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Same here - but reverse - I crave. The world continues to crave...different needs. I have been on a quest for a female sexual deviant - obviously havent had much luck to date...else wouldnt be here in the dead of night typing away..
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Same here - but reverse - I crave. The world continues to crave...different needs. I have been on a quest for a female sexual deviant - obviously havent had much luck to date...else wouldnt be here in the dead of night typing away..
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Micky, I think you are right on here. I think most people are hoping to broaden their own horizons with the hope that their S.O. will follow them on that journey. This stage can go on for weeks, months & even years. However this stage is based on having the faith that your S.O. will eventually change & the needs you have will be satisfied. Or maybe then you will find out you still need more???
During this time you try to find other ways to satisfy the needs you feel you want with out crossing the line of physical contact with others. You tell yourself that online flirting & communication is not cheating, but at the same time you do not share this activity with your S.O. Where the real problems starts is when you give up on the hope that your S.O. will change. At this point you may still have strong sexual or emotional needs that are not being met & you no longer feel your S.O. will ever meet them.
However at the same time you are still very much in love with this person & can’t see being with out them. For me if my wife put forth ¼ of the effort for our relationship, as she does for raising our children. I wouldn’t be here posting right now. At times I have lost the hope things will change, but I have never crossed the point of no return. I may have stepped on it a couple of times but never have crossed it. For now I accept that things may not change anytime soon, but I am not giving up it…
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Micky, I think you are right on here. I think most people are hoping to broaden their own horizons with the hope that their S.O. will follow them on that journey. This stage can go on for weeks, months & even years. However this stage is based on having the faith that your S.O. will eventually change & the needs you have will be satisfied. Or maybe then you will find out you still need more???
During this time you try to find other ways to satisfy the needs you feel you want with out crossing the line of physical contact with others. You tell yourself that online flirting & communication is not cheating, but at the same time you do not share this activity with your S.O. Where the real problems starts is when you give up on the hope that your S.O. will change. At this point you may still have strong sexual or emotional needs that are not being met & you no longer feel your S.O. will ever meet them.
However at the same time you are still very much in love with this person & can’t see being with out them. For me if my wife put forth ¼ of the effort for our relationship, as she does for raising our children. I wouldn’t be here posting right now. At times I have lost the hope things will change, but I have never crossed the point of no return. I may have stepped on it a couple of times but never have crossed it. For now I accept that things may not change anytime soon, but I am not giving up it…
Re: "hot wife"
I'm familiar with the cuckold thing. I believe men who are into this actually don't have the capacity to truly feel loved ... and that's not what I want from my man.
*edited* to say ty for the slave offer though
and yes, that's me.
I'm familiar with the cuckold thing. I believe men who are into this actually don't have the capacity to truly feel loved ... and that's not what I want from my man.
*edited* to say ty for the slave offer though
and yes, that's me.jerryid said:Pebbles,
Have you ever read fantasies about female domination through cuckolding ? I personally find it to be the most wildly erotic fantasy imaginable. Basically it's where the hot, sexy wife (like you) "trains" her husband to accept the fact that she has sex with other men, while he remains faithful. There's all kinds of twists and variations on the theme, as you might imagine.
Anyway if the idea turns you on, a good place to start would be to share your secret with your husband and see how he reacts. If he were like me it would drive him mad with desire, and you would find yourself with the most attentive and devoted husband you could ever imagine.
By the way, if that's your picture, I'd be your slave in a minute !
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Looki4fun I agree totally with what you say, the other day i grabbed the
bull by the horns and bought the SO a vibrator not knowing after 24yrs what her reaction would be (sad eh) but she didn't bite my head off and she hasn't thrown it so things could be lookin up.
Whilst i envy some of the relationships that appear to go on here i would not cheat on her or trade her for the world.
Thats me on a plate
bull by the horns and bought the SO a vibrator not knowing after 24yrs what her reaction would be (sad eh) but she didn't bite my head off and she hasn't thrown it so things could be lookin up.
Whilst i envy some of the relationships that appear to go on here i would not cheat on her or trade her for the world.
Thats me on a plate
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What a wonderful idea for a thread! I've very much enjoyed the remarks made by many of the contributors, and thought I'd add my bit.
My wife suffers from health problems that seriously dampen her sex drive, and lead us to have sex very infrequently. For years, I compensated by masturbating, mostly to magazines and internet porn. Then I discovered cybersex, and eventually phonesex and camsex. These have become the mainstays of my sexlife during the long dryspells between sexual encounters with my wife. She has some idea that I have an online sex life, but has said things that make me think she condones it, and does not want to know the details.
