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[_pebbles]

Pebbles:

Not to get off the subject but your AV is delicious

Thank you, puno. Very sweet of you to say.

 

[_pebbles]

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Yeah, I need a reliable and trustworthy babysitter. That would help things immensely!

Then I could get out and have some much needed adult fun with him.

Pebbles, here are two suggestions.

1. Play out that fantasy with your husband. Have him meet you in a WAWA(best hoagies and coffee..mmmmm) and have him act out he part of a stranger then go to a motel.

2. Stop at a WAWA every day and hope for the best.

 

[finding_sum_fun]

I'm in a marriage that is pretty rewarding except for the sexual part; she just isn't as intersted as i am, not even close. Is there anyone else out there in a similar situation? I was thinking of having an online partner where there could be a release of sexual tension between times my wife is interested. Hopefully, there is a woman out there who might need the same release.

Maybe I should ask, do online relationships help relieve that tension? Can you have a relationship that is based more on sexual needs that emotional? Does it get in the way of the "real-life" relationship?

 

[voyergirl]

I'm in a marriage that is pretty rewarding except for the sexual part; she just isn't as intersted as i am, not even close. Is there anyone else out there in a similar situation? I was thinking of having an online partner where there could be a release of sexual tension between times my wife is interested. Hopefully, there is a woman out there who might need the same release.

Maybe I should ask, do online relationships help relieve that tension? Can you have a relationship that is based more on sexual needs that emotional? Does it get in the way of the "real-life" relationship?

i have a little experience with online relationships. they can be very rewarding depending on what you hope to gain from them. physically they give little because ultimately you are still pleasing yourself. emotionally they can work both ways. if you get too wrapped up in the person (which is EASY to do) it tugs at your heart strings because there is a large part of you that wants to BE WITH that person. you will at some point find yourself thinking about that person while being intimate with your spouse. on the other hand it can very rewarding because it rejuvenates your love for yourself. sounds corny but you feel good knowing you can turn someone else on so easily with just your words. it's a real turn on to know someone can fall inlove with you on a mental level that transcends physicality.

there are downfalls however if you're married. you might start to question the love for your current partner. this opens a can of worms you have to be strong enough to handle. most marriages cannot make it through a purely sexual affair lettle on on emotional hold combined with a physical longing for another person. and yes, you can fall in love over the internet.

i know a few who have fallen in love, divorced spouses and are married. i also know marriages that have ended and the one who had the on-line affair are still alone without anyone to hold at night. i also know i myself have had/still have online lovers whom i love and trust very much but i know i love what i have here in front of me with all my heart. he may not be my soul mate but he is my husband. love the one you're with kinda thing. besides i do not lack in the sex area at home and out of the bedroom he's a great guy, i am lucky. emotionally he just doesn't fill me, my online friend fills that void.

just remember in your mind that person online is flawless, in life we all have faults. we/they only show online what we want to be seen. reality can be very different from the online fantasy we create.


this being said - go to the chatrooms here and cyber your little life away lol. do it when you'll not get caught and have a towel handy so you can release your seed thinking about dirty mouthed girls like myself. because online i can be as dirty as i want or as you want

oh and a word of advice, watch out if you're on yahoo or msn or whatever chats because a lot of times they keep a record of your conversations on your computer. if your SO finds them he/she will not be too happy.


ps....i am cybering some guy right now. he's cute as hell and has a damn fine dick oh and cams, oh gosh i just love the invetion of webcams.

 

[finding_sum_fun]

Originally posted by voyergirl
this being said - go to the chatrooms here and cyber your little life away lol. do it when you'll not get caught and have a towel handy so you can release your seed thinking about dirty mouthed girls like myself. because online i can be as dirty as i want or as you want

oh and a word of advice, watch out if you're on yahoo or msn or whatever chats because a lot of times they keep a record of your conversations on your computer. if your SO finds them he/she will not be too happy.

thanks....things to think on

 

[mickyp123]

Very nicely answered voyergirl, honest and from the heart cyber is a wonderful tool and even better if kept where it is, cyber, and trust is a word that once broken is virtually impossible to repair

 

[Chi-Guy31]

I'm in a marriage that is pretty rewarding except for the sexual part; she just isn't as intersted as i am, not even close. Is there anyone else out there in a similar situation? I was thinking of having an online partner where there could be a release of sexual tension between times my wife is interested. Hopefully, there is a woman out there who might need the same release.

Maybe I should ask, do online relationships help relieve that tension? Can you have a relationship that is based more on sexual needs that emotional? Does it get in the way of the "real-life" relationship?

