires we allow ourselves. If our only desire is to get hitched, then it is a relatively simple proposition, and does not trouble itself with distracting issues such as compatibility.
When we add to those desires - married and happy, or worse - married and happy and sexually fulfilled ... that is when life gets interesting.
Interesting especially when we add in the sexually fulfilled part, since that desire, like a greased pig, is so difficult to catch and hold for any length of time.
Some are lucky, to have all the pieces necessary to have all those desires satisfied, for the time being. For others, it becomes a juggling act, trying to scratch that illicit itch without leaving any permanent marks.
Speaking from the single side, for now I have chosen scratching over hitching.
I'm a married woman.
My husband DOES know about the site but shows no interest to check it out on his own accord. I really wish he would!!!
When I find a "how to" article that I think can help us, I email them to him or print it out and ask him to read it.
He will try anything I ask him (to a certain degree) but he just won't initiate it some of the things I like.
I love to give him oral sex but I always have to ask to receive some. Hope to change this with more practice.
The sex has been better since I found lit and gave him some reading materials.
He knows I have fantasies and this would be a site to put some into reality. Flirting with other men is one of them. I think flirting is so wonderful for someones self esteem! Just have'nt found the courage to initiate anything on the site yet.
Again, it's a wonderful site that covers such a wide variety of subjects and experience that every couple should be able to explore.
Thanks for starting the thread.
My husband DOES know about the site but shows no interest to check it out on his own accord. I really wish he would!!!
When I find a "how to" article that I think can help us, I email them to him or print it out and ask him to read it.
He will try anything I ask him (to a certain degree) but he just won't initiate it some of the things I like.
I love to give him oral sex but I always have to ask to receive some. Hope to change this with more practice.
The sex has been better since I found lit and gave him some reading materials.
He knows I have fantasies and this would be a site to put some into reality. Flirting with other men is one of them. I think flirting is so wonderful for someones self esteem! Just have'nt found the courage to initiate anything on the site yet.
Again, it's a wonderful site that covers such a wide variety of subjects and experience that every couple should be able to explore.
Thanks for starting the thread.
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Damn! Where were you when I was single? <sigh>love2kiss said:
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love2kiss said:
I have to agree love2kiss... It's a bit like that for me.. my wife has no real interest in "pushing the envelope" ... It's always initiated by me... always in the dark ... and always the same.. Any time I try to "initiate something different" ie oral sex I get fobbed off and it usually ends in an argument ... and NO SEX !.
It's difficult to get the subject around to sexual wants etc
I can see why so many people do have their little "goings on .. on the side"
It's a good thread tho!
Keep posting
p.s. She doesn't know I post although it wouldn't matter if she did
<quote>I have to agree love2kiss... It's a bit like that for me.. my wife has no real interest in "pushing the envelope" ... It's always initiated by me... always in the dark ... and always the same.. Any time I try to "initiate something different" ie oral sex I get fobbed off and it usually ends in an argument ... and NO SEX !.
It's difficult to get the subject around to sexual wants etc
I can see why so many people do have their little "goings on .. on the side"
It's a good thread tho!
Keep posting
p.s. She doesn't know I post although it wouldn't matter if she did</quote>
Hi Scottie.
I thought of having something on the side physically, but he would definetly be in the know about it. It would not be a "behind his back" situation. I say this because we have spoken of this subject and we are in an agreement that IF there is ever a need for one of us to look somewhere else we would let the other know before anything is ever initiated.
This is to kind of put the other in a notiece status. Like hey! I'm not getting what I need here! We need to work on this issue or I'm looking somewhere else for the moment.
I think it's a great thing to have this kind of forum.
We tend to say things that we really feel but are too uncomfortable to relay in spoken words to our partners in love.
Also when your partner READS your feelings and thoughts in black and wight it tends to have a bigger inpact than when you have a conversation.
I'ts like you guys (no insult intended) have this attitude to tune us (women) out when we have an issue that is uncomfortable to deal with. It's like your manhood in question.
I try so hard not to sound disappointed with our issues but sometimes I just don't give a damn and tell it how it is and it does not make things any better.
So, this is where I'm at. I come to lit to get some insight and hopefully he'll read my posts and get a better feeling for the situation. Maybe you can try it with your wife. Have her read your posts so she can see what is going on in your head and heart. Give her time to digest the info. and she can get back to you on the subject at her own pace.
The dark thing, I can understand. I'm overweight now and very embarrased to have him see me. (my hang up) The rest of the world I don't give a damn if they see me, but him, it's different.
If not in the dark. I always cover my middle up.
And I'm the type that walks around naked around the house with the curtains open. I don't care who sees. (except him) my love.