As a whole, I think all of this has been very healthy for our marriage. When it was just me and the porn, I ended up feeling lonely and bitter, and this turned into resentment against my wife and anger about my situation. Cyber and the rest, however, have changed things. They're no substitute for real sex, but they're also an improvement over solitary masturbation. I get to feel desirable and desired, and have gotten to explore things that I never knew I was intersted in. As a result, the resentment and bitterness I used to feel has faded away. I still wish that I didn't need to do any of this, and that I could just have a rich and satisfying sex life with the woman I very much love, but that's not the hand I've been dealt in life. So, in the end, my online sex life has probably saved my marriage.
I hope that, for most of you at least, it has been equally beneficial.
What a wonderful idea for a thread! I've very much enjoyed the remarks made by many of the contributors, and thought I'd add my bit.
My wife suffers from health problems that seriously dampen her sex drive, and lead us to have sex very infrequently. For years, I compensated by masturbating, mostly to magazines and internet porn. Then I discovered cybersex, and eventually phonesex and camsex. These have become the mainstays of my sexlife during the long dryspells between sexual encounters with my wife. She has some idea that I have an online sex life, but has said things that make me think she condones it, and does not want to know the details.
As a whole, I think all of this has been very healthy for our marriage. When it was just me and the porn, I ended up feeling lonely and bitter, and this turned into resentment against my wife and anger about my situation. Cyber and the rest, however, have changed things. They're no substitute for real sex, but they're also an improvement over solitary masturbation. I get to feel desirable and desired, and have gotten to explore things that I never knew I was intersted in. As a result, the resentment and bitterness I used to feel has faded away. I still wish that I didn't need to do any of this, and that I could just have a rich and satisfying sex life with the woman I very much love, but that's not the hand I've been dealt in life. So, in the end, my online sex life has probably saved my marriage.
I hope that, for most of you at least, it has been equally beneficial.
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Sorry Pebbles, temporary thread hijack.
Micky sounds like she handled the suprise vibrator purchase better than my wife. After much thinking & 4 trips to the XXX store. I finally got the nerve to buy one of the "Lover's Kit" you know one with a vibrator, cock rings & some lotions.
Then it took me 3 days to give it to her. Waited until the time was right & just asked her to be opened minded about what I was going to show her.
So we are laying in bed candles lit, plus I bought her flowers earlier in the day. Bring it out in a gift bag not sure what she thought was in the bag. But upon opening it, she was not happy. She thought I was a prevert & said she has no desire to use these things. So the box is inside another box (hidding) in the back of the closet where it has been for 4-5 years.
While I crashed & burn with operation get the toys in the bedroom. I am still trying to spice it up.
Micky sounds like she handled the suprise vibrator purchase better than my wife. After much thinking & 4 trips to the XXX store. I finally got the nerve to buy one of the "Lover's Kit" you know one with a vibrator, cock rings & some lotions.
Then it took me 3 days to give it to her. Waited until the time was right & just asked her to be opened minded about what I was going to show her.
So we are laying in bed candles lit, plus I bought her flowers earlier in the day. Bring it out in a gift bag not sure what she thought was in the bag. But upon opening it, she was not happy. She thought I was a prevert & said she has no desire to use these things. So the box is inside another box (hidding) in the back of the closet where it has been for 4-5 years.
While I crashed & burn with operation get the toys in the bedroom. I am still trying to spice it up.
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Reading my comments this is starting to look like a Dr Phil show instead of an adult messeage board.
So to change things up we need an inappropriate comment like "Peebles show us your titties, that hot boday is to nice to hide behind a bra & panties!! "
Reminds me of Texas Jam in '84, when I think it was Ted Nugent went accross the stage with a huge sign that said "Show me your Tits." As a 15 year old I was amazed at how many women did it. I was please to see that some things don't change, after going to my first rock concert in many years last month. Several of the bands help to encourage the crowd to let'em flop. Brought back a lot of good memories.
So to change things up we need an inappropriate comment like "Peebles show us your titties, that hot boday is to nice to hide behind a bra & panties!! "
Reminds me of Texas Jam in '84, when I think it was Ted Nugent went accross the stage with a huge sign that said "Show me your Tits." As a 15 year old I was amazed at how many women did it. I was please to see that some things don't change, after going to my first rock concert in many years last month. Several of the bands help to encourage the crowd to let'em flop. Brought back a lot of good memories.
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_pebbles said:
No, she makes it real clear without my asking that that would not be okay. And as I say, much of what she 'allows' she'd rather not, but isn't ready to lay down the law or risk a fight over it.