Hey there finding_sum, I am in a similar situation, you are not alone. I think I posted some of my other thoughts in this thread. My wife is a great person, but we have some major discrepancies in our sex life, not to mention some other aspects. She has no sex drive, no initiative, no curiousity about me or herself sexually so it does make it frustrating. Sex is often only once or twice a month, even with me asking and trying to seduce her, we only finally have sex when it's convenient for her, not becuase she actually is eager for it.

But we make great friends!

I have thought about seeking out a sexual relationship elsewhere, but I would go for the real thing instead of online, personally...

 

[finding_sum_fun]

Originally posted by Chi-Guy31
Hey there finding_sum, I am in a similar situation, you are not alone. I think I posted some of my other thoughts in this thread. My wife is a great person, but we have some major discrepancies in our sex life, not to mention some other aspects. She has no sex drive, no initiative, no curiousity about me or herself sexually so it does make it frustrating. Sex is often only once or twice a month, even with me asking and trying to seduce her, we only finally have sex when it's convenient for her, not becuase she actually is eager for it.

But we make great friends!

I have thought about seeking out a sexual relationship elsewhere, but I would go for the real thing instead of online, personally...

that sounds eerily familiar...we are apparently birds of a feather

the reason i'd like to be online is that beyond the sexual aspect and her disinterest, everything else is not bad...i am guessing that the distance might help keep the emotional aspect to a controlable one...i'm afraid of what a physical relationship would eventually do to my marriage...and yes, the online could cause problems too...just looking to try this way first

seems saner/safer in a biased kind of way

thanks CG

 

[mickyp123]

that sounds eerily familiar...we are apparently birds of a feather

the reason i'd like to be online is that beyond the sexual aspect and her disinterest, everything else is not bad...i am guessing that the distance might help keep the emotional aspect to a controlable one...i'm afraid of what a physical relationship would eventually do to my marriage...and yes, the online could cause problems too...just looking to try this way first

seems saner/safer in a biased kind of way

thanks CG

I think your both are doing the right thing trying everthing else first before straying

 

[finding_sum_fun]

Originally posted by mickyp123
I think your both are doing the right thing trying everthing else first before straying

thank you...straying, at least physically (and we can debate if online constitutes that as well, but not now) isn't an interest of mine...there are things i need and i think i can accomplish them online with the right person

 

[Chi-Guy31]

thank you...straying, at least physically (and we can debate if online constitutes that as well, but not now) isn't an interest of mine...there are things i need and i think i can accomplish them online with the right person

Yes, I have been trying everything before seeking elsewhere, including couples counseling and more communication. She hated the counseling and refuses to go back, while I continue going by myself. My wife just seems completely unable or unwilling to make an effort in the sex dept., thus my reasons for looking.

 

[propmaster69]

I feel your pain chi. It helps me to feel better knowing I'm not alone in these matters.

 

[winepleasures]

cybering

based off of what voyeurgirl said...i have a feeling she and i have cybered on on aol or yahoo...lol

is kidding, of course...

but everything she says is true...she seems to have been there...and knows the balance..

 

[finding_sum_fun]

Originally posted by propmaster69
I feel your pain chi. It helps me to feel better knowing I'm not alone in these matters.

i have to second that......and this thread has been helpful as well

*thanks pebbles*

 

[propmaster69]

Yeah thanks pebbles, for the post and the av.

 

[propmaster69]

Actually I have a question. What are ya'lls views on mutual masturbation if theres no contact made between the participants. Is it cheating?

 

[finding_sum_fun]

Originally posted by propmaster69
Actually I have a question. What are ya'lls views on mutual masturbation if theres no contact made between the participants. Is it cheating?

frankly, and it doesn't look good with my recent posts, but i believe it is, especially if its "live"

but obviously i believe in extenuating circumstances

 

[propmaster69]

ok

 

[tnh_99]

Chi-guy hit it right on

I didn't think it was possible for 2 people to be married to the same woman, but I do believe you are married to my wife Chi-guy LOL...... it sure is tough when they won't even try, even after romance, communicating, seducing, waiting and down right begging, what's a guy with even a modest sex drive to do??

 

[propmaster69]

Get some good lotion.

 

[tnh_99]

get lotion

oh trust me I have lots of lube and toys and videos hidden away lol, but not the same as a lustful woman getting off on you getting off making her get off lol

 

[finding_sum_fun]

Originally posted by propmaster69
Get some good lotion.

lmao



*now as reality sets in i'm going to the corner to pout*

lol

 

[propmaster69]

so true tnh , so true

 

[guff49]

just for fun

am here for fun..like to interact with others..as with most my wife knows..try to keep it to a dull roar...no hurt or offence intended...

 

[voyergirl]

these women need to step up to the plate. seriously!