HAIRTRIGGER:
I love giving him oral so much! I've told him before that he is lucky to have a wife that enjoys it. Not to make him worship me or anything but I just don't think he appreciates it. He is the only man I ever willingly gave oral to. When young, with past boyfriends I would always try to avoid it. So to me, love does make a difference in the sex.
He does not realize that plenty of women think it's gross and refuse to do it.
I'm thinking of starting a thread inquiring men for some of the reasons they don't like to go down on a woman. Hopefully this would give me some more insight as to where he is coming from.
So far all I got is, I'ts too ticklish, so I'm thinkg of bikini wax.
And his jaws clicks and hurts. I'm thinking he's working too hard at it.
It's difficult to get the subject around to sexual wants etc
I can see why so many people do have their little "goings on .. on the side"
It's a good thread tho!
Keep posting
p.s. She doesn't know I post although it wouldn't matter if she did</quote>
Hi Scottie.
I thought of having something on the side physically, but he would definetly be in the know about it. It would not be a "behind his back" situation. I say this because we have spoken of this subject and we are in an agreement that IF there is ever a need for one of us to look somewhere else we would let the other know before anything is ever initiated.
This is to kind of put the other in a notiece status. Like hey! I'm not getting what I need here! We need to work on this issue or I'm looking somewhere else for the moment.
I think it's a great thing to have this kind of forum.
We tend to say things that we really feel but are too uncomfortable to relay in spoken words to our partners in love.
Also when your partner READS your feelings and thoughts in black and wight it tends to have a bigger inpact than when you have a conversation.
I'ts like you guys (no insult intended) have this attitude to tune us (women) out when we have an issue that is uncomfortable to deal with. It's like your manhood in question.
I try so hard not to sound disappointed with our issues but sometimes I just don't give a damn and tell it how it is and it does not make things any better.
So, this is where I'm at. I come to lit to get some insight and hopefully he'll read my posts and get a better feeling for the situation. Maybe you can try it with your wife. Have her read your posts so she can see what is going on in your head and heart. Give her time to digest the info. and she can get back to you on the subject at her own pace.
The dark thing, I can understand. I'm overweight now and very embarrased to have him see me. (my hang up) The rest of the world I don't give a damn if they see me, but him, it's different.
If not in the dark. I always cover my middle up.
And I'm the type that walks around naked around the house with the curtains open. I don't care who sees. (except him) my love.
HAIRTRIGGER:
I love giving him oral so much! I've told him before that he is lucky to have a wife that enjoys it. Not to make him worship me or anything but I just don't think he appreciates it. He is the only man I ever willingly gave oral to. When young, with past boyfriends I would always try to avoid it. So to me, love does make a difference in the sex.
He does not realize that plenty of women think it's gross and refuse to do it.
I'm thinking of starting a thread inquiring men for some of the reasons they don't like to go down on a woman. Hopefully this would give me some more insight as to where he is coming from.
So far all I got is, I'ts too ticklish, so I'm thinkg of bikini wax.
And his jaws clicks and hurts. I'm thinking he's working too hard at it.
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love2kiss
Sounds like you are married to one lucky guy
B
Sounds like you are married to one lucky guy
B
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gwh said:
Hell, I'm getting excited just reading it! lol
Your marriage sounds alot like mine... except that sex and any kind of affection have been missing for about 2 years.
good luck in whatever you decide to do
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babydoll2u said:Hell, I'm getting excited just reading it! lol
Your marriage sounds alot like mine... except that sex and any kind of affection have been missing for about 2 years.
good luck in whatever you decide to do
Peggy,
You took the words right out of my mouth...I was typing about the same response when your's got posted...truely, great minds do think alike ! LOL
Too bad your a thousand miles away
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BigGuyPA44 said:Peggy,
You took the words right out of my mouth...I was typing about the same response when your's got posted...truely, great minds do think alike ! LOL
Too bad your a thousand miles away
B
the story of my life, lol.... y'all are all too far away *sigh*
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Good Morning fellow Lit'ers (well at least it's morning in the UK)
We seemed to have gotten a little bit down at the moment. We should try and be more positive about things. This forum is the ideal place if you want to get things off your chest (no pun intended .... well maybe just a little !) but it's also the place you'll find kindred spirits.
If it's someone you need to talk to you can always find someone who'll listen or to PM offline.
There are all sorts in here but I think the vast majority are like minded people. We don't log on here looking for knitting patterns although I'm sure if you asked for them you'd find someone with just what your looking for.
So come on let's cheer up find yourself a bonk buddy if that's what you need or get your SO to join you in giving each other the time of your lives. Find that time to have some fun.. get the kids off somewhere for the night or afternoon or even just for an out for and hour or two !
Have a good weekend... I'm out on Saturday at a stag doo so who knows what awaits
Keep on posting!