I think part of what she's really afraid of is her own temptations -- she has occassionally had friends let her know that they'd like to be more than friends, and she cuts them off pretty completely after that, which I think is a shame. She just says she got all of that out of her system when she was young.
Married since 18 and we both view and read lit stories....For us it works to have that communication and involvement. For some it wouldn't work. We don't sit over each others shoulders, but we do both have access and every so often say, ".....did you read that story on Lit?"
And all of our posted stories are 100% true and have us both in them as well. But that works for us, each person is different, telling or not telling your spouse should be thought out if this site is something you'd not want to give up......good luck pebbles...........M & R
OUR STORIES:
And all of our posted stories are 100% true and have us both in them as well. But that works for us, each person is different, telling or not telling your spouse should be thought out if this site is something you'd not want to give up......good luck pebbles...........M & R
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I know the feeling. The wife has no idea I'm here either. She was never much interested in "adventurous" behavior to start with. She's now handicapped, and there's been no intimacy for over 6 years now, so this place is an escape of sorts. Posting stories and reading the boards helps keep me (somewhat) sane...hardmanepr said:
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confessions of a married executive
Well, I think Im in the same boat as some other people here.....I love my wife, but she has issues with regards to sex....she has no idea I am here....she has no idea I have had phone sex and also have a webcam (which I really really love! *S*) for my laptop....
It is a constant source of frustration for me....I would like to tell, by like you Pebbles, Im a bit selfish, in possibly giving up all of this fun, and meeting all the wonderful people that I have met.....Im not willing to do that yet.....
And Im the last person most people would believe would be here....Im a somewhat well known business person in my community, and Im involved in several high-profile non-profit ventures......but...than there is this side of me....*S*
I have met a wonderfully sexy beautiful woman here on LIT, and had many many enjoyable times on the cam and phone with her! I love meeting other married and/or older women here (I am 35).....that are so free sexually, and open - something I simply don't have right now.....So, thank you women of LIT, you have no idea how happy you have made me....I look forward to meeting many more!!!
Well, I think Im in the same boat as some other people here.....I love my wife, but she has issues with regards to sex....she has no idea I am here....she has no idea I have had phone sex and also have a webcam (which I really really love! *S*) for my laptop....
It is a constant source of frustration for me....I would like to tell, by like you Pebbles, Im a bit selfish, in possibly giving up all of this fun, and meeting all the wonderful people that I have met.....Im not willing to do that yet.....
And Im the last person most people would believe would be here....Im a somewhat well known business person in my community, and Im involved in several high-profile non-profit ventures......but...than there is this side of me....*S*
I have met a wonderfully sexy beautiful woman here on LIT, and had many many enjoyable times on the cam and phone with her! I love meeting other married and/or older women here (I am 35).....that are so free sexually, and open - something I simply don't have right now.....So, thank you women of LIT, you have no idea how happy you have made me....I look forward to meeting many more!!!
Charming offer, looking .. but I'll pass. I'm no stranger to the camera, but I've only shown one special friend all of me. Not that I'm opposed to showing myself to the right guy ... I would just hope I'd be a wee bit more special than your average "show us your tits" kinda girl. They're giving it away for free over in Am Pics.
Oh, and if anyone has recommendations of even a *remotely* attractive man posting in Am Pics ... kindly provide link
Oh, and if anyone has recommendations of even a *remotely* attractive man posting in Am Pics ... kindly provide link
looking4fun said:Reading my comments this is starting to look like a Dr Phil show instead of an adult messeage board.
So to change things up we need an inappropriate comment like "Peebles show us your titties, that hot boday is to nice to hide behind a bra & panties!! "
Reminds me of Texas Jam in '84, when I think it was Ted Nugent went accross the stage with a huge sign that said "Show me your Tits." As a 15 year old I was amazed at how many women did it. I was please to see that some things don't change, after going to my first rock concert in many years last month. Several of the bands help to encourage the crowd to let'em flop. Brought back a lot of good memories.
Hi Pebbles
Well what do you know, I'm a lurker, apparently)
No My Girlfriend of 6 years does not know I'm here. We have a very good sex life and I love her to bits, but there are little dark corners of me that she can not relate to. So I'm here, who knows I may even post some stories.
As to your situation, here's my tuppence worth; as a climber I know, no matter how much protection I have in place, that if I have to stop and think twice about a particular move it is because I'm not ready for that move yet. I don't have to think about it or wonder or allow it to invade my thoughts. One day when I am ready I will only have to see the move once and I know I will be over the problem.
