Married People: is your spouse still sexy to you?

[JennyCapricorn]

Had a moment today where looking across a college quad my limbic system went “That’s a hot dad!” Before my brain went “that’s my husband!”

How many of us still find our partners sexy (and how many years married?)

For me obviously yes and 25.5 years

 

[XXVIII]

Absolutely.
12 years for us, 16 years together.

 

[J_Bone]

Over 20 years, and yes, absolutely

 

[Fortunatehsband]

Very much so.

 

[MindYaBitness]

27+ years together, yes.

 

[Seokrocks]

20 years and absolutely yes.

 

[Handydan]

Yes 32 years later. Lots of physical changes for both of us over those years. But I still find her sexy as fuck!

 

[LustfulIntentions2]

She is. Sadly, that isn't a two way street, it seems.

 

[lacandy]

I’m 30+ years in and unfortunately no. Funny enough physically he’s attractive but there’s so much more that turns it for me…and given the state of our sex life he feels the same

 

[13Fantasies]

Yes.

Although she doesn't see it and that is one of the many things detracting from our situation.

18 years married...21 years together.

Hoping there is light on the other side of this dark tunnel

 

[CEOescape]

Things change within a two week period.. I was the last to know she was screwing around with my married best friend with his wife's knowledge and approval. When I asked her about it . the response was "it was none of your business" The next week we were talking in bed about situation. and she told me.." i love you so much honey but i don't enjoy sex WITH YOU"

I STILL FIND HER SEXY AS HELL BUT GOD HOW THINGS CHANGE.

 

[Kittenheels54]

Absolutely!
34 years married

 

[Kimlikes]

So very much

 

[JennyCapricorn]

It’s nice to see the majority of these still showing the spark after years of marriage!

(For those that aren’t I’m so sorry….)

 

[Tallulah82]

I was in the position as @lacandy a few years ago. I get it. Attraction goes far deeper than physical (imo) so regardless if he's still physically attractive, the behaviours in the relationship makes or breaks it.
Fortunately for me (us), we managed to work out way back from the brink of separation (I would have pushed for divorce immediately), and now he's back to being attractive to me. This said, it can and does fluctuate still because life isn't always sex and roses.
Edited to add: we've been married for nearly 26 years (anniversary next month). Together for 28.

 

[Onlyforyou100]

Absolutely yes. 55 and sexy. Married 13 years.

 

[ccs29745]

23 years and yes. She doesn't think she is, but I do. Together since 2001, married since 2003. There are times we get on each other's nerves, but we still love each other.

 

[daystate]

Fucking hell yes.
Absolutely.

 

[Sgts19]

Soon to be 47 years here. Still turns me on. Not one woman her age looks like she does, OCD working out vain as hell nails hair face. She did some modeling and I had some of her pics up in my office. Came home one day and they were my dogs pics instead. She told me she hated to see what she used to look like. Can't run away from age it'll catch up soon enough

Not one gray hair runs 5:30 every morning year round

 

[JennyCapricorn]

I was in the position as @lacandy a few years ago. I get it. Attraction goes far deeper than physical (imo) so regardless if he's still physically attractive, the behaviours in the relationship makes or breaks it.
Fortunately for me (us), we managed to work out way back from the brink of separation (I would have pushed for divorce immediately), and now he's back to being attractive to me. This said, it can and does fluctuate still because life isn't always sex and roses.
Edited to add: we've been married for nearly 26 years (anniversary next month). Together for 28.

The personality is so much of it. I’m happy you were able to get back to an even keel with him.

 

[Sappho_CGN]

Oh yes, he is

 

[saroo996]

It’s nice to see the majority of these still showing the spark after years of marriage!

(For those that aren’t I’m so sorry….)

Same like that just gave me tremendous hope for the future ,i went in expecting at least half to say no,I was grinning reading all of your posts

 

[Leigh81]

Yes, we recently celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary. Regular date nights, being adventurous & spontaneous

 

[ElvieG]

We've been together for 14 years, married for 13. He has his faults, and I have mine, but we make a great couple. We have kids, and we both work so we don't fuck as often as we'd like to, but whenever we get the opportunity we're as eager as ever.

 

[LizVegas79]

I still find hub's sexy AF (and so do lots of other women too, which often works out for me too since I'm bi and we like to play).

But since his mom died earlier this year, our sex life has gone to hell. I'm hopeful it will improve soon. (IT BETTER,! ) He probably just needs a smoking hot blonde model-type or sultry Asian gymnast to snap him out of his funk. (for the record, either of those remedies would probably improve my mood too lol) A little b12 might help too lol.

We celebrated (sort of) our 15th wedding anniversary earlier this year.