Married Posters

[overthebow]

Re: Re: babydoll

That's what my wife has. I can hardly object on moral grounds, since I know it's very important to her and I want her to be happy, but it absolutely cuts me up every day of my life. The personal intimacy hurts way more than the sex.

What makes you happy?

What is important to you?

Does your wife care about what makes you happy and what is important to you?

 

[AnotherCatullus]

Good questions. It's one of those hopelessly ambiguous situations. I think that's what you end up with in married-lover world. Obviously, since I know about it we've talked about it (and thrown crockery, etc.) She knows how much it hurts, she needs it more than she needs to make evrythting OK for me.

Believe me, she tries very hard to make me feel very good, often with amazing success.

 

[babydoll2u]

dont want to see this thread die

so *bump*

 

[ram1_2]

Re: dont want to see this thread die

so *bump*

Likewise!

HUGE bump..........

 

[JonRogue]

I'm married and no, my wife doesn't know I enjoy Literotica... we've never matched up completely in the sexual arena but are so good together otherwise... We've talked about it but ya just can't force someone to be your sexual equal. I use Literotica as a sexual outlet I guess... masturbating often keeps me from seeking out a relationship with someone else to take care of them urges.

funny... if you're interested in bowling or soccer or bridge but your spouse isn't, you can go join a league with full blessings... but if you're interested in sex... ummm... does anyone know of a league in Northern California?

 

[woodshed]

If there were a sex league I'd be a member. I'm in the same boat as jonrogue, don't get me wrong, the wife and I enjoy a healthy sex life, but being the perv I am, there are just some sexual appetites that my wife has no interest in. Thank you Literotica, you keep me neck deep in whacking material!

 

[AnotherCatullus]

Bump....is it dead yet?

 

[babydoll2u]

LOL....

Bump....is it dead yet?

another "bump" before I log out of here for the hurricane...
be good y'all... til I get back.. I dont wanna miss anything!! heheh

 

[JHorn]

Married with an unknowing spouse. My God, she gets upset when she knows I have sexual thoughts . To read or write erotica or flirt with online would not be tolerable to her.

 

[_pebbles]

Re: LOL....

another "bump" before I log out of here for the hurricane...
be good y'all... til I get back.. I dont wanna miss anything!! heheh

Be safe, babydoll2u.

 

[_pebbles]

Married with an unknowing spouse. My God, she gets upset when she knows I have sexual thoughts . To read or write erotica or flirt with online would not be tolerable to her.

I wouldn't be happy in a "thought police" situation. jeezus.

 

[PyroDemon]

Married for 17 years, my wife was aware of my sexual appetites before we were married. She knows about my being online, and she knows I play around both online and in person. I am just not blatant about it and show respect. She knows what I am after and she is okay as long as it does not affect us day to day which sofar has worked out well for our entire marriage. The getting laid part is easy in life, it is the other side of the coin that brings most to lit.

 

[DarkDuchess]

Hey all!

I am married and when I began coming to Lit, I didn't talk about it too much with the husband. But he looked at porn or whatever, so I thought it was no big deal. But then I made friends here. And that became a problem for him. And it turned into this whole nasty thing, where we had to make sure everything was equal, that no one got to do what the other didn't. It was really infantile. But we were also both very sexually active and had many partners before we were together. Neither one of us knew how to behave in a relationship where the sex actually meant something. Where in the morning, you couldn't go home, because you were home. And we were so jealous of each other. But we finally decided to be honest, about everything. (yes, it was a very touching and and x-rated Disney moment) And it was for the best. We look at porn together on the internet and otherwise. I tell him about all of my flirting/teasing and it turns him on. He tells me all of his fantasies and I try to make them happen and vice/versa. Overall, our marriage has improved. And we have much much, did I mention much, more sex. It used to be a couple times a week and now it is everyday. If you want to share with your spouse it is really worth at least bringing the idea up.

 

[English Lady]

Well I am married and my husband introduced me to the stories at literotica not long after we started dating. I found the forums myself a good while later, 3 years or so later, when i wanted to have one of my own erotic stories included here.

My hubby knows all about what I get up to on lit, he reads the stories here himself and occassionally posts on the boards too. We are totally open, telling each other what we're up to.well not deep details but i'll tell hime hen i have a new fuck online friend and he tells me about his online fun too.