Take a different route Pebs, you're not ready.
Just a thought ;-)
I think this is a great subject for a thread, and it's really good to see how other people deal with this whole field.
thank you Pebbles
Well what do you know, I'm a lurker, apparently
)No My Girlfriend of 6 years does not know I'm here. We have a very good sex life and I love her to bits, but there are little dark corners of me that she can not relate to. So I'm here, who knows I may even post some stories.
As to your situation, here's my tuppence worth; as a climber I know, no matter how much protection I have in place, that if I have to stop and think twice about a particular move it is because I'm not ready for that move yet. I don't have to think about it or wonder or allow it to invade my thoughts. One day when I am ready I will only have to see the move once and I know I will be over the problem.
Take a different route Pebs, you're not ready.
Just a thought ;-)
I think this is a great subject for a thread, and it's really good to see how other people deal with this whole field.
thank you Pebbles
Maybe all it takes is that one person to tell you that you're not ready. I want to think I'm ready. That's not my only issue though. I need my man, the right man. Maybe he's been in front of me all along. I'm still unsure.
The other issue is how do I find my man? A married woman can't just approach an attractive man in the grocery store and say "hey, i'm married .. but why don't we have a long term affair." I know that offer would sound appealing to very few. I feel uneasy thinking I'd find my man on the internet .. but the upside is knowing, just *knowing* that you're in tune sexually and friendship wise before actually seeing each other in person.
The other issue is how do I find my man? A married woman can't just approach an attractive man in the grocery store and say "hey, i'm married .. but why don't we have a long term affair." I know that offer would sound appealing to very few. I feel uneasy thinking I'd find my man on the internet .. but the upside is knowing, just *knowing* that you're in tune sexually and friendship wise before actually seeing each other in person.
Waltheof said:Hi Pebbles
Well what do you know, I'm a lurker, apparently
No My Girlfriend of 6 years does not know I'm here. We have a very good sex life and I love her to bits, but there are little dark corners of me that she can not relate to. So I'm here, who knows I may even post some stories.
As to your situation, here's my tuppence worth; as a climber I know, no matter how much protection I have in place, that if I have to stop and think twice about a particular move it is because I'm not ready for that move yet. I don't have to think about it or wonder or allow it to invade my thoughts. One day when I am ready I will only have to see the move once and I know I will be over the problem.
Take a different route Pebs, you're not ready.
Just a thought ;-)
I think this is a great subject for a thread, and it's really good to see how other people deal with this whole field.
thank you Pebbles
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Works for me!
Why not try that Pebbles? LOL I guess that is a little different. You may not like that idea, but it might work. Actually, I prefer to be able to chat with someone a while, to find out that we have the same likes and dislikes...or would least be able to selectively and discreetly provide some comfort and pleasure from each others company ;-)
I wish I was 10 years younger...I go right by you on my way to the beach...I could offer you a ride down for the day to talk some about this...and who knows??? hehehe
But really now, if you want to talk with an older, but not that experienced to foget the feelings of guilt and excitment of something new, PM me anytime.
B
Why not try that Pebbles? LOL I guess that is a little different. You may not like that idea, but it might work. Actually, I prefer to be able to chat with someone a while, to find out that we have the same likes and dislikes...or would least be able to selectively and discreetly provide some comfort and pleasure from each others company ;-)
I wish I was 10 years younger...I go right by you on my way to the beach...I could offer you a ride down for the day to talk some about this...and who knows??? hehehe
But really now, if you want to talk with an older, but not that experienced to foget the feelings of guilt and excitment of something new, PM me anytime.
B
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Fascinating Thread...more questions
Fascinating thread all !!! Thanks to all who posted.
I don't want to hijack the thread in any way, but it seems like posters are going there anyway.
Some have already shared this, and I would like to know why people came here and why they are still here.
-Did your spouse not provide you sexual fulfillment?
-Does this site help your relationship?
-Does it hurt it/frustrate you sexually or emotionally?
-Are sometimes fantasy, hands and toys easier to deal then with all the good and bad baggage of a relationship?
-Did you search on-line because you are really horny, lonely, imaginative, sensual or whatever?
To answer my own questions, I am very satisfied with my relationship, sexually, emotionally, and family wise. Our on-line forays seem to enhance our sex and love life. And as I posted previously, we know each other goes on-line but we don't know the extent. We both started out of a voyeuristic curiosity, and it has enhanced my wife's sexual awareness, and satified some of my curiosity.
