Married or Attached But Looking Thread

[HardAdam]

Looking for something here, casual, online. I am 30/m/Southern California. Will chat about just about anything. Wanting fun and good times, cam, voice or phone if we both feel comfortable and possible real meeting down the line.

No pressure, just want to chat!

 

[catwoman8484]

joining~~~ Ashley Madison got me laid but not much else worth reporting...

SIGH... lol

 

[spawnofdavey]

Looking for a casual online relationship, chatting, emailing, skype. I'm 39 with two kids, looking for a woman any age who'd like to have some fun and maybe swap pics.

 

[showmeyourtits]

Early 30 m from the east coast but travel all over the US all the time. Hit me up ladies.

 

[InsatiableDsire]

joining~~~ Ashley Madison got me laid but not much else worth reporting...

SIGH... lol

You and me both, sister

 

[cf23430]

You and me both, sister

hello sexy...hope all is well with you

 

[CuteBrat]

I haven't posted here in ages so I thought i'd say hi. I'm not married...but I like guys who are. 40 and over only please....and I like the kind of guy who knows how to completely take charge. I'm in SoCali but can't promise anything more than online play. But I don't rule anything out.

 

[Sniper_101]

57 y/o MWM, North Carolina, looking for mature lady for email friendship

 

[ClassInAtl]

You and me both, sister

Excuse the ignorance - but what else were you looking for there?

 

[Herzog11]

38 yo male here in Texas. Looking for a NSA fling with a witty and fun woman. PM me if interested and let's get the ball rolling.

 

[Tim0138]

41 year old married male, not happy in relationship and looking for some one to bring back the fire i have been missing in Alabama.

 

[krafty_one]

32 MWM in SoCal

Hey there!

32 MWM in mostly sexless marriage going to waste. Looking for SoCal F in similar position for chat or phone play to start. Please PM. Thanks!

 

[harryjohnson921]

Married and Looking for Discreet Sex with Older Woman

Hey,

Married and looking for discreet sex with married woman between the ages of 60 - 70 year old in Central Florida.

 

[TxCowboy]

34 Male

I'm 34 Male Houston looking for Caucasian and Hispanic Women 20-50. If you wear high heels it's a plus as well as tattoos/piercings but not required.

 

[woohoo77]

You know it makes sense

44/m Essex UK Married
Looking for some sexy chat and from there who knows where the yellow brick road leads, do you want to follow the yellow brick road with me?

 

[deepster]

34 married male from Michigan, getting it a handful of time a year! Not quite sure where to begin or what I am looking for.

 

[tnh_06]

You and me both, sister

Perhaps a silly question, but what were you hoping to get from Ashley Madison besides being laid?

 

[womaneater58]

55 and male

 

[InsatiableDsire]

Perhaps a silly question, but what were you hoping to get from Ashley Madison besides being laid?

Ah, the eternal disconnect between male and female, and perhaps my own naïveté. An "affair" to me, meant so much more than bumping uglies. As it turns out, 99% of the men felt differently.

 

[AlwaysInTrouble]

It seems to me that an affair, like most relationships, starts off in the physical plane, then progresses to something more.

 

[adventurousjuan]

Ah, the eternal disconnect between male and female, and perhaps my own naïveté. An "affair" to me, meant so much more than bumping uglies. As it turns out, 99% of the men felt differently.

I understand you, Insatiable. At this point it'd be nice to spend time with someone that doesn't treat me like a roommate they aren't too fond of.

 

[HighFly]

Ah, the eternal disconnect between male and female, and perhaps my own naïveté. An "affair" to me, meant so much more than bumping uglies. As it turns out, 99% of the men felt differently.

Insatiable, your post struck a chord with me regarding a past relationship. I was privileged to share a 5-year affair with a woman I met here on Lit. She had also spent some time on AM, and introduced me to that site.

The 'ah-ha' moment your comment spawned was this: Our relationship changed over time, but not in the way I could have predicted. At first, it was purely physical. Within 6 months, it had become powerful enough that we could express deep feelings for each other. The moment that emerged was unforgettable. But eventually we realized that we couldn't sustain that level of intensity.

From the beginning we knew neither would give up our marriages. As it became clear we were becoming emotionally entangled, it threatened our relationship. Neither of us could embrace our strong personal relationship and still hold it at bay.

Our solution, arrived at raggedly over a period of time, was to change our vocabulary and try once again for some distance emotionally. It was very difficult, and ultimately couldn't stand the test of time, but it bought us another couple of years.

So, what started out as NSA became anything but that. We tried for SSA (Some Strings Attached), which I still believe to be the best answer for those wishing to play outside of marriage. But it was hard to get there after Too Many Strings Attached, lol.

 

[InsatiableDsire]

Thanks for your input, HighFly. I do see from other threads that you are still looking--purely NSA this time?

 

[TalkToMeInSB]

Insatiable, your post struck a chord with me regarding a past relationship. I was privileged to share a 5-year affair with a woman I met here on Lit. She had also spent some time on AM, and introduced me to that site.

The 'ah-ha' moment your comment spawned was this: Our relationship changed over time, but not in the way I could have predicted. At first, it was purely physical. Within 6 months, it had become powerful enough that we could express deep feelings for each other. The moment that emerged was unforgettable. But eventually we realized that we couldn't sustain that level of intensity.

From the beginning we knew neither would give up our marriages. As it became clear we were becoming emotionally entangled, it threatened our relationship. Neither of us could embrace our strong personal relationship and still hold it at bay.

Our solution, arrived at raggedly over a period of time, was to change our vocabulary and try once again for some distance emotionally. It was very difficult, and ultimately couldn't stand the test of time, but it bought us another couple of years.

So, what started out as NSA became anything but that. We tried for SSA (Some Strings Attached), which I still believe to be the best answer for those wishing to play outside of marriage. But it was hard to get there after Too Many Strings Attached, lol.

Bingo! Continued physical intimacy will eventually lead to emotional intimacy. No matter how hard the two people try to keep it just physical. Especially if the passion is strong. Emotions will always creep in. For these types of affairs to last it requires a lot of communication and awareness that this will occur. And to deal with it sooner than later.

I was once told never to enter into an affair unless both people have the same thing to lose, so the two people have the same incentives to not expose the tryst.

We've all heard or know a situation where a marriage/family was broken because one of the spouses had a younger, single fuck buddy on the side who became too attached and outed the whole affair.

 

[HighFly]

Thanks for your input, HighFly. I do see from other threads that you are still looking--purely NSA this time?

No, I can't quite get my head around NSA, except for the rare moments of playing in a threesome with a committed couple. I think it would have to be SSA for me. Without respect, trust and a reason to care for the other, the sex would not seem much different than playing solo. That said, I doubt that I could say no to a shared look of desire in a quiet bar.