We seemed to have gotten a little bit down at the moment. We should try and be more positive about things. This forum is the ideal place if you want to get things off your chest (no pun intended .... well maybe just a little !) but it's also the place you'll find kindred spirits.
If it's someone you need to talk to you can always find someone who'll listen or to PM offline.
There are all sorts in here but I think the vast majority are like minded people. We don't log on here looking for knitting patterns although I'm sure if you asked for them you'd find someone with just what your looking for.
So come on let's cheer up find yourself a bonk buddy if that's what you need or get your SO to join you in giving each other the time of your lives. Find that time to have some fun.. get the kids off somewhere for the night or afternoon or even just for an out for and hour or two !
Have a good weekend... I'm out on Saturday at a stag doo so who knows what awaits
Keep on posting!
Well, it's been a while since my last post, so I thought I had better drop in again.
I am another undercover Litster, though my wife has expressed some interest in checking out the site. She is a very sexual person, but I have fantasies and desires about things that she's not into. Our sex life is pretty good, but it's missing something, and the only way to fix that is to find someone else to fill in the blanks, so to speak.
I am another undercover Litster, though my wife has expressed some interest in checking out the site. She is a very sexual person, but I have fantasies and desires about things that she's not into. Our sex life is pretty good, but it's missing something, and the only way to fix that is to find someone else to fill in the blanks, so to speak.
hi everyone me & my hubby to be come on here with each other those people out there that dont tell your partners are missing out on something good why not just bite the bullet & tell them as they may find it really weird at first but may grow to find it extremly exciting & a real turn on my hubby to be finds it very sexy me talking to others explicitly i also feel the same back but if he was to do it on his own i think i would feel cheated he also feels the same way so we have a rule if we not with each other we dont do it as we explore our ultimate fantacies as dirty as they get so go on do it it might be fun love louise x
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married and how
I tried to bring up the subject and it was so poorly received I have learned my lesson. I do think it would add something but at a certain point it seems like too little too late. Any posters in PA by the way?
I tried to bring up the subject and it was so poorly received I have learned my lesson. I do think it would add something but at a certain point it seems like too little too late. Any posters in PA by the way?
My husband finaly decided to come sit next to me on the computer to see what I was doing.
We had an argument (can't even remeber what about) and I was surfing Lit. Swithed to ebay so not to make him feel uncomfortable then thought, what the heck! I'm mad at him right now so I'll just go back to Lit to maybe tick him off.
He stayed right next to me while I checked out different boards.
Great funny ones about Kerry and Bushy!
Kids kept coming down (after we had tucked them in bed) so the last time he went to get them to bed I went to do the dishes.
I was still doing them when he came back down and went right on reading my posts.
I came back and started to explain the background of the thread to him and clarified the posts and some of the PM's I've received.
Okay, I'm rambling. We went to bed and had not great sex, but good enough to take some of the preassure and resentment away.
I feel that I've accomplished a great deal with his initiative to sit and surf Lit with me.
Hope to keep it up!
Take care all.
We had an argument (can't even remeber what about) and I was surfing Lit. Swithed to ebay so not to make him feel uncomfortable then thought, what the heck! I'm mad at him right now so I'll just go back to Lit to maybe tick him off.
He stayed right next to me while I checked out different boards.
Great funny ones about Kerry and Bushy!
Kids kept coming down (after we had tucked them in bed) so the last time he went to get them to bed I went to do the dishes.
I was still doing them when he came back down and went right on reading my posts.
I came back and started to explain the background of the thread to him and clarified the posts and some of the PM's I've received.
Okay, I'm rambling. We went to bed and had not great sex, but good enough to take some of the preassure and resentment away.
I feel that I've accomplished a great deal with his initiative to sit and surf Lit with me.
Hope to keep it up!
Take care all.
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I am one week away from the biggest move of my life. I am leaving my husband. It was a very difficult decision, I have tried everything to not make this move but after 19 years I must do it. I have tried to get our sex life back on track for the past seven years. That is not the only issue of course but that was the topper. I would like to correspond with anyone who wishes to voice their own feelings. Thanks.
I am one week away from the biggest move of my life. I am leaving my husband. It was a very difficult decision, I have tried everything to not make this move but after 19 years I must do it. I have tried to get our sex life back on track for the past seven years. That is not the only issue of course but that was the topper. I would like to correspond with anyone who wishes to voice their own feelings. Thanks.
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Sorry to hear you are ending your marriage of 19 years. A person has to do what is best for them. But no sex for how long? The guy must have a problem.
If you wish to vent some frustation I can lend an ear and a shoulder to lean on.
mrsree said:
Sorry to hear you are ending your marriage of 19 years. A person has to do what is best for them. But no sex for how long? The guy must have a problem.
If you wish to vent some frustation I can lend an ear and a shoulder to lean on.
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