However, there are some things I won't tell my wife and she will not tell me. There is something erotic about keeping things to ourselves, and I think my wife likes the naughtiness. But in the back of my head I wonder how tempted I or she would get to cross the line of physical contact. It hasn't happened yet, but an interracial threesome just might be too tempting for me , and I know a few things that would tempt my wife -- kidding really, I think...
Sometimes I am thankful for STD's...
I'd be interested in other comments, and feel free to PM me anytime and for any reason, and I would be happy to reply. There are some things I don't want to post here in case my wife is lurking here .
Fascinating thread all !!! Thanks to all who posted.
I don't want to hijack the thread in any way, but it seems like posters are going there anyway.
Some have already shared this, and I would like to know why people came here and why they are still here.
-Did your spouse not provide you sexual fulfillment?
-Does this site help your relationship?
-Does it hurt it/frustrate you sexually or emotionally?
-Are sometimes fantasy, hands and toys easier to deal then with all the good and bad baggage of a relationship?
-Did you search on-line because you are really horny, lonely, imaginative, sensual or whatever?
To answer my own questions, I am very satisfied with my relationship, sexually, emotionally, and family wise. Our on-line forays seem to enhance our sex and love life. And as I posted previously, we know each other goes on-line but we don't know the extent. We both started out of a voyeuristic curiosity, and it has enhanced my wife's sexual awareness, and satified some of my curiosity.
However, there are some things I won't tell my wife and she will not tell me. There is something erotic about keeping things to ourselves, and I think my wife likes the naughtiness. But in the back of my head I wonder how tempted I or she would get to cross the line of physical contact. It hasn't happened yet, but an interracial threesome just might be too tempting for me , and I know a few things that would tempt my wife
-- kidding really, I think... Sometimes I am thankful for STD's...
I'd be interested in other comments, and feel free to PM me anytime and for any reason, and I would be happy to reply. There are some things I don't want to post here in case my wife is lurking here .
Re: Fascinating Thread...more questions
-Yes, he provides fulfillment.
-I think having been distracted by my previous friend was not a help to my marriage.
-It has only hurt emotionally.
-I find baggage interesting. It defines a person. I want to find a lover who will openly and willingly share it and visa versa.
-I search online because I need discretion. I've been too afraid to reveal these true feelings to anyone in my real life.
-Yes, he provides fulfillment.
-I think having been distracted by my previous friend was not a help to my marriage.
-It has only hurt emotionally.
-I find baggage interesting. It defines a person. I want to find a lover who will openly and willingly share it and visa versa.
-I search online because I need discretion. I've been too afraid to reveal these true feelings to anyone in my real life.
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I suppose this falls into the category of hijacking the thread
but
the issue is close, and related to a discussion I had with Pebbles earlier on this thread, about my wife.
Anyway, what I was starting to say is that I wanted to thank the two guys who shared their experiences with bringing home sex toys to their wives.
I strongly suspect my wife would react negatively. I have gone to a sex store a couple times, trying to get up the nerve to buy her a nice vibrator, but I always back out. As I told Pebbles, she has said that she is turned off by the idea of shared masturbation experiences. I can imagine myself hiding the toy in a box in a box for five years, too.
I do wonder, however, if it would go better to start with just a simple vibrator.
Let me know if I should be asking these questions on a new thread, but I love this one.
but
the issue is close, and related to a discussion I had with Pebbles earlier on this thread, about my wife.
Anyway, what I was starting to say is that I wanted to thank the two guys who shared their experiences with bringing home sex toys to their wives.
I strongly suspect my wife would react negatively. I have gone to a sex store a couple times, trying to get up the nerve to buy her a nice vibrator, but I always back out. As I told Pebbles, she has said that she is turned off by the idea of shared masturbation experiences. I can imagine myself hiding the toy in a box in a box for five years, too.
I do wonder, however, if it would go better to start with just a simple vibrator.
Let me know if I should be asking these questions on a new thread, but I love this one.
MrMike,
Hubby actually bought me my first toy years ago. He was sweating like a pig when he gave it to me. We had talked about introducing toys to our sex life, so it wasn't a complete surprise. We started with a plain white vibe. I think that's a good way to go .. instead of some enormous purple jelly vibe or something lol ... you can always step it up after that if she wants.
Hubby actually bought me my first toy years ago. He was sweating like a pig when he gave it to me. We had talked about introducing toys to our sex life, so it wasn't a complete surprise. We started with a plain white vibe. I think that's a good way to go .. instead of some enormous purple jelly vibe or something lol ... you can always step it up after that if she wants.
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