I am sure it makes our relationship stronger. There is no guilt or shame felt by either of us as we play and very little jealousy.

We both have massively high sex drives (we've had sex 4 times in the last 24 hours) and sometimes we're just not horny at the same time...so thats where the internet comes in to play.

 

[billybarew]

My wife does not know about Lit. Our sex life is less than desirable. I'm hoping one day to find a special woman here for what I do not get at home.
Until then, I enjoy reading everything Lit has to offer.

 

[beachtime]

Angelique, you got a good thing going and the only way to go in my opinion.

_Pebbles, Wow. There is something about the look you have. Mmmm. Wish you both were in Florida. Well, not right now I guess but after Frances is gone

 

[babaloo]

My wife knows I check out the nudies but to be in a forum conversing with others about sex would be a bit much in her book. I've always enjoyed finding an interesting female who likes to email and maybe chat. Just being a bit friendly and naughty. No phone or meeting. I've had a couple of relationships like that and they were a blast. I wish my wife could get more interested in sex. I guess since she's not maybe I'll find an outlet with literotica. We'll see. Hopefully I'll make a friend or two.

 

[voyergirl]

secret suck. i feel bad for all of you that are forced to keep your true feelings hiden from your partners. my spouse and i share just about every detail. no not every detail, that is impossible.

 

[vabeachstallion]

As to your question

Wow, you look great! In response to your question I have met quite a few here who frequent this place and chat rooms without the knowledge of their spouse. Personally I think it is adventurous; its harmless unless you do the meet and greet. Ever thought of webcamming with a poor lonely soldier in Iraq? You'd make my day seeing you on webcam.

 

[WindLover]

Hopelessly ambiguous

On the topic of spouses... and secrets...

Did anyone see the movie "Random Hearts", with Harrison Ford and Kristen Scott-Thomas?

 

[mrsree]

HELP

I am in the middle of packing to move away from my husband of 19 years and I am totally doubting myself. My family is on my husbands side. They think I am foolish to leave a marriage of this length just because I am not getting sex. We haven't had sex in 6 years. What do you think?

 

[WindLover]

the iceberg

Well, your family can give you lots of advice, you should listen to all of it and then of course make your own decision... after all, they don't have to be married to your husband, only you can do that.

I think that sex is just the tip of the iceberg. You haven't had sex in 6 years. WHY? All those reasons, that's why you're packing up. That's what you will have to deal with, either before/if, or after/when you leave your husband.

On the other hand, sometimes sex is the whole iceberg.

 

[English Lady]

wind lover, i saw "random hearts" and i read the book. the book was much more poignant.

mrsree...it is your decsion....obviously it is osmething that is really important to you and if you're unhappy then you should do something about it, think your actions through before commiting to them though. don't be hasty.

 

[Pornofan420]

Literotica is mainly a sexual outlet for me. Mrs. 420 doesn't read regularly or download nekkid pix like I do. But she does occasionaly read over my shoulder and offer commentary and spelling advice.

 

[Pornofan420]

Re: HELP

I am in the middle of packing to move away from my husband of 19 years and I am totally doubting myself. My family is on my husbands side. They think I am foolish to leave a marriage of this length just because I am not getting sex. We haven't had sex in 6 years. What do you think?

I guess I would ask what your discussions have been like. Have you guys talked about your wanting more sex? Has he not even been interested in sex at all?

In my (admittedly minute) understanding of Jewish marriage law, lack of sexual fulfillment is one of the grounds on which a wife may petition for divorce from her husband. So going back a LONG way, sex has been understoond as one of the major perks of marriage.

Maybe some time apart will do some good, allow you both to think. If he's uninterested in sex and uninterested in working on it...I dunno, what else is going on in the marriage?

Maybe it's because Mrs. 420 & I live in California, but we're very big on the sit down and talk things out approach. If there's something that's coming between the two of you and having sex, maybe that can be worked out. If sex just isn't on his agenda but it is on yours...well, that's a decision point. But I hope spending a little time apart will allow you both the room to think about what it is you want and need out of your marriage and how much work the both of you are willing to put into making each other happy.

Best of luck!